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TTC After a Loss 6 Months+
suntoto
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Can we all agree on something?
suntoto
member
Being here sucks, no matter how long we have been here or how much TTC time we have served. It isn't a competition. It shouldn't matter who has been here the longest or the shortest amount of time. ALL of our experiences suck and we have put in a lot of time trying to achieve our dream to only get heartbreaking results.
I have seen things on here and on the regular TTCAL board. Phishing for a BFP at 5 DPO and then calling it a CP will not give you street cred, just like saying you have been on here trying for XXX amount of years before TTCAL and then XXX amount of years after TTCAL so you should have better street cred then anyone else on here. WTF!!??? We have all had the universe kick the crap out of us and have done a lot of time for it, so lets just leave it at that, ok?
I will never understand why people have to compete in stupid pain games like that.
Forever buddy to Angelica; Natural Miscarriage Jan. 2008 @ 11 weeks; 2 years of BFFN's; DX: Unexplained IF (RE thinks IF is due to tubal issues); IUI #1 & 2= BFFN; IUI#3 = BFP, resulted in Cornual ectopic pregnancy; IUI #4 - 6 =BFFN; Our next endeavor... IVF. 1 grade AA embryo transferred on 4-23-2011 and 5 frosties. BFP Abby born 1/5/2012
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Re: Can we all agree on something?
I totally agree
DD #1 born 9/07 ** DD #2 born 7/11 ** Operation Take Back My Body has begun 10/11
Upcoming Races
Gobble Wobble 5K 11/24/11 - Abington, PA 29:40
Superbowl 10K 02/05/12 - Allentown, PA 54:28 PR!!!!
Broad Street 10 Mile Run 05/06/12 - Philadelphia, PA 1:30:44
Rock and Roll Half Marathon 09/16/12 - Philadelphia, PA
Philadelphia (Half?!?) Marathon 11/18/12 - Philadelphia, PA
MTHFR 2 copies of C677t mutation homozygous 2/2010
Baby A born via c-section 1/10/12 @38w3d
BFP #1 11/4/09 m/c 4w3d baby crab
BFP #2 12/4/09 m/c 9w3d baby lion
BFP #3 7/1/10 m/c 4w1d baby fish
BFP #4 5/8/11
BFP #5 8/17/12 10dpo beta 7
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
Mom to Teagan 4.11.07 and Cora 9.30.11
D&E @ 22w 9.30.09 CMV infection BFP 10.15.10 C/P 4w4d
BFP #1: 07/10/2009, Missed m/c, D&C 08/12/2009
BFP #2: 01/31/2010, Identical Twins died in utero due to TTTS, D&E 05/19/2010
BFP #3: 09/16/2010, natural m/c 9/21/2010
PCOS & Bocornuate Uterus Dx 1.4.2011
BFP #4: 01/11/2011
I know it wasn't intentional, but any time something like that is brought up, it can divide the board. I understand the feelings, believe me. It unintentionally shines the spotlight on those of us who have unfortunately been TTC since the dark ages - which is what no one wants- believe me! Many of the people I joined the board with are on #2 and on PgAL. It sucks-all round sucks-and I wouldn't wish this heartache on my worst enemy. I know no one wants to be here and I know the feeling of watching all your friends leave (it has happened to me more than once, and will probably continue to happen and there is nothing I can do about it). It's hard. But there are many people who are STILL here. Being an "oldie" isn't easy- just like getting older isn't easy.
Laura, I don't really think anyone was competing for the title of "longest TTCAL member". If you're referring to yesterdays post, I took the poster as saying that she's been here too long and when I responded, I responded with sarcasm expressing that I knew exactly how she felt. I truly don't believe that ANYONE read the post and thought, "Yes, I'm going to win this one".
As God as my witness, I can't believe that anyone would actually read yesterday's post and consider it a time for competition. There is nothing to be won, no position to be taken, there is just pain. An inexpressible amount of pain.
Yes, I agree, it sucks being here.
Miscarried December of 2008, Ectopic Pregnancy November of 2009
IVF #1 = BFN | IVF #2 = BFP: 9dp5dt (399), 14dp5dt (2489)
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" Philippians 4:6,7
8/08 BFP resulted in m/c
3/09 Polyp removed and dx MTHFR (both copies)
6 Clomid cycles, all BFN
5/09 IUI#1 with Clomid=BFN
6/09 IUI#2 with Clomid=BFN
8/09 IUI#3 with Clomid=BFN
IVF#1 = BFN
IVF#2 = BFN
IVF#3 ET 2 Grade A blasts 11/16/11
Beta #1: 485
Beta #2: 2,495
::hugs:: No one should feel bad. You didn't do anything!
I hate those posts (and I know the OP didn't mean it that way, so I'm not flaming you
) for two reasons - they make those ladies who have been around a while feel worse for still being here, and they make those ladies who haven't been around as long feel bad too, like they should feel less deserving or less in pain. No one wins from "competing" and it's not a competition. We're all in pain, it sucks for all of us 
Beautifully stated, Emily. This is why that post bothered me. It wasn't intentional, which I know, but it makes everyone feel bad.
Luna, I love you. I want the best for you!
I agree, hope I didn't hurt anyone with my answer to that thread. I never thought of it as a competition was more of a vent for me. This is the only place I feel I can vent and I'm understood. None of my irl friends or family understand.
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
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