Don't sweat the small stuff...if he doesn't put his dirty dish in the sink I just pick it up on my way to the kitchen instead of making a nagging comment, because I know that I will love him forever even if he never puts another dish in the sink and the nagging comments will chip away at our happiness.
Me: 32 H: 34 DS #1: 8/10/11, DS #2: 10/13/14 TTC #3 since October 2017
Otherwise, communication, respect, patience, don't sweat the small stuff. We've been through A LOT in our 2.5 of marriage and have already been tested beyond my wildest imagination. Without the aforementioned I wouldn't be married still.
Fuuck TTC - I'm moving on.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
Communication, Respect, Compromise, and have fun!!!
Realize that it's about you two first before anyone else- your marriage is a priority and a partnership. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks- as long as you two are happy and on the same page.
Communication is huge, intimacy and making time for each other is also very important. I also think making sure you take time for yourself to do things by yourself is important. If you don't take care of yourself, you won't be happy in a marriage or out of marriage. So take care of yourself and encourage your partner to take care of himself and do things that really contribute to his well being.
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Communication, laughter, date nights, sexy lingerie, silly emails while at work, being parents to our furbabies, giving each other space, putting each other first... the list goes on and on.
Waking up everyday thinking "what can I do to make our lives better today?" My postive energy usually rubs off on him. My negative energy can do the same.
We hold hands a lot. Touching each other like that means more to me than saying "I love you". By touch, you have a constant reminder of love, support, and comfort.
ETA: YGPM
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Communication, Respect, Compromise, and have fun!!!
Realize that it's about you two first before anyone else- your marriage is a priority and a partnership. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks- as long as you two are happy and on the same page.
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realizing that a healthy marriage has it's ups and downs. You won't always agree, you'll get annoyed at the other person, and things are not always easy. My parents taught me that one - they've had hard times throughout their 34 year marriage but they've always gotten through it together. Knowing that it can suck at times makes the good times that much better.
ETA - After reading through some of the things you gals listed, I want to add one more - knowing that every marriage is different and being okay with that!
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We put each other first, and always make our relationship first priority. We put emphasis on communication - both in the way we speak to each other, and remembering that neither of us are mind readers. If I don't tell him how I feel, he's not going to know. We also don't go to bed angry.
Of course Communication and a HOT sex life but also simple "Thank You's".
My DH is WONDERFUL and does so much around the house for us and even cooks from time to time but I noticed when I say 'Thank You' it really lightens him up,
Re: what is your secret...
- Always make time for each other.
- Communicate and LISTEN.
- Do small things for your spouse that mean the world to them.
- When you fight, remember why you fell in love in the first place. It will soften your voice and open your eyes more to why this fight means nothing.
- Keep your sex life alive and FUN!
go out on a date at least twice a month
steamy text messages keep it fun too...except when you accidentally send one to your mom
whooops!
Communicating
Me telling DH/showing him how much I respect him
That means the world to him!
BFP 3/17/10 Missed M/C Confirmed 4/12/10
MIF+Unexplained DX Feb 2012: Femara+Trigger+IUI=BFP
Me: 32 H: 34
DS #1: 8/10/11, DS #2: 10/13/14
TTC #3 since October 2017
Date nights! There is no better way IMO to keep you both aware of how lucky you are and why you shouldn't take one another for granted.
Communication. Make sure you listen as much as you talk.
Sharing everything, no matter how small it may seem.
Quality sex and cuddle time.
Learning how to make his favorite meal perfectly and using it as a tool-and-or weapon, when needed.
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
Haha - I'd agree with that!
Otherwise, communication, respect, patience, don't sweat the small stuff. We've been through A LOT in our 2.5 of marriage and have already been tested beyond my wildest imagination. Without the aforementioned I wouldn't be married still.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
i heard this during a father's speech at a wedding, and have found it useful in my life..
when arguing.. if you are wrong, admit it. if you are right, shut up. :-)
Hahahahaha! FTW
Communication, Respect, Compromise, and have fun!!!
Realize that it's about you two first before anyone else- your marriage is a priority and a partnership. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks- as long as you two are happy and on the same page.
Waking up everyday thinking "what can I do to make our lives better today?" My postive energy usually rubs off on him. My negative energy can do the same.
We hold hands a lot. Touching each other like that means more to me than saying "I love you". By touch, you have a constant reminder of love, support, and comfort.
ETA: YGPM
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realizing that a healthy marriage has it's ups and downs. You won't always agree, you'll get annoyed at the other person, and things are not always easy. My parents taught me that one - they've had hard times throughout their 34 year marriage but they've always gotten through it together. Knowing that it can suck at times makes the good times that much better.
ETA - After reading through some of the things you gals listed, I want to add one more - knowing that every marriage is different and being okay with that!
Don't compare your marriage to others'.
Laugh a lot and don't worry about the small things.
BFP 12/10/10 - DD1 8/16/11
BFP 10/29/13 - c/p 11/2/13
BFP 11/29/13 - DD2 7/18/14
BFP 3/20/18 - DS1 due 12/2/18
P/SAIF Welcome
Invisible Finish Line
3T's Traveling Ovary Blog
7DPO Progesterone: low. CD3 BW: normal, HSG: clear
DX: severe MFI (low all 3) and low T. Undergoing replacement therapy.
Of course Communication and a HOT sex life but also simple "Thank You's".
My DH is WONDERFUL and does so much around the house for us and even cooks from time to time but I noticed when I say 'Thank You' it really lightens him up,