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My 6yr old is a snob
So I just learned today that my 6 year old is a snob at school. She is impatient and intolerant of the other children. She ends up being mean to them and in result has very few friends. The K teacher said my DD has been working hard on getting batter at this, but I am at a loss as to help her with this issue.
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Re: My 6yr old is a snob
Doesn't necessarily sound like a "snob" to me. Did the teacher use that term?
What has her previous socialization been like?
My best advice is to role play a LOT. Get down on her level, play with her and pretend to be 6. Work on sharing toys. Work on basic social skills like introducing yourself, asking the name of others, considering other people's feelings, sharing, etc.
Then see if you can set up a few play dates with the goal of gently guiding her through some interactions with peers based on what you observe as you watch them play together.
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The teacher didnt use either term. Snob was my word. She has had tons of socialization since she went to a preschool for almost 2 years before kindergarten plus she goes to day care after school. she spends over 40 hours a week with other children.
She just has no patience for others and is annoyed by many of them.
If she was an adult she would be called a snob or b*tch
I think howleyshell gave you great advice with the role-playing.
I am also wondering:
Is your DD aware of how she's perceived by other kids? Do the daycare teachers notice the same thing? Have you ever gotten similar feedback from other adults prior to kindergarten? Have you noticed this about your DD in the past -- during playdates or at the park, etc.? Is your DD very bright?
If she's aware there's a problem and wants to change things, a combo of the role playing and some direct instruction might help.
If she's aware, but comfortable with how things are, I'd do nothing about it.
If she's not aware, I'd stick with the role-playing and handle it in a subtle way.
My son was having social problems at school this year and I didn't know what to do either. He is in 1st grade. I tried so hard to talk to him about making friends and losing friends. He liked to blame it on other kids. Basically his problem was more arguing with them. If he said he liked parties and another said parties are dumb, it would turn into an arguement. I had him join a social group at school, he goes every Monday at lunch, with other children as well and they talk about friends, and letting people down, being let down and what not. He seems to like it. I ask him what they talked about every Monday, and that also helps me to talk to him and bring it back up as well.