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:::ash.flea::: (or SAHM moms)
I just saw your post below, are you a SAHM permanently? I am for now and am so grateful since C is one tough cookie to get to nap, etc. but am worried that he is getting too attached to me and if I do go back to work or need to leave him with family or friends once in a while, he will not handle it well. Do you leave him with other people often or does he have any trouble when you aren't around?
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Re: :::ash.flea::: (or SAHM moms)
I am a WAHM, so I am with him pretty much 24/7. I have started leaving him with my Mom. She says it took a while to figure out how to get him to nap. Once he is really tired she will hold him (pretty tight since he fights it) and rock him. She says he normally takes about 10 mintues to fall asleep which is less than it takes me. DH cannot get him to take a nap without letting him cry for at least an hour first, but then again he refuses to do anything but lay him on the bed and lay with Marcos, no walking, no rocking, nothing.
I say it may take some time to get someone to put him down for naps but he will get the hang of it eventually. You just need to find someone that has the patience to try.
Corbin definitely is a major mama's boy and has rarely fallen asleep for anyone but me, and I handle all naps and bedtimes regularly. I'm just worried I will try leaving him with someone else and he will just lose it and won't sleep, which will make it that much worse. I know my mom has the patience to work with him, but he never really settles for her either when we are over there, and she isn't really available that much to watch him regularly to make it worth while.
I don't leave her during naptimes. It is easier for me, her, and the sitter. I don't want to scare any sitters away! When I leave her with sitters she is already sleeping or napping or she has just woken up and she is fed and I can only leave for 3 hours at a time. But this is kind of different because she has stopped taking a bottle recently.
I'm a SAHM, and for the 1st year, Lil Miss easily napped for Gmom. It was actually kinda annoying, lol. She also went down at nap time much, much easier for her Daddy than for me. Now, she will fights DH tooth and nail against her nap. With me she goes down easily now (most days.) Of course, with Gmom, she still is an angel. I can't explain it really. But I can say that Lil Miss was very used to Gmom & Dad being around and caring for her, and that plus a nice break from mom helped her relax.
If anyone else is watching her, like Ashley, she is either already asleep, or we have scheduled around nap time.
Caroline is with me all.the.time. For over a year, the only time she was left with someone other than DH or me, she was already in bed. DH gets to spend a lot of time with her on weekends so I can have some time to myself and she seems to nap pretty well with him.
Of course she's a lot older than C, but the first time she was left at a child care type setting was only a couple of months ago. She's been 3 or 4 times now and the first 2 times were easy. The ladies took her from me and she's such an AW, she went right to them. The last couple of times I think she realizes that I am going to leave her and she's been a bit upset. I usually go back down and check on her a little while later and she's fine. This is only for 2 hours at a time so naps aren't involved.
My mom has also watched recently during the day and she seems to nap okay for her. I think my mom still needs to work on the timing of her naps, but if she doesn't go down easily she gets her back up and waits for more sleep cues. It works.
I think we're in an entirely different ball game right now though because of the age difference. I don't know how she would have been this time last year.
Good luck!
For now the plan is to SAH until he goes to preschool. I have the same fears as you. Right now I'm pretty much the only one who can get G to nap or sleep. (Actually, right now even I can't...) DH tries but it takes him a lot longer and often he gives up and brings DS to me. My mom always misses his sleep cues and then doesn't have enough patience to get him to sleep when he's overtired so he ends up staying awake when she watches him usually. Like the others I try to plan it so that he's asleep when we leave him and we'll be back in time for his next nap. Now that he's refusing bottles and not sleeping predictably I don't really leave him with anyone.
I don't know what the answer is. He's definitely attached to me right now. I'm hoping that it will get easier to leave him with someone else as he gets older. At least when he's on solids I won't have to worry about him starving while I'm gone, so that should help.