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qme09
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Hm...SIDs Doesn't Exist?
qme09
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So, the newborns and blankets thread earlier reminded me of a conversation my Fiance's mom and I had recently. A little background info...My Fiance is her oldest child, and she has 7 other kids (ages 8 and under, including 3 year old triplets) with her husband, my fiance's step father.
When I quit smoking so that me and my fiance could start trying to get pregnant, she asked me why I thought that was necessary. I explained that I didn't want smoking to interfere with my fertility, nor did I want to smoke while I was pregnant, not even early on, ever ever ever. She told me about how she smoked her regular 3 packs a day with all of her kids. How the effect smoking has on a fetus are made up.
Then she says "You're probably going to be one of those breast-feeding, putting baby to sleep on its back people, aren't you??" I was confused, so I asked her what she meant by that, like why wouldn't I put my baby to sleep on her back? She said..."SIDS or whatever the fvck that is, isn't real. I put my kids on their stomachs because its better for them. I don't believe in that bullsh!t. My kids turned out just fine."
My question is, have you encountered anyone who has given you completely contraindicated advice, our outdated or disproven info, and claimed it as truth. What sort of wacky stuff have you heard? Was it an older person, or a younger person?
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Re: Hm...SIDs Doesn't Exist?
really?? SIDS doesnt exist? this woman sounds like a crackpot. but i really havent run into anyone telling me crazy sh!t like that.
Wow...SIDS doesn't exist? Have her read this page.
https://firefightersfamily-dhjc.blogspot.com/2010/05/i-miss-you-gabe.html
okay, the SIDs doesn't exits it laugh worthy. The smoking 3 packs a day is a big shame-on-you. but the sleeping on your back thing IS relatively new, so I could see why she would say that part.
I have thought before that it was funny how things go back and forth as far as raising your children the proper way goes.
back vs. side vs. tummy sleeping; they have all had their day
Breast feeding Vs formula feeding; it used to be said that only poor poeple breastfed
4 generations of women alive in our family right now and its SO funny to hear them talk about how they raised their kids and what was popular in their day.
The fact that this woman is still reproducing is frightening.
Older people have a tendancy to get defensive. They feel like the world is implying that they did it wrong just because we know better now.
I wouldn't take one single piece of advice from the grandma to be.
Um, that's stupid.
The sad thing is she does have a point-many moms of reflux babies are told to put baby to sleep on their stomach because it's safer for them. Statistically, the chances of baby dying because they're asleep on their stomach is pretty rare so in some cases the risk is worth the reward. However, to say that SIDS is made up is pretty stupid.
Oh I've heard plenty. I think my favorite was from my MIL telling me if DD got a fever I should dunk her in an ice bath.
As far as SIDS goes, it's totally true. Sometimes babies just die suddenly. They sat now that it's safer to put them on their backs so they don't smother themselves, but there are risks with that too, like having them throw up and choke on it since it stays in their throat.
Since 2 weeks old I've put DD to sleep on her side all the time. Kinda the best of both worlds I guess. There were several times that I would walk in and find she had spit up, and one time she actually did start choking on her back.
I agree with this completely. I also cannot believe this woman would deny that inhaling poison can't hurt a developing fetus. Even my own mother who smoked with me knows she needs to wear a clean shirt to even hold the baby because I don't want the smoke around her and she completely agrees and understands why. This woman sounds like a peach!
Francesca Pearl is here! Josephine Hope is almost 3!
This is my MIL to a 't' !
I love her and all, but she got pregnant for the first time at 16 so kept on partying, smoking and drinking and "her kids came out fine".
Annoying as it is, it's funny to compare the mentalities of different generations towards pregnancies.
My MIL, though I love her dearly, got weird about the whole quilt and bumper thing. She saw the nursery and asked why I hung the quilt on the wall and why were the crib bumpers in the closet. I told her that I didn't want anything other than the baby in the crib. She went on to explain how DH would scoot up against the side of the crib from day 1 and the bumper stopped him from hurting his little head. She couldn't fathom having LO up against the rail. Well, I'd rather have that, than LO become smothered by the bumper because she was too little to move away.
She was also concerned about the room temperature and LO not being warm enough without the quilt. I showed her my endless supply of swaddlers and sleep sacks...that seemed to calm her a bit.
My MIL regularly questions my decision to BF because my "oh-so-perfect" SIL chose to use formula. I'm reminded of how her kids are fine, even though SIL had to go through multiple formulas with both kids, and the one required corn syrup and Mylicon drops in every bottle...hmm, cus that's normal!
Granted, there is a lot more to this story and I feel that I'm always being compared to SIL who can do no wrong! Ugh!!!
My stepdad once said "In my day we didn't do any of that..." and I pointed out that there is a reason that life expectancy was also alot younger back then.
I am pretty sure no one would have the gull to say SIDS doesn't exist to me, or wouldn't get very far since my sister died of SIDS, you may want to tell her to be very careful who she says that to.
Same here....