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I need sleep help please!

ash.fleaash.flea
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Lately Gavin absolutely refuses to go to sleep at night unless I walk around and bounce him.  He never used to be like this.  I used to always put him in bed awake and he would go to sleep on his own.  But then a few weeks ago he stopped sleeping so well, which I first thought was the 3 month growth spurt but now I'm thinking 4 month wakeful?  I don't know.  All I know is he used to only wake up once/night and now it's at least 3-4 times.  But the waking up isn't nearly as bad as how hard it is to get him back to sleep.  The second you try to put him in bed he screams until you pick him back up.  I've tried to soothe him without picking him up but there's no way.  He just screams.  As soon as I pick him up he calms down, but the same thing happens over and over again.  The only way to get him to bed is to bounce him until he is OUT which usually takes 20+ minutes.  Then half the time he wakes up again a few minutes later and we have to start all over.  This kid is HEAVY!  My back is killing me and I just can't do it anymore.

Any ideas?  Sympathies?  Someone please tell me this is just a phase!  I don't know if I have the heart for CIO but I don't know what else to do at this point.  Our routine is the same as it always has been.  I try to catch him before he gets sleepy so he's not overtired.  He won't nurse to sleep anymore.  I'm just at a loss and I'm pulling my hair out. Sad

I read all of the sleep books and thought I had this down.  Not so much!

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  • lindeenweddinglindeenwedding member
    Yep, sounds like the 4 month wakeful. Hate to say it but Alexa's sleep never went back to how it was before that... I am sure it will just be a phase for Gavin.
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  • Alexandra&JohnAlexandra&John member
    I'm just it's just a face. I used to put Angelica in her crib awake at 8pm and I used to love it and brag about it.  And then one day, she started screaming.  It lasted about 2 weeks, but boy, were those 2 loooong weeks.
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  • dani_girl08dani_girl08
    This is EXACTLY what we are going through. We were the same way--put down drowsy, 1 night waking. I have been wondering if it's the 4 month wakeful too, although Reese won't be 4 months until Wednesday. I guess she's just advanced. :) ETA: Reese has also gone from being a very good napper to only taking a couple 30 min naps a day. Has Gavin changed his daytime routine as well?
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  • ash.fleaash.flea

    imagedani_girl08:
    This is EXACTLY what we are going through. We were the same way--put down drowsy, 1 night waking. I have been wondering if it's the 4 month wakeful too, although Reese won't be 4 months until Wednesday. I guess she's just advanced. :) ETA: Reese has also gone from being a very good napper to only taking a couple 30 min naps a day. Has Gavin changed his daytime routine as well?

    Sadly G has never been a very good napper.  He takes 2-3 naps per day, usually 30 minutes each.

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  • dani_girl08dani_girl08
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    Sadly G has never been a very good napper.  He takes 2-3 naps per day, usually 30 minutes each.
    Maybe that will change once this phase is over!
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  • DreamsBride411DreamsBride411 member

    I just wanted to say, Ashley, I feel your pain...  I'm sorry G is having such a hard sleep time right now and I really hope for your sake it goes back to normal.  Sleep deprevation is absolutely the worst.

    I wish I could help, but clearly, I can't...  Mari's sleep hasn't been good for months.

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  • Jennifer43Jennifer43
    Oh I'm so sorry Ashley! i feel your pain, literally, about carrying around a heavy boy! C still goes down great at night, but he has been fighting naps like crazy lately, and still only sleeping 30-40 minutes at a time. I think I missed the memo on the whole "4 month wakeful" thing. Hopefully G will start sleeping better soon.
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  • BlondeBeachBride08BlondeBeachBride08

    I'm in the same boat and I'm kind of going nuts. She went from having a 5-6 hour stretch to getting up every 2 hours and needing help going back down. The easiest way to get her back down is cuddling her in bed so we've been doing a lot of cosleeping but I have a feeling that may come back to bite us later when we want to put her in her crib. ::sigh:: 

    it's not just G! 

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  • ash.fleaash.flea

    Gavin woke up again soon after I posted this and DH took him.  He ended up falling asleep on DH's chest on the couch and they've both been sleeping like that ever since.  I'm going to leave them there and go to bed.  Maybe he'll STTN! (Ha!)

    I'm sorry to see that so many of you are going through this.  Hopefully the ND babies get it together soon!  I don't know how you ladies who work do it.  I feel like a zombie most of the time.  Those of you who can raise a newborn and work full time are my heroes!!

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  • MrsBlayneMrsBlayne member
    Have you read Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child?  I finally came to the conclusion that all those night wakings were social - she just wanted to hang out.  We ended up doing CIO (which I swore I would never do) and honestly, it helped a lot.  I can totally understand why you would hesitate to do it.  The first night she cried (off and on) for 65 min, the second night was 45 (again off and on), and it has been very little crying since.  I would recommend checking out the book even if you don't think you can CIO, because they have other good suggestions too.  Good luck, believe me I understand sleep deprivation.
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  • zsmamazsmama member
    Could he be getting a cold or something?  Zach has always been a pretty good sleeper unless he isn't feeling well, then he tends to get us up in the night.  Or maybe it could be teething pain?  Is he showing signs of that? 
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  • ash.fleaash.flea

    imagezsmama:
    Could he be getting a cold or something?  Zach has always been a pretty good sleeper unless he isn't feeling well, then he tends to get us up in the night.  Or maybe it could be teething pain?  Is he showing signs of that? 

    I think he might be teething.  We have an appointment today to get his 4mo shots so I'm going to talk to pedi then.  Last night he was up all night.  He wasn't fussy at all -- he just wanted to talk/play.  He only cried when we tried to put him in bed.  DH and I took shifts and neither of us got any sleep.  Gavin is happy happy today like it's not even bothering him that he didn't get any sleep.  Maybe he'll sleep after his shots...

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