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I think I'm pregnant....How to tell SS

Keri6789Keri6789 member
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So....I'm late for my period and I think I'm pregnant.  I've taken tests and they are negtive and when I've spoken to my doctor she told me to wait a little bit because my body might not be making enough of the hormone to pick up on the test....So its been an exciting and stressful time around here.  We are hoping for a BFP!!!  I have all the symptoms but no positive yet.  So I would love all your BFP good thoughts!

 Anyways here is my issue....lets say that I'm pregnant Big Smile  How do we tell SS (6) that I'm pregnant?  I baby sit my neice sometimes and when DH would hold her SS would run to his room and cry and say that DH loves the baby more than him and he has also done that about me.  If we are pregnant, how to do we tell him about the baby?  BM is going to go completely nuts like she did when we got married so we are worried about that too.  From what SS has said BM told him that when we got married DH wouldn't want him anymore and that if she ever gets remarried DH won't be his Dad anymore. 

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Re: I think I'm pregnant....How to tell SS

  • leslie_ina_dresleslie_ina_dres
    I'd wait as long as possible honestly.  You want to be sure that everything is okay.. Oh and that you are actually pregnant first.
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  • Bride7-14-07Bride7-14-07 member
    My SS is 6 and he goes through little phases. There will be days when he says he wants a baby sister/brother and then there are days when he wants to be the only child. We just got our BFP, but we are going to wait a bit to tell him. DH and I are going to get one of those shirts that say "Im going to be a big brother" GL with everything.
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  • SUwifeSUwife

    Well our SD is long distance (and was just turning 6) so we didn't tell her until I was 20 weeks along, and I was showing then!  If she was around we would have told her sooner because I was so sick it would've gotten hard to explain why I was always sick.

    It was good to wait to tell her though because she is very excited, and I can't imagine a 6 year old holding that excitement for like 30 weeks.  She's so impatient now, and pissed that she can't come meet him until Christmas time.

    I would wait as long as you can to tell SS, simply because it's a long time to wait for something for a child.  I bet he won't be so bad when you tell him.  But I don't even think it's a split house thing.  I still remember when I was 3 how excited I was at the prospect of getting a sister, but when he came out a boy I was one pissed off girl and wanted nothing to do with him.

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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member

    I would start talking to him now about how you and DH "might" have a baby sometime.  Keep talking to him about his concerns.  I would start this ASAP so you can have time to get him used to the idea.

    I would wait until after your first trimester is finished and you are sure you'll have a healthy pregnancy before telling him you are actually pregnant.

    We told our SSs when we had the ultrasound pics to show them, but we talked to them for about a year ahead of time that they might get a baby brother or sister.

    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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  • KyahKyah member

    I would wait until after your first trimester to say anything. And even then, you could wait a little longer.

     

    We told SS, who was 6 at the time, that we were having a baby after I had a few ultrasound pictures. I was about 4 months along. I also have a book about pregnancy and fetal development that we sat down together with him and showed him the different stages of the babys development. He really enjoyed looking through the book. The book is called "A Child is Born" its a classic.

    https://www.amazon.com/Child-Born-Lennart-Nilsson/dp/0385337558

     

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  • Mrs.SesaMrs.Sesa

    First find out whether you are pregnant or not. If you are...wait until after your 1st trimester.


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  • MrsHeidiRMrsHeidiR

    We did a lot of talking about it as a future probability before I got pregnant. My kids were still totally shocked when we told them. When we did, we gave them big brother t-shirts which was really fun. They are a bit older though, and the jealousy factor is not an issue for us. My biggest advice would be to start the conversations about the possibilities asap. I would wait as long as you can to tell them you are actually pregnant.  I tried to wait until almost the end of my first trimester, but unfortunately, since this is my third I was OBVIOUSLY pregnant by about 9/10 weeks and had to tell them.  I didn't want them finding out from someone else.  But I also more importantly didn't think that even at their age, they would understand if something happened and felt it would be better to wait.....but everyone has a different opinion about that.

    Good luck!!

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