am i allowed to change my mind?

stephanieroyer · November 2010

DH and i had discussed children, and what we wanted and how many we wanted a long time ago..(been together almost 11 years) and we decided upon 2 kids,and our furbaby chevy. So now that we have had our second DH is getting a vasectomy. This terrifies me to no end. Deep down i know im done..and he's 100% done but im kinda in panic mode. What if i change my mind in 3 years.. 4 years..5 years even.
Ive said this to DH and he said he knows he's done and wont have that feeling in the future. He says 2 kids is perfect, we can afford for me to SAH, afford to spoil them, have a saving account, go on vacation etc etc.. Three kids means a bigger vehicle (because we take the dog everywhere too) another room in a house.. another mouth to feed and we wouldnt be as financially comfortable as we are. I get all this.. and i know he is right, but again..im in panic mode. am i allowed to change my mind lol??? anyone else going through this?

brownie123 · November 2010

I hear ya. DH is done at 2 for the same reasons you listed above; I think I'm done at 2, but what if? DH doesn't want a vasectomy though; but I think I would panic if he was to get one too. I'm going to get an IUD so neither of us have to worry about it (birth control), but the option to have a baby in the future is still there. Even though we probably won't have any more.

stephanieroyer · November 2010

See i mentioned an IUD.. he said he's definatly done and there is no point

I think like i said im just scared because its so final.. i mean i pushed him towards the vasectomy. Then when he came home and told me he made an appt i was like "omg.. really!?!" haha.. my fault lol

jazzcrawford · November 2010

My husband and I are going thru the same thing. My son is 15 and has been an only child until now. I'm not sure if I want my daught to to grow up as an only child. I would love for her to have a sibling, I see the difference this baby has made with my 15 y/o.

on the bright side, Vasectomies are easy to reverse.

* I know there isn't a soul that wants to count on a reversal as a solution to this problem, I'm just being goofy!!