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hard to make future plans (~6 mos in advance)

hiltyn78hiltyn78 member
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I realize I'm very very lucky to already have one fantastic sweet DD but due to how long it took us to sell our house, my husband switching jobs, and TTC is taking longer than expected- our future plans are in limbo & I'm frustrated. 

I really wanted kiddos about 3 years apart.  Well, DD is 3 years 4 mos old and no other sibling yet.  We were invited to a wedding in Mexico in February and we declined b/c we thought for sure I'd be pregnant.  Now I'm torn because the bride is having a bachelorette party in January and at this point, I have no idea if i'll be PG.  Honestly, I really don't think I'd want to go if i was pregnant. This girl is WILD & all her friends are too : )  They're fun but I'd for sure be the only sober one. 

So, what would you do?  Has this happened to some of you?  I am fairly early in the ttc process (4th cycle-yes I'm temping, charting, OPK's) but we were very lucky with my DD and I didn't anticipate this at all.  My job, however, is ultra stressful lately and is giving me a slow painful death which I KNOW is probably my #1 source of problems with TTC.  <sigh>  If only my plan A to win the lottery would just pan out for me, that would eliminate a huge source of stress!  Then I'd just QUIT!!!!!!

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Re: hard to make future plans (~6 mos in advance)

  • reinstonereinstone member
    I'm of the mindset of not putting my life on hold for TTC and not putting TTC on hold for other things in life.  So what if you'll be PG at her bachelorette/wedding?  Plenty of PG women still participate in those events :)
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  • eesomeeesome member
    Don't wait to TTGP because there will be an event in the future. You never know how long it may take to get pregnant, so I would just continue trying. 
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  • youngin12youngin12 member

    imagereinstone:
    I'm of the mindset of not putting my life on hold for TTC and not putting TTC on hold for other things in life.  So what if you'll be PG at her bachelorette/wedding?  Plenty of PG women still participate in those events :)

    This exactly. Yes, getting pregnant is my number 1 priority but I am not putting everything else on hold for the what if's.

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  • brocklibrockli
    I try not to let it change my life.  Worst case scenario you agree to go to the bachelorette party and end up with BFP politely back out of the plans.  I'm sure she'd be disappointed but once she gets out with a wild group of ladies she'll be over it!
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  • boymamacoboymamaco member

    imagebrockli:
    I try not to let it change my life.  Worst case scenario you agree to go to the bachelorette party and end up with BFP politely back out of the plans.  I'm sure she'd be disappointed but once she gets out with a wild group of ladies she'll be over it!

    This. Don't put your life on hold for what might be.

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  • MrsT0522MrsT0522 member
    imageyoungin12:

    imagereinstone:
    I'm of the mindset of not putting my life on hold for TTC and not putting TTC on hold for other things in life.  So what if you'll be PG at her bachelorette/wedding?  Plenty of PG women still participate in those events :)

    This exactly. Yes, getting pregnant is my number 1 priority but I am not putting everything else on hold for the what if's.

    All of this. 

    I know it's hard to do, but you can't put your life on hold because of what might happen in the future. I'm guilty of it, and I'm sure a lot of other ladies on here are too, but you have to continue to try to conceive as well as enjoy life or you will go NUTS. 

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  • Mrs.GregMrs.Greg member

    DH and I have been TTC #1 since March.  We "sat out" two cycles in a row over the summer because if I had gotten PG, the timing would have been difficult because of some things we have going on next year.  It's half way through November and now I'm really regretting sitting those two cycles out.  It took us nearly 2 years to conceive DD and we suffered 2 m/c during the last 4 months of TTC.  I was always under the impression that "babies made more babies", as in it would be easier to get PG with #2.  So far, for us anyway, this is not the case.

    I guess what I'm saying is - don't put your life on hold because you are trying to get PG.  Maybe you'll be PG by the time the bachelorette party comes around but what if you're not?  Don't let your life pass you by JUST IN CASE you get pregnant.  I wanted to make a career change soon after we started TCC #1, a job openned up that I wanted to apply for, but I was so afraid I'd get PG soon and my maternity leave would be an issue.  I regret that decision every day when I'm at work. 

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  • Sarah053009Sarah053009 member
    I always want to plan everything out too and I realize it generally leads to unnecessary stress. with TTC I think we just have to let things happen. it will all work out the way it is supposed to. you are doing all you can to understand your cycle and know where you are at. try to relax!
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    imageyoungin12:

    imagereinstone:
    I'm of the mindset of not putting my life on hold for TTC and not putting TTC on hold for other things in life.  So what if you'll be PG at her bachelorette/wedding?  Plenty of PG women still participate in those events :)

    This exactly. Yes, getting pregnant is my number 1 priority but I am not putting everything else on hold for the what if's.

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