I can't keep it in anymore...

Rawr08 · November 2010

My ex-husband had a baby with his gf in May. They had been together just a year when the baby was born. (Like that matters right?!) I hate him even more than I did before. What if it is me who can't make the babies? Here he is already having a baby and I am still trying. Why-oh-why does this sh!t happen?

DH doesn't understand why it upsets me so much. It's not that ex-husband has moved on - it's the scary thought that it was me who lost the baby. That he obviously can make healthy babies - and I am still child-less. It took 9 months for ex-husband and I to get pregnant - they weren't even together that long when she got KU! It hurts me to think that is what ex-husband and his family are thinking (I was the faulty one). I don't know why that hurts me, it just does.

I have been feeling like this since I found out they were going to have a baby - but nobody understood. So here I am venting. I sent them a baby gift - it was sent back to me. I feel foolish and crazy.

:::Vent over:::

cherylanddoug · November 2010

((HUGS))

kathymarie · November 2010

I'm sorry. I know what you're saying. ((hugs)).

LilMaggs · November 2010

*hugs* That is a really rough situation. I'm so sorry

jamilynn9 · November 2010

Ouch that the gift was sent back. Apparently his new gf has issues, huh? That was very big of you to send one though.

As far as your feelings, normal, normal, normal. It's like the bittersweet feeling when you hear someone else is pregnant, but minus the sweet part. You're not foolish and not crazy.

AGFaso · November 2010

Fvck you!!! THey sent it back!!?!? WTF!?!? Oh I'd be so pissed. You were "trying" to "be happy" for them! (((( hugs ))))

BabyTrippin · November 2010

AGFaso:
Fvck you!!! THey sent it back!!?!? WTF!?!? Oh I'd be so pissed. You were "trying" to "be happy" for them! (((( hugs ))))

This! They are extra large douchnozzles covered with clumpy green discharge that smells like limburger cheese and rotten salmon.

(((hugs)))

jenrdh01 · November 2010

My ex-boyfriend (he had the ring but thankfully never asked..but I can only say that now) and I always talked about having kids. I told him that I may have problems and he kept up with how he wanted all boys and if it were a girl it just wouldn't do! Well, needless to say we are not together but I saw that He and the girl he was with right after me had a baby boy. And she has a couple boys to a previous relationship.

I felt for a while that I needed to catch up to him and prove I could do it. But it doesn't matter. He's not my life and my child...girl or boy...will be loved so much.

It's not the exact same story...but I do understand. I'm sorry you feel this way. ((hugs))

kathymarie · November 2010

Um, I just saw that they sent the present back.

FVCK THOSE FVCKING losers! You are better than them anyway.

PrincessDi80 · November 2010

((HUGS))

luckymrs. · November 2010

I'm so sorry. I can see where you'd think that, but please don't worry. Like PPs said, you are MUCH better than them. I cannot believe they sent the gift back to you! What a-holes.

You'll have your take-home baby, and your baby will be MUCH happier than the child that has to live with those two. Ugh!

W111MRP · November 2010

AGFaso:
Fvck you!!! THey sent it back!!?!? WTF!?!? Oh I'd be so pissed. You were "trying" to "be happy" for them! (((( hugs ))))

This... except I don't get the first FU unless that is like "Shut Up!/ No way" I cannot believe they sent it back- what douch*s!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

jockie der · November 2010

I'm sorry, that really does suck. I have to remind myself all the time that if there truly is something keeping me from achieving a healthy pregnancy, there's always the possibility of being treated.

jertie · November 2010

They what???? They sent the gift back?!?! GF definitely has issues. It was a baby gift - as in "a gift for the baby". Not a gift for the GF. You should not feel foolish at all. You did something very nice, you were the bigger person, you swallowed your pride and wished them well.

I can understand why you're upset, but I think you are doing very well to be rid of them if they really are thinking that you're "faulty" (jerks!). ((HUGS))

TheGregory's07 · November 2010

I can't imagine how tough that is. Girl I totally understand how you are feeling.

JayandTay09 · November 2010

I understand...I am so sorry you are feeling this way...(((((hugs)))))

inlovewithB · November 2010

I am sorry. I can't imagine how hard that would be! They sent the gift back?? WTF!

EclairAngst · November 2010

Hot damn they sound like sh!t-tastic people! Sorry for the extra frustrations they're adding to your life ((HUGS))

Rawr08 · November 2010

inlovewithB:
I am sorry. I can't imagine how hard that would be! They sent the gift back?? WTF!

They didn't just send it back - EXMIL's husband and EXSIL drove by my house and dropped it off on the porch with a nice little note explaining they are a bunch of D-Bags! Oh and EXMIL & Her husband live in WI - they were out here (I'm assuming) for the birth.

FmrAFBrat · November 2010

((HUGS)). I hate that all the jerks have no problem spawning themselves. You are better then they are. Keep your head up.

Izabella22 · November 2010

*HUGS* Awh hon, I know what you mean. DH has a son from his previous marriage with a drug addicted ho bag and it definitely is a source of tension and frustration for me, why could he have a baby with her and not with me? I takes care of my body and want it so bad... there is no good reason. I feel your pain. It sucks. Its just not right.

ColleenS629 · November 2010

Hugs!

rock-elle · November 2010

I am so sorry hon, the whole thing sucks and on top of it all they sent your gift back...sheesh.

VeilSdeGTO · November 2010

I'm sorry.((hugs))

In all honesty, I was with an ex and got pg twice in my early 20's. I lost one really early, and another early in my 2nd tri. I have never told anybody irl, except for the ex's family (even my mom and DH doesn't know). He now has two sons with his gf (but she is a f*cking FH with 4 other kids by 4 other guys).

Now, after three losses with DH, I am definitely feeling like it is me who is the one that is damaged.

You are a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for. There is no way I would have been able to send them a baby gift (and they're a$sholes for sending it back).

My only comfort is knowing that WHEN I have a baby, that child will be welcomed into this world in the most loving and stable relationship that DH and I can provide. I will know that this child was planned for, wanted, and loved long before they were even conceived.

I know it will happen for you.

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