Let's talk about sex

Shelleybell · November 2010

I have been so afraid of having sex with dh until i hear that hb. i know sex will not have any affect on the baby but i am more afraid of spotting after and causing myself undue stress. i know i am nuts but is anyone else not doing the deed?

BoogieMonster629 · November 2010

I was scared too, but the other day DH really wanted to so I gave in (glad I did btw) but right after I ran to the bathroom to make sure there was no signs of spotting or whatever LOL

Shelleybell · November 2010

me and dh are so sexually frustrated that i think we are going to have to give it a go (before we kill each other). thank u for your response.

SarenaF · November 2010

I know its safe, but we did with our last pg, and I spotted quite a bit. Like you said, I stressed out about it a lot, eventhough it was nothing. Not worth the stress just yet. We'll wait until we hear a heartbeat... hopefully Thursday.

katbrian052108 · November 2010

I was feeling the same way until I saw a post that someone had posted (I'm sorry I do not remember who you were) and it stuck with me. She said that "You cannot do anything to shake a healthy pregnancy" (obviously within reason, no drugs, alcohol...etc...)

So I gave into DH...twice now:) and I'm very happy that I did, and everything has been fine, no spotting or cramping after:)

Go enjoy yourself!!!!

DHYGchica3 · November 2010

We weren't having sex until yesterday, due to me feeling ill all the time. I wasn't feeling 100% but I decided to "take one for the team" and he was good about being gentile and it was actually pretty amazing.

There is a whole lot more blood flow down there, so it intensifies everything.

I had one small drop of spotting, but I knew it was from sex so I didn't freak out.

Shelleybell · November 2010

our next u/s is on wednesday but i think i am going to have to take one for the team loll

gmc222 · November 2010

We haven't yet, but we have our first u/s on Tuesday and if all goes well (and we see the hb) then I plan on attacking DH when we get home!

damabo80 · November 2010

I'm doing the deed. Unless you are having spotting and the dr put you on pelvic bedrest, there's not reason not to.

morgs8384 · November 2010

I was scared the first time or two. But after that DH and I haven't worried too much about it. I eased up a lot especially after my first U/S a week ago.

MrsLee22 · November 2010

We've done it a few times, but I've found I cramp if I O. So we do it, but I have to hold back. Bummer, huh? Crying

Amused · November 2010

I didn't want to have sex for about 2 weeks after our BFP. I was just too afraid. Now we are back into the sex we were having before BFP. I think my O's are more intense now, which is a great benefit. I tend to not get as lubricated naturally so we are using left over preseed for that issue.

BarooGirl · November 2010

I did it for the first time in a while lastnight. Man, it was nice- I do think the extra bloodflow helped in it

I also had to pee pretty much right after.

BLISS2007 · November 2010

I haven't yet this time around, but we did with my first pregnancy and have a healthy 3 year old now!! I know it seems scary, but everything I've read said it's perfectly normal and healthy.

Brads Girl · November 2010

I'm on pelvic rest until I see the midwife on the 30th (due to spotting) so no, we can't do anything.......honestly, it sucks! I so badly want to jump DH lol

smalerie · November 2010

I had about 10 minutes of hesitation, but I gave in pretty quickly. I am running to the bathroom right afterward to check for spotting, but there hasn't been any at all. And the extra blood flow....holy moly. Stick out tongue

cburitz · November 2010

Me too... DH and I haven't had sex since we found out Embarrassed

I know I won't enjoy it at all once we finally do it... I will be too busy worrying about "hurting" the baby. I know it's COMPLETELY irrational but I can't help it

jferring · November 2010

We haven't either and after spotting on Friday once I'm worried to even do it because I don't want to have any more. I think I'll call the doctor on monday and see what they say.

mbritto4 · November 2010

My DH has been traveling a lot since I got my BFP so I haven't had to avoid him much. Last night I probably would've been ok but he went to bed early, of course. I just haven't been in the mood much at all when he's actually home, no fear involved.

christa62908 · November 2010

We never had a problem before and will keep active again. We still "knock it out" 2-3x a week and did last time up until DD was born. For me sex is amazing when I am pregnant

johnsonia · November 2010

I know its so hard to reason with ourselves. Since we KNOW that sex is safe fo you and baby, but its still so hard to relax and enjoy without thinking of all the worries.I want to but haven't since our BFP, my first appt is tues, maybe I can hold out till then

zsharky · November 2010

We haven't had sex since my BFP either, partially because I'm afraid of spotting and freaking myself out, but mostly it's because I'm so incredibly exhausted.

mdluv21 · November 2010

I am not allowed to per my RE...it has been almost 2 months and will be at least 2 more weeks. Poor DH...but it is worth it.

Kristen61607 · November 2010

My poor, poor DH. Thank God he loves me is all I can say. I've cut him off since 2 days after our IUI - so over 3 weeks now. Embarrassed

One reason is that I'm on crinone (a progesterone supplement that is a vaginal cream that I take 2x a day) and it make sex, uh, "sticky."

The 2nd reason is that after going through infertility I'm just so nervous. DH was really bugging me yesterday and I said "ok so when I start spotting afterwards, you won't complain about taking me to the ER then, right?" That definitely shut him up - but I still feel bad. Granted I have been taking care of him in other ways, but I still am feeling bad for him. I think I'll feel better after talking to my Dr. and seeing the heartbeat.

HarmsMomma · November 2010

None here per the doctor. Sad I miss it. Hopefully after my first MFM appt. we will get the okay!

robintora · November 2010

We have, though we were both a little apprehensive. I check for spotting every time after, but so far so good. Plus it makes my tummy cramp sometimes.

x0stephanie · November 2010

We haven't had sex since my bfp on Nov 1st. I work a lot of night shifts and when I'm on my days off DH is usually working so we don't see a lot of eachother.. There was one time that I turned him down. I think the nervousness is over and I probably would now if the opportunity came.. haha

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