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I didn't know what to say...
Yesterday was our best friends' kids' birthday party, they did a combined 2 and 4 year old party at an indoor mini-golf place... They know the IF struggles we've faced and where we're at in the IVF process. They are hugely supportive, and we love them (and their kids) a ton!
We walk in, and our best guy friend gives me a huge hug and says "how are you feeling?" (ER was Wednesday.) I say, "great," and immediately our best girl friend's mom grabs me and starts rubbing my stomach and saying, "do you have some good news to share?" "Are you expecting?" IN.FRONT.OF.EVERYONE. I wanted to crawl under the table.
Our best girl friend looks at her mom and says, "it's not what you think, and no, they're not pregnant. X had minor surgery in the middle of the week..."
Seriously?! Our best guy friend later apologized, as he didn't know what to say... Is this what my life has come to?! UGH. I hate IF!
Mr. & Mrs. ~ 09.08.07
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Re: I didn't know what to say...
((hugs)) What is wrong with people? And why do some people think that anytime a woman between 25 - 40 isn't feeling well, or someone asks her how she's feeling, it's because she is pregnant?
I bet your friend felt so bad - like it was his fault he called out attention to you to begin with.
IF sucks.
Started TTC 05.08
Me: Stage II endo, borderline high FSH
DH: perfect
1 lap, 5 IUIs = 4 BFNs and 1 c/p
2 IVFs, 2 FETs = 1 BFN, 1 c/p, 1 ectopic and finally a sticky BFP in May 2011!
1 FET in Aug 2013 = BFP!
Sorry that happened to you. IF is certainly frustrating. I wish more people would understand that.
IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer
Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
IVF #6 planned for Spring 2013. Praying for our take home baby/ies.
**P/SAIF and P/SAL always welcome!**
After 5.5 years of loss, heartbreak, and empty arms, our dreams were fulfilled through the beautiful, selfless gift of adoption. We are amazingly blessed!
Blog About Us | Blog About RPL/IF/Adoption
Me - DX Hashimoto's Disease, Hypothyroid, Rheumatoid Arthritis
DH - DX Azoospermia - Sertoli Cell Syndrome
DS-IUI #1-4 BFN IVF #1 - BFP! It's a boy!!!
Brutal!!!!! I'm so sorry that happened to you!!
Dx -Ute cancer, DOR from cancer treatments, and embryo quality issues. NOV 2010 CANCER FREE
2005-2011= 3 Rounds of Clomid, 5 IUI's, 3 IVF's- ALL BFN's
After 7yrs TTC, 5yrs of ute cancer, and 11 failed IF treatments, we got a surprise BFP! So thankful!
Gemma Grace born 09/30/12
Phillipians 4:6,7