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January 2011 Moms
Shower today!! But...
Today is my first baby shower, in my hometown, with all of my friends and family from there. My aunts and cousins even flew in from across the country! My best friends planned the shower, I've been looking forward to it for months, and it should be a lot of fun!!
However, big events like these are always bittersweet. My mom passed away from cancer 3 years ago and it's hard to do these things without her. Just not how I pictured having kids. I'm really missing her today, but trying my best to stay positive and focus on all the wonderful things that are happening! And I am so grateful for a family who would fly 4 hours just for my baby shower. How amazing!
My dad is not so positive. He's coming to the shower to take pictures (he's a great photographer), and I'm so glad, but I'm worried his negative and depressed attitude is going to be a downer. I totally understand - these days are really hard without my mom, but I can't really console him while I'm working so hard to stay positive myself. I just hope he perks up before the shower.
I know it's going to be a fun day (!!!), but with hormones and lack of sleep and my dad acting so upset, I'm just really missing my mom this morning. I'm hoping that once I get there I'll just be able to enjoy it and express how grateful I am!!
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She will be there with you in spirit and looking down on your shower with a big smile on her face! best of luck to you and know it's okay to be sad on the inside.
My dad passed away in June 2 months after I told him I was pregnant, and I have lots of hard times wishing he was here with me!!
I completely understand. I lost my mom in early 2005 and getting married last year and now with the baby, I feel like my life is sooo amazing. There is always that missing piece though that makes it bittersweet. My mom LOVED kids (that's why she had 4) and I would have loved to hear her stories and get her perspective because I really think it is what is resembling my own pregnancy and experience. All those incredible memories are lost and I only have the pieces that I can remember from growing up. I made my shower co-ed because I needed that family experience and he is an incredible dad. The only thing is that he is a guy, so he doesn't really help the feeling of something missing.