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Bigwuhead · November 2010

We are not going TTC until August/September of 2011. I just stopped taking the pill. I haven't started vitamins or prenatal's yet, but will soon.

So aside from physically/mentally, what did you do to prepare, or to get ready or to be ready? Could be anything..financial, personal, household wise, job wise.

We need to sit down either before the holidays or right after and probably do wills, living wills, and we need to get some info on life insurance.

jebuell · November 2010

My OB made the greatest suggestion ever- before you TTC learn how to orgasm every time. You are more likely to conceive if you O during sex. It sounds so simple but if you're not a woman who usually does (and I was surprised as to what the statistic was of women who don't usually orgasm) this can be good advice and something not everyone thinks about.

Also start cutting out the things you are going to cut out during pregnancy (caffeine, booze, unhealthy foods) just so you're already adjusted to your new diet before you actually get PG.

And if you plan on charting I'd start about 3-4 months before you actively TTC so you can get used to it and familiar with your cycles.

Ashleysred · November 2010

jebuell:

My OB made the greatest suggestion ever- before you TTC learn how to orgasm every time. You are more likely to conceive if you O during sex. It sounds so simple but if you're not a woman who usually does (and I was surprised as to what the statistic was of women who don't usually orgasm) this can be good advice and something not everyone thinks about.

How does having an orgasm lead to higher chances of getting preg?

and What is the statistic of women who don't usually O?

natalee215 · November 2010

I definitely agree with Jaye on starting to chart prior to TTC. I wish that I done so prior, but we were still very lucky in conceiving in my 4th cycle. I disagree with Jaye on cutting out things ahead of time, because I personally lived it up until I had to give it up I know that it is probably logical to get yourself used to it ahead of time, but I LOVE my Pinot Grigio so I enjoyed it up until I got that BFP. Ooops! BTW: I had no problems adjusting my diet once I was PG, but I guess this all depends on your personality.

One thing that a lot of people may not think about is to look into both you and DH's health insurance. If you are both on separate plans currently, look into the cost of employee+1 and employee+2 on both plans. For me and DH, it ended up costing us less financially for him to remain on his plan and for Caroline to join on mine. This changes when we have #2 though.

Thinking about your new budget as a family is good to do ahead of time, too. In addition to the added cost of insurance (ex: my cost has gone up $160 a month!) think about your other expenses: what will you do for childcare? Are you BF or formula feeding? Are you CD or using disposables? All of these things add up each month.

Definitely get in any last wishes that you would like to do as a couple that won't be as easy to do once you have a child. I know a big thing for us DW girls is vacations!

Look into your work and state maternity leave policies. You are one the the lucky ones in Jersey. I happen to know that you get an extra 6 weeks of paid leave by the state! Check out what your employer provides and whether you have to use PTO or if your company pays your maternity leave through STD, etc.

Anyway, I just thought these were a few of the things that some of the other girls might not mention. I'm glad to see you starting to come around here!

Bigwuhead · November 2010

Thanks ladies!

Natalee- I don't think our firm is big enough for the extra PTO. But looking into the health insurance is a great suggestion, since we are both on seperate plans.

niuchick21 · November 2010

We discussed how much money we would like to have saved in the bank before we ttc (that amount includes how much we would need to buy all big ticket items etc) and discussed the kind of lifestyle we want to have after we have kids. For instance we want to be able to send them to private school so we need to make sure we're financially in a place we can do that. We also want to be living in the Chicago area so we need to wait until we move. We discussed childcare, godparents and a few other things I think. I've looked at maternity coverage on my health insurance, added extra life insurance and we made a list of things we wanted to do before kids.

HappyGoLuckyGal · November 2010

Everyone has given great advice. I'd also like to recommend getting on a regular exercise schedule. It's a lot easier to keep active during pregnancy if you are already in the workout groove.

niuchick21 · November 2010

Ashleysred:
jebuell:

My OB made the greatest suggestion ever- before you TTC learn how to orgasm every time. You are more likely to conceive if you O during sex. It sounds so simple but if you're not a woman who usually does (and I was surprised as to what the statistic was of women who don't usually orgasm) this can be good advice and something not everyone thinks about.

How does having an orgasm lead to higher chances of getting preg?

and What is the statistic of women who don't usually O?

I've actually read that in a science book before, something about the vibrations of your cervix helping the sperm along or something.

and from what I remember, a majority of women don't orgasm from sex alone.

Mrs.G_09 · November 2010

niuchick21:
Ashleysred:
jebuell:

My OB made the greatest suggestion ever- before you TTC learn how to orgasm every time. You are more likely to conceive if you O during sex. It sounds so simple but if you're not a woman who usually does (and I was surprised as to what the statistic was of women who don't usually orgasm) this can be good advice and something not everyone thinks about.

How does having an orgasm lead to higher chances of getting preg?

and What is the statistic of women who don't usually O?

I've actually read that in a science book before, something about the vibrations of your cervix helping the sperm along or something.

and from what I remember, a majority of women don't orgasm from sex alone.

I read somewhere (it has been a few years or longer so I don't remember where) that only 8% of women orgasm from sex.

natalee215 · November 2010

I didn't want to really comment on the whole "o" topic but I couldn't help myself. Here is a stat that I found with little research:

Fifty to 75 percent of women who have orgasms need clitoral stimulation and are unable to have an orgasm through intercourse alone.

Furthermore, I've read several conflicting articles on whether or not the female orgasm really has much effect on conception, so I didn't feel like it was worth posting any of the links. IMHO, if teens can get PG by accident, then people TTC can get pregnant without needing something so specific as a female orgasm.

jebuell · November 2010

Orgasms (according to the OB who told me this) creates the most amount of CM and then the uterine contractions that occur during an O actually sucks the sperm up to where it needs to be. My OB used her hands to visualize this and I think I laughed for 5 minutes straight. But, according to her, it helps a lot!

And she said 90% do not have orgasms during sex. That amazed me! I thought it would be closer to 50%.

MrsBlayne · November 2010

Ashleysred:
jebuell:

My OB made the greatest suggestion ever- before you TTC learn how to orgasm every time. You are more likely to conceive if you O during sex. It sounds so simple but if you're not a woman who usually does (and I was surprised as to what the statistic was of women who don't usually orgasm) this can be good advice and something not everyone thinks about.

How does having an orgasm lead to higher chances of getting preg?

and What is the statistic of women who don't usually O?

I am not sure why, but I saw a video once that was supposed to be inside a woman during orgasm . It looked kinda like the cervix dipped down into the semen, if that makes any sense. Seeing that, it made sense why they would say that about having an orgasm. Maybe you can youtube it Smile

Ashleysred · November 2010

HAHA! I am a dork. I thought she meant some women don't O at all, ever, not from sex alone.

jebuell · November 2010

niuchick21:
For instance we want to be able to send them to private school so we need to make sure we're financially in a place we can do that. We also want to be living in the Chicago area so we need to wait until we move.

If you guys are living in Chicago I would research the Charter and Specialty schools offered through the public school system. I'm sure Chicago is a hotbed for all sorts of cool schools that you don't have to drain your pocketbook to send your kids to. When I was looking at living in Ramona, CA I found a public Montessori school! And in Chico, CA there's an Open Structure (similar to Montessori) K-8 school and then an Arts and Sciences High School and Waldorf High School. I'm not a big fan of Waldorf but it's good to see options are there for parents who want an alternative education for their child without having to pay for it past what you already pay in taxes. The only thing you won't see, of course, is a religious-based school.

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