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May 2011 Moms
Oh His Mom...... (vent)
God bless that woman but shes getting on my nerves.
She told me yesterday that the baby had to have christmas presents so instead of buying gender nuetral stuff she bought double of everything, one for a boy one for a girl. She said "Oh whatever you wont use you can return. OOORRRRR save it for my next lil grandbaby!" She started asking us when we planned for #2 and I told her considering this one was unexpected it would prolly have to wait like 5 years for a sibling so we can be more settled and prepared. She proceeds to tell me I dont wanna do that, the baby should have a playmate ect ect.
This just irked me because me and DF do ok but just barely ya know? We dont own a home and prolly wont for a couple years and we want to be able to provide for the children we have. With both of us juggling classes and full time jobs and soon a baby it wont happen so fast. If she wants to pay for their food and my rent then sure I'll pop em out but if not dont tell me when to have my children.
Also my boss has graciously agreed to change my shift when I come back from mat leave. I work 5 8 hour days but she has agreed to make them 3 10 hour days so I only lose 10 hours a week and will have more time with my baby. I will not leave my baby with someone 40 hours a week, I want to be there. I wish I could stay home but I cant. My mom is a SAHM and has been for the last 25 years. She watches my 3 year old nephew while my sister is in school and happily volunteered to keep my LO on the days DF and I both work. Im soo grateful for her. Well his mom found out about that and keeps trying to get me to take a weekend ER Reg. position at the hospital so she can watch the baby since shes off weekends. If I took this job I would take almost a $3.25 paycut, only get 24 hours,lose my bonus check and probably be stuck doing night shift. Um no thank you. I have explained this to her and she keeps going on and on how she thinks its a good idea. Ok....
Last but not least she sent me a very lengthy email about how she and her H are converting his office to a nursery so we can leave the baby for weekends at her house. Maybe Im already too attached but I freaked at the thought of leaving my baby somewhere for the weekends! Maybe when its a lot older and maybe for a date night but Im just not comfortable with that. She keeps stating the importance of the baby spending time with its MeeMee and PopPop. Im not going to keep the baby from her but its OUR baby and DF and I will be raising it.. She has a very controlling all in your business personality and its wearing me thin.
Oh forgot to mention but she went into hysterics when DF calmly informed her that only he and I will be at the first u/s as its special for us. She said its "unfair" and "not right" that she should be there. *sigh* I already informed her that we wil be getting a 3D u/s sometime and both she and my mom would be invited to that one.
Thanks for letting me get the pregnancy hormones off my chest lol. Sorry it was a novel! 
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Re: Oh His Mom...... (vent)
Oh. My. Gawd.
Bless your heart for being so patient with her. She would be so afraid of me after I flipped my sh!t and went off about all of it. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this! She is a tad overzealous and you guys are totally in the right. Don't worry about her...either she'll calm down or you can limit time with her.
Im sorry girl! I wouldnt wish this kind of stuff on anyone! lol
Yes its her first. She just act likes it so natural to have a MIL so involved. Shes wanting to take the sole mother role and gets peeved when I mention my mom about anything. She has a daughter so one day she wil be the mother of the mommy but right now I want my mommy! lol
I couldnt do this without DF's support but he knows even more than I do how she is and has no problem standing his ground *thank God*
I feel much better after letting my little biitch rant out lol. Thank goodness for the Bump lol.
Oh, thank goodness he can stand his ground with her! I feel for you and am glad for you that DF doesn't bend to her will!
I think we have the same MIL. I talked to mine yesterday and she was saying how she had her other grand daughter (my niece is 6 months. The babies will be 13 months apart), this past weekend. And how it slept in the bed with them, and how she was telling FIL how soon they'd have 2 babies every-other-weekend sleeping with them, so they could spend time with them.
I didn't say anything. SIL doesn't breast feed, I plan on it, and I am NOT comfortable with their parenting skills (DH had an abusive child hood). So there will be no overnight visits.
I haven't mentioned it to DH, but I know he'll back me up. But it did kind of freak me out that she was already making plans with my LO. MY mother isn't even being that pushy.
Oy, people keep asking if we're excited, I told DH, there is too much to be worried about to be too excited. But I guess thats part of being a parent.
Good luck with your MIL. Be glad your DH backs you up. Makes it so much easier.
Sounds like my mom! My MIL, surprisingly, is being so awesome and supportive. My mom thinks I'm having these babies JUST for her. She'll call me up and say "How are my babies doing?" Um, these are MY babies, thanks! So annoying!
I'd like to say that she's just excited about her grandchild, but it sounds like she's starting to cross the line. As long as your tactful about, there's no reason why you can't set her straight. Otherwise, you'll have a screaming newborn and a screaming MIL to deal with once baby comes and that's enough to drive a sane woman crazy!
Hmm, maybe I should take my own advice here...
Sounds like my mom too! She says, "my baby" and "our baby" all the time. It drives me nuts! She also thinks that she is going to be in the delivery room with me --- ahh no. She lives on the east coast and we live on the west, which means when she comes to "visit" she stays with us. She is very controlling and is already saying "you NEED to do this, or that." I most certainly don't want her hovering over me (and my poor husband) telling us how to do things.
On another note, we told her our choices for names and said she didn't like it and would think of her own special name for the baby --- ugghhhh, it's going to be interesting to say the least.
At least we can all sympathize with each other
Our precious girl, born at 27 weeks.