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Nrervous about new baby and 15 month old

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I am due to give birth next month, very excited about that. I have a baby now that will be 15 months old when his new sister arrives. I am so nervous about being able to nurse and take care of the new baby with my 15 month old because he is so into mommy these days. I feel like he is going to stand at my legs and cry every time I am holding the new baby. Any advice on how to manage this transition? Thanks in advance!
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  • musicteacher84musicteacher84

    I'm having baby #2 in a few months & will have a 17 mth old when the new baby is born.  I am not nursing with either child; but I understand a little bit where you are coming from :) I am so nervous that L (baby #1) will feel "left out" or get really upset when the new baby comes home.  L still takes a bottle before she goes to bed but we are shortly going to be breaking her of that habit...because when the new baby comes home...we don't want L grabbing at the new baby's bottles, thinking they are hers! :) GL with everything!  I feel very overwelmed thinking about the future w/ 2 little ones. I know it will be amazing - just a little overwelmed at times!

    Also check out the "two under two" board - those ladies are really helpful too!

    GL!

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  • StrawberrywineStrawberrywine

    My kids were 17 months apart and you will have your super challenging days and your not so hard days.

     Best Tips - Routine, routine, routine with 15 month old.

     Focus on getting your time alone with new baby b/c your 15 month old will figure out how to get your attention all the time. The one that will be more neglected will be the baby. 

     If you can afford a sitter for the witching hour, mother's helper etc. don't feel bad, go for it.

     If MIL or mom want to take either of your kids for a day, over night, go for it. 

    If you want to serve cereal for dinner three nights in a row, go for it.

    Sounds like you have some great ideas already about how to transition little one to being a big brother. Good Luck! It's busy but lots of fun!

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  • t.birdt.bird member

    ditto.

    i'll have a 15 month old & a newborn in 4 weeks. yiiikes!

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  • StensgardStensgard

    My first two were exactly 15 months apart as well! It was tense at times but fun. now they are 3 and 4 and best friends!!!!! 15 months isn't to young to be Mommy's helper! You'll be fine.

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  • Mjmksb04Mjmksb04 member
    I would start trying to engage your older child with "helping" you do various things. I dont' know how well that will work with a 15 month old, but with my DS, I try to turn his negative behavior in to something positive. Like if he is messing with the laundry, I have him "help" me fold it or put it away. Also, start setting up your older child with fake scenarios with the new baby, like if your older child needs something, go out of your way to "tell" the baby that she needs to wait (even if at the time she is perfectly content and doesn't need anything at the time), you are taking care of the older child. Same thing when the baby needs something, tell the older child he needs to wait. Like I said, it will be tough with a 15 month old, but just remember that this too shall pass. This may be controversial too, but I would somewhat resign yourself to letting the older child watch more TV than you normally would and coordinate that with feeding or taking care of the baby. Or try to coordinate your older child's meals or snacks with feeding the baby. I am in the same boat with introducing a baby to my 2 year old, so I have no experience, these are just things I have heard.
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  • TiffanyTheMomTiffanyTheMom member

    My DS was 17 mo when DD was born. When I had to sit on the couch and nurse, I'd have him sit next to me if he wanted to and I'd read him some books. Or, I'd put on some cartoons so he'd be somewhere I had direct sight of him.

    Thankfully, my son is 4 now and DD will be 2 months out from being 3 when this one comes along, so I can nurse and they'll have each other to play with. 

    I do have to say, in those early days we spent a lot of time in front of the tv watching movies! I was so tired from taking care of a newborn, and I had pretty bad depression, but even if you don't get PPD and feel good for the most part with your newborn, it's okay to put the tv on and let your son watch a movie. For a few months. We LIVED on Cars and Kung Fu Panda for several months until the feedings got further apart and I got better sleep. Don't feel bad for living off of hot dogs, sliced tomatoes, baby carrots and spaghettios those first few months! Simplify your life as much as you can- do the easiest, fastest foods you can do even if it's from a can or frozen. Reuse clothes as much as you can to keep down on laundry. Stretch bed sheet washing day to every 3 wks instead of once every 2 wks. Take your son into the shower with you and put the baby in a bouncer in the bathroom with you. Make things as easy for you as you can, you'll be tired enough and you don't need to feel bad about not 'performing' the way you normally do as a mother.

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