finding out sex of baby or no?

jessamommy2 · November 2010

Our second baby is coming and we have been trying to conceive this baby for awhile now and I sort of want to be suprised. With our first child we found out but I don't know what to do. I'm anxious to start picking out clothes and such but it's one of those things in life that makes the wait soo much more exciting to wait and be suprised- you know? What are your thought?

Spin313 · November 2010

I'm impatient, so I never understood the "I want to be surprised in the delivery room." You're still going to be surprised at the ultrasound, you just won't have all that extra adrenaline and/or exaustion from labor. But that's just my opinion.

If you're on the fence, make the decision closer to ultrasound time.

KarlsSweetie05 · November 2010

Because its twins, we're finding out as soon as we can. Too many decisions to be made and coordinate (from baby names to nursery decor, etc). with twins.

I'm sure I'm not much help, but you sound like you want to wait, so wait.

What if you ask the u/s tech to write the sex on a piece of paper and seal the paper in an envelope. Take the envelope home with you and you can open it at a later date if you change your mind?

heatherjrichards · November 2010

I'm too impatient too. I want to be prepared and know, pink or blue? ha

Mikejustine · November 2010

My thought is that you are surprised no matter what...who cares if the surprise is unveiled at 20 weeks in or at 40. Do whatever you are comfortable with, but IMO finding out is exciting at any time.

josefina022 · November 2010

We didn't find out until the baby was born, I wouldn't do it any other way. It seems like now a days, you know someone is pregnant, you know what they are having, you know what they are naming the baby, then the baby is born and you get the call that so and so had her baby. It's still exciting, but there is nothing like getting the call saying someone had their baby, it's a GIRL/BOY and they named him/her _____. I just like secrets & surprises & am old fashion :-)

dstceo41 · November 2010

I definitely agree that the gender of a baby is one of the few real surpises in life. However, after the initial bubble of happiness passes, you still have to plan.

Since you already have a child, I would think that you would want to know whether or not you can recycle some clothing or if you will need to get all new stuff. Of course you can purchase gender neutral items, but it is so much harder to find yellow and green clothes versus gender specific clothes, not to mention anything else gender specific you may want to buy.

Personally, I would try find out. I think you would have the same level of surprise and excitement whether you find out during an ultrasound or if you find out in the hospital. I think the"reveal" at the hospital would just be more dramatic because you just gave birth.

mrsmitch06 · November 2010

josefina022:
We didn't find out until the baby was born, I wouldn't do it any other way. It seems like now a days, you know someone is pregnant, you know what they are having, you know what they are naming the baby, then the baby is born and you get the call that so and so had her baby. It's still exciting, but there is nothing like getting the call saying someone had their baby, it's a GIRL/BOY and they named him/her _____. I just like secrets & surprises & am old fashion :-)

This is how we felt with DS! We kept it a surprise and I think it bothered everyone else more than it bothered us!

MrsRenee · November 2010

I actually found it more special to find out early. Things are a little crazy during delivery and it's already such an emotional day. I kind of liked being able to find out the baby's sex during the u/s. It ends up being a special time that DH and I get to share by ourselves. Then it was nice being able to call our parents and friends and share the news with them first hand. Not to mention, it's nice putting more of an identity to baby instead of doing the whole s/he thing

Lisa&Taylor · November 2010

josefina022:
We didn't find out until the baby was born, I wouldn't do it any other way. It seems like now a days, you know someone is pregnant, you know what they are having, you know what they are naming the baby, then the baby is born and you get the call that so and so had her baby. It's still exciting, but there is nothing like getting the call saying someone had their baby, it's a GIRL/BOY and they named him/her _____. I just like secrets & surprises & am old fashion :-)

This is how we felt, as well! It was a challenge at times, because we were SO curious and excited, but it was fun to make that big announcement of gender, name (we kept those under wraps too), etc when she was born. It also worked out well because we registered for all gender neutral items that can be used for future babies.

That being said, I think that we will find out when we have a second baby! For us, it makes sense to be able to plan and prepare a bit better. I was the one that really wanted to keep it a surprise the first time around, so we agreed that next pregnancy, DH can have it his way, and we'll find out! Smile

KBabySmiles · November 2010

We didn't find out, and I was happy with that decision. It depends on why you are waiting. If you're waiting for that magical moment after birth where time seems to stop and they announce "It's A _____!!!!" It doesn't happen. Like Renee said, that moment is so stressful. At least that was my experience. We don't plan to find out with our next child, whenever that may be; but I was disappointed that I didn't get that special moment with DS.

mbritto4 · November 2010

I plan to find out again if baby shows the goods. Jury is still out on whether or not we'll share names beforehand. No one had any complaints with DD's name since its my sister's middle name, but this baby who knows.

I am a quilter so I want to know so I can make a boy or girl quilt

BabyBean · November 2010

We found out with DD and with No. 2 (a boy). I never even thought about waiting, but I certainly understand why people do. For me, I like having the connection with a "him" (and with a name) for half of my pregnancy. I also like to plan (not even pink vs. blue), but personalized items for his room.

We I had my big ultrasound last week ... even if we didn't want to know ... we would have known. He put his goods on display as soon as the ultrasound tech touched my belly, and it was pretty difficult to ignore. She even joked she was going to wait until the end to tell us the gender, but he was showing off.

broncoalum97 · November 2010

BabyBean:

We found out with DD and with No. 2 (a boy). I never even thought about waiting, but I certainly understand why people do. For me, I like having the connection with a "him" (and with a name) for half of my pregnancy. I also like to plan (not even pink vs. blue), but personalized items for his room.

We I had my big ultrasound last week ... even if we didn't want to know ... we would have known. He put his goods on display as soon as the ultrasound tech touched my belly, and it was pretty difficult to ignore. She even joked she was going to wait until the end to tell us the gender, but he was showing off.

i'm more like this

w/DD we had the lady put it on a paper & on New Year's Eve at midniight we opened up the envelope & found out...that was more special time w/DH than after giving birth, esp. since things turned out crazy in the delivery room

w/DS we found out when we could, because like ppl said, i wanted to know if i needed all new boy stuff or could I try to use the pink girl stuff, plus we wanted to do nursery border/room and needed to know which gender to do

you have to do what's comfortable w/you, there's no right or wrong way to do it (so don't let anyone make you feel guilty for what you decide). both times we saved the names though until after the birth, so the people were still surprised at that and it was fun to have them guess/give suggestions

goofysdazy · November 2010

mrsmitch06:
josefina022:
We didn't find out until the baby was born, I wouldn't do it any other way. It seems like now a days, you know someone is pregnant, you know what they are having, you know what they are naming the baby, then the baby is born and you get the call that so and so had her baby. It's still exciting, but there is nothing like getting the call saying someone had their baby, it's a GIRL/BOY and they named him/her _____. I just like secrets & surprises & am old fashion :-)

This is how we felt with DS! We kept it a surprise and I think it bothered everyone else more than it bothered us!

This is what we did... and it was great! Especially for my hubby to be able to announce it to me and everyone... (It also helped on getting things we needed rather than just clothes) we're up in the air on finding out for our second one when that time comes, but even if we did find out we wouldn't tell anyone.

Tarah716 · November 2010

I'm team green, my DH knows what gender we're having. We don't even have one set name for the child either so it's going to be a total introduction to everyone when s/he gets here. I'm excited to share the excitement with everyone else when the time comes.

sillybilly10 · November 2010

We are finding out what we are having Christmas week and suprising everybody at Christmas not sure how yet ...but we are thinking of ideas. I think with our second we will possibly be team green ...but for the first ....we really want to know. As far as the babies name we will prolly wait and announce when he/she is born.

jsmo · November 2010

Spin313:

I'm impatient, so I never understood the "I want to be surprised in the delivery room." You're still going to be surprised at the ultrasound, you just won't have all that extra adrenaline and/or exaustion from labor. But that's just my opinion.

If you're on the fence, make the decision closer to ultrasound time.

This! I could never not find out. And the moment we found out at the ultrasound was still super cool and very special and exciting. Also as pp's said, it really helped make the pregnancy feel more "real" once I knew it was a girl.

nikkie5683 · November 2010

I give credit to anyone that has enough patience to wait. I could not do it. I know that it can be excited waiting in anticipation but the way I see it is that life and baby is going to be a world of unexpected occurancies so atleast I can be prepared in the ways I have an ability to. Knowing also helps families to prepare better I think. We can decide on names, colors, let our other children know what to expect, and a bunch of other situations that arise, especially from other people trying to put their opinions in.

Whatever you decide make sure its what you want and there will be no regret. Best of luck to you and Congrats!

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