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Yes, once again, proof that nice gets you nowhere (long)

achase123achase123
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Just warning anyone that reads this: I'm about ready to whine.  Ok, here goes:

SD and I had reached a resolution about child support.  I had agreed to accept the lower amount.  He had agreed to pay it.  He was ecstatic that I wasn't going to try to fight him on it.  In reality I just didn't want to have to keep going to court and paying my lawyer.  So he's happy, I'm satisfied, win/win, right?

He paid the proper amount for October-late, but he paid it.  No complaints.

I texted him today to remind him to pay the DCSS for November, not me.  Also told him I had let my lawyer know to notify DCSS that we agreed on the lesser amount.  He texted back that he had been thinking about it and he's not going to pay because the money is better spent going towards his recovery.  Plus he's already paid me enough money already.  Wha???  Enough money for what-until P's 18?  Ummm, think again, my friend.

I am obviously upset (and the text message I sent back was...uh, not nice), but my dilemma is whether or not to tell my lawyer to redo the paperwork, and go ahead with asking for the higher amount now.  It's going to be costly and involve more court time.  But I am furious at myself for ever agreeing to the lower amount, because I should have known that nice gets you nowhere!

Ok, vent over.  Any thoughts?

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Re: Yes, once again, proof that nice gets you nowhere (long)

  • dimakedimake

    If you can handle the cost and the court time, why not?

     

    If his "recovery" was so important, he'd be in rehab right now.  Sorry you have to deal with him.

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  • achase123achase123
    imagetifanico:

    I dont think you are going to be able to go back to the higher amount. You already agreed to the lowered one. Is there already a CO with the new lower amount?

    I did the same thing with BD and agreed to receive a lower amount because at that point I wanted to avoid court. I already did it and I already signed an agreement so unless there is a substantial change I cannot go to court and get the order modified. BD has not missed a single payment since June of last year. Gotta love wage garnishment!

    Well, you may be right, but I haven't signed anything yet.  I emailed my attorney about it.

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  • r9stedtr9stedt
    imagetifanico:

    I dont think you are going to be able to go back to the higher amount. You already agreed to the lowered one. Is there already a CO with the new lower amount?

    I agree.  Honestly, with his back history, it might even show now that he is not even capable of making as much as he would in order to pay the C.S.  Is he still working?? 

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  • AngiesmommyAngiesmommy

    If you can afford the lawer at all, go back and have them redo everything. I know court sucks, but it will be worth it to have it all written down and court ordered.   His excuse about using the $$ towards his recovery is a bunch of BS. Just sounds like he's using his recovery as another excuse to be selfish. There is nothing more important than P. (<~ that sounds funny out loud)

    It really sucks that being nice doesn't work. 

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    imager9stedt:

    I agree.  Honestly, with his back history, it might even show now that he is not even capable of making as much as he would in order to pay the C.S.  Is he still working?? 

    Well, "working".  So in other words, no wages to garnish.  All under the table.

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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member
    As  if we needed further proof that D is the Super Douche!  Stick it to him anyway you can.   BTW, I love your blog, you should consider writing professionally.
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