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My stupid question - but I feel I need to ask....sorry!

klm195klm195 member
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Hi All, 

 Here's my 'thing'....

I've just gotten married in September of this year. Hubby and I are desperately trying for a baby and we are both over 35 (and I'm more over that number than he is!!).  Previously ( 6 or 7 yrs ago and not with DH) I thought I was pregnant a few times, but they all turned out to be BFN.  AF is three days overdue (but according to my ticker, she's only 2 days late) and I have symptoms that others who are pregnant have.  I'm tired all the time, food - well, I have no interest in it.  I am sitting here at my desk at work and have 'moments' of lightheadedness.  I'm scared to take the test because....well, I'm not getting any younger and if it comes back a BFN - I'm just afraid - due to family history (my mom had 7 m/c) that I've left it too late to have kids.  And I've found the most amazing man to have kids with!!

So...my question - would you wait a few more days to test or just go ahead and test and find out that my body is just playing games?

Sorry, I know this sounds so totally stupid to be asking, but I'm so nervous.  Next to marrying my DH, this is something I want more than life it's self. 

Married September 2010, ttc since August 2010. So far - nothing
Me: 40, Husband: 33
After an emergency D&C on Nov 8, 2011, we are giving up hope of ever becoming pregnant.
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Re: My stupid question - but I feel I need to ask....sorry!

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    You need to slow down and take a breath. You just got married a month ago, so I'm assuming you just started actively TTC with your DH? One BFN the first month out of the gate does not make you too late to have kids.

    If you're that nervous, wait a few more days and take a test.

    For future planning:

    Are you charting, or going by an ovulation calendar to determine your cycle? If you're using the calendar, ditch it and get a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility and/or sign up for fertilityfriend.com.

    See your doctor. Explain your plans to TTC and ask if there's anything you should be doing now, and when they want you to come in. My ob/gyn was very proactive with me when I told her my TTC plans at 37. She wanted me in at the 6 month mark if we weren't successful so she could start running tests and see what she could do to help.

    And keep in mind that you can have all sorts of phantom symptoms and not be pregnant, so now's a good time to try not to read into them. I had pretty much all of them this cycle, and my period started today.

    GL

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  • klm195klm195 member

    Thank you!!  I think I am just so 'caught up' in everything that has been going on that I'm just jumping into this too.

    It's funny - in our teens and when we are single, we try so hard NOT to get pregnant.  And now that we want to - well, it's not as easy as turning on a light switch!

    Thank you for your words of encouragement and advice.  Smile

    Married September 2010, ttc since August 2010. So far - nothing
    Me: 40, Husband: 33
    After an emergency D&C on Nov 8, 2011, we are giving up hope of ever becoming pregnant.
    PAIF/SAIF Welcome
    Daisypath Anniversary tickers PitaPata Dog tickers image
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