My sister drives me eff'ing nuts (NTTCALR)

kmb585 · November 2010

Sorry ladies, but I just needed to vent. It is a long story but we are 4.5 years apart and just COMPLETELY different people.

Just wondering if any of you out there have strained relationships with your siblings?

psumel13 · November 2010

My brother and I have major issues! I try really hard to understand him but he makes the most unintelligent choices and I have to speak my mind. Therefore I am the one who deals with the brunt of his anger/frustration. Everyone else in my family just humors his stupid comments. Its hard to believe we were raised in the same house! What did your sister do?

jmhuff · November 2010

My half sister and I do not get along at all. She is such a different person than I am. She is a habitual liar and only comes around for money. Not to mention she has 5 kids...the first two she completely gave up to their father and signed over all rights. It makes me so freaking angry that she is such a FH. Sorry about the vent, but to make a long post short, yes I can relate and I am sorry you have to deal with it.

jinx75 · November 2010

My DH is constantly wondering if I was adopted. I have two sisters, on older (by 18 months) and one younger (by 18months) my relationships with both of them are strained. It'd take pages and pages to detail all their drama and the effects it's had on my life and our relationships.

kmb585 · November 2010

psumel13:
My brother and I have major issues! I try really hard to understand him but he makes the most unintelligent choices and I have to speak my mind. Therefore I am the one who deals with the brunt of his anger/frustration. Everyone else in my family just humors his stupid comments. Its hard to believe we were raised in the same house! What did your sister do?

Basically b/c I told her there were logsitical details (i.e. figuring out the alarm system, putting dogs away, and me being gone almost 12 hrs on days I work) with her staying at our house when she is home from Iraq in 2 weeks, she took it to mean that I was not welcoming to her, and then just sent an email that she wants to "cut ties" w/ our relationship - we have never really gotten along. Urrggghh, I want to scream!

jinx75 · November 2010

jmhuff:
My half sister and I do not get along at all. She is such a different person than I am. She is a habitual liar and only comes around for money. Not to mention she has 5 kids...the first two she completely gave up to their father and signed over all rights. It makes me so freaking angry that she is such a FH. Sorry about the vent, but to make a long post short, yes I can relate and I am sorry you have to deal with it.

OMG! your half sister and my younger sister are exactly alike...right down to the only coming around for $$ and giving up her kis to their fathers.

LilMaggs · November 2010

My sister and I don't get along either. She's a self-centered brat. She got herself in $140k worth of debt (after I'd warned her about the stupidity of this decision several times) and then had the balls to call me and ask me to pay for it. I refused, so I'm a bad sis. I think she needs to get the hell over herself and pay for her own idiot mistakes.

itsmegin · November 2010

Oh honey, please. It is a MIRACLE that I am even civil to my siblings. We are worlds apart.

Let's start with my brother. At age 20 he dropped out of college and joined a "political action committee" / cult working for Lyndon LaRouche (Google if you don't know but he's a crazy wannabe politician that's been around spouting nonsense for decades-they're the group that brought the Obama as Hitler posters to a bunch of rallies Confused )

My sister is 20, lives at home, doesn't work, went to beauty school but flunked the state board so now does NOTHING but mooch off my parents, get tattoos and piercings and smoke pot.

I try my hardest to be nice to them but aside from the DNA we are, like you said, completely different people. It's very hard to get along but I try my best. You're just kind of stuck sometimes with family. I'm sorry your sister is giving you a hard time.

psumel13 · November 2010

kmb585:

psumel13:
My brother and I have major issues! I try really hard to understand him but he makes the most unintelligent choices and I have to speak my mind. Therefore I am the one who deals with the brunt of his anger/frustration. Everyone else in my family just humors his stupid comments. Its hard to believe we were raised in the same house! What did your sister do?

Basically b/c I told her there were logsitical details (i.e. figuring out the alarm system, putting dogs away, and me being gone almost 12 hrs on days I work) with her staying at our house when she is home from Iraq in 2 weeks, she took it to mean that I was not welcoming to her, and then just sent an email that she wants to "cut ties" w/ our relationship - we have never really gotten along. Urrggghh, I want to scream!

Wow sounds like she is quite the drama queen. Does she even realize all you have been through in the last few months. Maybe she needs to take a look from the other side! A break from her, might not be the worst thing for you right now. Sorry you have to deal with this!

bryanandkatrina · November 2010

I only have 1 younger brother (4.5 years younger) and although we get along for the most part, I don't really have any siblings to relate to.

Karen1998 · November 2010

::Raises hand::

We try to communicate but fail. We're very different people and completely different personalities. It's extremely frustrating!

Karen1998 · November 2010

kmb585:
psumel13:
My brother and I have major issues! I try really hard to understand him but he makes the most unintelligent choices and I have to speak my mind. Therefore I am the one who deals with the brunt of his anger/frustration. Everyone else in my family just humors his stupid comments. Its hard to believe we were raised in the same house! What did your sister do?

Basically b/c I told her there were logsitical details (i.e. figuring out the alarm system, putting dogs away, and me being gone almost 12 hrs on days I work) with her staying at our house when she is home from Iraq in 2 weeks, she took it to mean that I was not welcoming to her, and then just sent an email that she wants to "cut ties" w/ our relationship - we have never really gotten along. Urrggghh, I want to scream!

It sounds to me that there's a lot more going on. She's not hearing what you're saying. Instead, she's translating it into something else. All sorts of things affect that translation - your history together, her history, her memories, her current situation, how she feels about herself, etc... What she responded with is much more about her than it's about you.

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