Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: Nausea vs actually throwing up
I get both. I feel better for a few minutes after throwing up (when I make myself quickly eat something in hopes I'll feel better) but it doesn't last long. I usually drink gingerale afterwards too.
Lately my m/s has been letting up (knock on wood)
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I was throwing up several times a day before I was put on Zofran. Now it's less frequent. I've found throwing up provides some momentary relief to the very intense nausea that precedes it, but some nausea remains throughout the day.
When I was just nauseous all day, I thought actually throwing up wouldn't be much worse, but then when I started actually throwing up several times a day, I definitely realized throwing up definitely is worse!! I try to avoid it whenever possible.
Good luck!
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When I've thrown up, the intensity lets up a bit, but I still remain nauseas. But my vomiting was usually limited- not near as bad as some girls. Then there are the dry heaves. That helps nothing.
Mine's letting up (yay)... not every day and just nausea- no more vomiting or dry heaves. Hope you feel better soon.
Thanks everyone! Guess what I really need to do is just get used to the fact that I'm going to feel sick for a while no matter what I really do...
Glad to hear that some of the morning sickness is clearing up for a few of you! I'm looking forward to that!
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I feel so much better after dry heaving or actually getting sick. I stop feeling nauseous and I'm usually able to eat a little something. I figure why fight it for hours and hours, just get it over with and move on
And yes, I'm usually just queasy (I feel like I'm hungover) or I just dry heave. I've only thrown up maybe 8 times in the past 2 weeks - and that's a lot more than when I was m/s with DS
Been away from theBump for a while, getting active again for all the good advice
I haven't thrown up at all, but have been very nauseaus on and off. only things that seem to help are the usual things - a little ginger ale, eating more (really, you must - crackers, a cereal bar, something), a tums if I have to, or some mints.
I've only had nausea, no throwing up. I pretty much never throw up though *knock on wood.* Can count on one hand the number of times I've thrown up in my life.
The nausea still sucks, though.
My m/s just started this past week, it started in the evening, then added the morning and yesterday it was all day. So far I haven't thrown up up last night I was pretty sure I was going to. I laid in bed and ate a cracker and took some deep breaths and it went away so I could fall asleep.
I'm terrified of throwing up and I've heard lots of people say they don't feel any better after they do, so I held out as best I could. I hope to join the "getting over it" club soon!
My nausea is in and out all day. I've only been sick once thus far and I actually did feel a lot better for about an hour.
Hopefully it passes soon for all of us!
Ditto, but thanks for the question and answers everyone! I have a huge fear of throwing up. When you're sick, it at least helps you feel better afterward. I was wondering the same thing for morning sickness... sounds like not. =( ugh
This is me too, with a few dry heaves that turned to vomiting. Zofran has helped a lot.
This all the way.
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I get sick every.single.morning.
I wake up, walk to the bathroom and throw up bright yellow bile for about 5 mins. Then I'm good to go for the rest of the day.
Well, I'm nauseous all day, but I don't puke again.
This isn't new for me though. I was really sick with both of my girls. I will probably get my Zofran rx when I see my OB on Thursday.
Same here....mornings and afternoons though
This was me with my DD, anytime of the day I walked in the bathroom all I had to do was look at the toilet I would throw-up. LOL
This pregnancy has been pretty rough, no throwing-up just extreme nausea. I've been on phenergan and Zofran.
GL to all of you.