April 2011 Moms

anxiety during the in between phase?

So now that I am over the nauseous, crappy feeling phase but am still not feeling any movements I find that I am incredibly anxious about not knowing if everything is ok, progressing, etc.  Anyone else feeling this and if so how are you dealing?  Anyone found anything that they can do that they feel like gives them some peace of mind that things are good?  For now I'm just counting the minutes until next Friday when we have our anatomy scan.

Re: anxiety during the in between phase?

  • I know EXACTLY how you feel!  I stopped feeling nauseous around week 11 and haven't felt the baby move at all yet.  This past week was my anatomy scan and I was sooo nervous thinking we were going to go and something was going to be wrong.  In the end we got to the u/s and my lil girl was doing all kinds of gymnastics in there I just didn't feel her yet.  My tech said that most woman pregnant with their first will feel baby around week 20 or 21.  The think that calmed me down a lil before the scan was knowing that if something really was wrong I would have had signs: cramping, bleeding, belly pain etc.  I just kept thinking that "OK nothing has shown signs of anything being wrong and being nervous isn't healthy for the baby."  It kinda worked but I truly wasnt releaved until I saw that lil baby.  Also drink some orange juice.  It really stirred up my lil girl when the u/s was going on so drink some before you go to your scan on Fri and you can see a lil show.  Maybe try to drink some before hand and you might feel your LO move around a lil.  I drank the OJ and didn't feel a thing so idk!  Good luck!
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  • I felt like crap my ENTIRE pregnancy with DD... this time around I have been feeling wonderful for several weeks now (other than some headaches now and then) some days I don't even feel pregnant... and i am LOVING it!!  Seriously, enjoy feeling good... it won't last that long.... i'm sure your baby is fine, enjoying yourself rather than worrying is better for baby anyways!!
  • this is my 2nd...and I'm still a wreck!  Hang in there!
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  • yes, very much so. What has been a big relief for me is having my doppler so that i can hear the babies heartbeat whenever I start feeling anxiety. I bought it when i was around 12-13 weeks, and it actually did more harm that good for me at first because I couldn't always find the heartbeat so I was in even more of a panic. But now that the baby is much bigger I can find it right away. So whenever I feel that little twinge of uncertainty, I turn that baby on and listen to that reassuring gallop. I don't know if that would be something you would even consider, because I know some people are adamantly against them, but you can get them pretty inexpensively on Amazon.com.

    All of that to say, yes I think that most moms go through this and you are definitely not alone! :)

  • Your not alone.  I felt the same way.  Friday will ease your mind and hopefully your LO will give you some movement before then.
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  • Dont feel bad, this is baby #4 for me and by far the worst as far as worry goes... i felt a little better after my last dr apt where she found the heart beat immediately, but i just have to keep reminding myself this far along the chances are a lot less that something could go wrong and if it had there would be some signs, bleeding cramping ... so enjoy the great feeling while it lasts and before you know it you will get to see baby and soon enough get to feel them move!!! Good luck on friday!!

  • I am definitely right there with you! I am pretty sure I feel the baby pretty regularly, but since it's still that mystery "was that the baby" thing, it's only a little bit reassuring. I also had frequent ultrasounds (6, 7, 9, 10, and 12 wks) during my first trimester due to some minor complications, so this whole "waiting 5 weeks between scans" thing is driving me nuts. Three more days 'til we get to see the kiddo again, and it can't come soon enough!
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  • I feel the same as you do. I'm just trying to keep myself busy so that I don't have so much time to worry. I'm counting down till Thursday for my appointment. Hang in there!
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  • imagemrs.monica:
    this is my 2nd...and I'm still a wreck!  Hang in there!

    This.  I'm feeling so anxious right now, but trying to reassure myself that everything is probably still ok.  Counting down the days to my appt next week.

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  • Thanks for all responses.  It really does just help know that I'm not the only one feeling like this!  I am trying to just keep thinking positively and reminding myself that everything all along has been going really well so I have no reason to think anything isn't now!  Hang in there everyone ;)
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