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BabyyMamma
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Cheating husband rumor (NBR)
BabyyMamma
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Theres a lady at my husbands work who claims she has sex with him before work in his car. I know its not possible for this to be true seeing as we live 10 min away and he leaves for work at 10:45 and has to be there at 11. I also trust my husband. Said lady also tells my uncle (who also works with my husband) that I found her online and sent her nasty emails. I wouldnt know how to get in touch with that woman if I wanted to and never sent her an email. (which also pegs her as a liar) What should we do in this situation? Hope she stops ? contact supervisors? WWYD?
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Re: Cheating husband rumor (NBR)
Is this for real?
I'd have DH make a formal sexual harassment complaint. Then let her deal with the repercussions. I'd never say anything to her, and I wouldn't give her any thought because she's not worth it.
This. The best thing you can do is keep your cool and class in a situation like this. She'll likely end up making an arse of herself if you just let her.
thats a good idea! thanks
Its a carpet company so there are hundreds of employees and he never would have to see her so it would be easy to just avoid her
This.
What does your husband say about all of this?
If it's really not happening then I would definitely recommend that your husband file a sexual harassment complaint with his work and that both of you need to document every occurrence she contacts either of you or your family members.
Something similar to this happened to my husband just last year (right after my dad passed away, so the last thing I needed was some woman trying to hurt my relationship in any way.)
The most you can do is have your H talk to a supervisor about what is going on... and if this woman contacts you in any way (phone, emails, facebook, etc) to save all the evidence. It could be useful someday if things turn ugly. (In my situation, we almost ended up in court. Luckily, DH and I were able to prove ahead of time SHE was the one harassing HIM, not the other way around.)
Hope it all works out. GL.
its not I agree...but you know how guys are they find the weirdest stuff amusing
sorry that happened to you
but luckily I dont think this will go that far She seems like she just wants attention and has never said anything to DH at all about it (its a large company he rarely sees her).My mom is the accountant there and has a lot of pull. So hopefully this is as far as it goes
Anyone who would do anything like this has some serious mental issues IMO. I can't imagine why anyone would think it's OK... it's just sick..
this! i dont understand why someone would make things like that up unless they have mental problems but why would your husband find this situation funny?!
I know he would never have time to my mom knows his hours for work (since shes the accountant and does payroll) and everything checks out for coming and going to work. He never goes anywere without me. He wouldnt have time so i believe him
My best friend just went through a situation like this. A lady at her work emailed her husband and told him she was having several affairs with co-workers, which was of course untrue. She and her husband collected all emails/"evidence" and went to the HR department. HR did an investigation and the lady ended up getting fired.
I would personally go to a supervisor/HR. Nobody gets away with calling my husband a cheater!
Be cautious with moving forward on sexual harassment charges. HR's job is to protect the company, not the employee. Employers can be held responsible in situations where an employee is sexually harassed by another employee, so they often will try to take the side of the one being accused rather than the one doing the accusing.
It's kind of messed up, but because of liability issues, it happens. I agree that he needs to talk to a supervisor or to HR, but just be careful about bringing up sexual harassment charges until things are investigated more thoroughly.
And document, document, document!
this.
but, your siggy pic does pin your hubby as pretty setzy
she is just jealous.....
Definitely get him to talk to the supervisor and HR!
My husband was in a weird situation about 10 years ago right before we were married. This lady was having an affair with a guy with the same first name as my H. Don't remember exactly what went down but when she was caught she blurted out my husband's name instead of the other guy, lol. Everything worked out fine because they were able to prove that she was indeed having an affair with the man (and NOT MY H) due to phone records and eye witnesses who saw them together in her car (ewwww). But I was soooo livid that she would try to bring a completely innocent man down to protect the sleaze ball.
ANYWAY, sorry you are dealing with that. Some people are just so weird, gross and messed up.
I agree with this. I was sexually harassed at work, and I had plenty of emails to back it up. The guy was allowed to quit on his own, but the company gave him "severance" of 1/2 a year's pay. I was LIVID. So true that the company was only doing what was best for it, not protecting me at all.
It's never a good idea to just shrug something like this off. My friend that swore she was dating Fi (that's a long story, but they were just friends) found out he and I started dating and made all kinds of crazy accusations. Out of nowhere. They did work together (she was a dispatcher, he's a police officer), and after we cut off contact with her, she went to IA and told them he held his gun to her head. Full investigation of him ensued. Granted our two situations vary GREATLY, but you never know how far some people will go. She also claimed to be pregnant with his child. They knew they had never slept together, but as far as your place of employment and coworkers are concerned, you can make people believe anything.
It's better to take the problem to HR and let them deal with it. I've learned that you NEVER know when someone is crazycakes. It's better to have it documented, and for neither of you to say anything to her, and just handle it through supervisors. Keep track of everything!
Breleigh & Mason
I would file a SH report before she has the chance to lie about something and file a fake one on him. I have known women to do this when they cannot stir enough trouble or are jelous.
Just to be safe I would file. Its her job or his and his is more important to take care of little one.
This totally! And my DH would be the type to laugh about such a thing to (unless I believed it and was threatenng to leave him or something, then he wouldn't). I would be royally p!ssed at her and he would have to hold me off attacking her haha, but he isn't phased easily, and would be the type to think ignore her and she'll go away. I think it is good that you trust your husband, and though PP's "you can't trust anyone 100%" may be correct, why would you trust some crazy lady instead of your husband and let it become a problem.