Clicky poll!! Division of responsibility in your house

lkaylee721 · November 2010

I am wondering what the % split is between you and DH. How much do you do compared to him[Poll]

erino&chrish · November 2010

I voted 50/50. Here is how we divide responsibility:

ME: keep the hosue clean, wash my laundry and LO's laundry, empty the dishwasher 50% of the time, brush/bathe the dog/cat, do bathnight a couple nights a week with LO, cook once or twice a week

DH: wakes up every day with LO and takes him to daycare, grabs coffee and a donut for me on the way home, does bathnight about 5 nights a week, cooks and grocery shops most of the time, takes the trash and recycle out, does handyman work (we live in an old Victorian so there is something to do about every other day that requires a screwdriver/drill/manpower), does his fair share of landscaping

DH is also very good with playing with LO at nights and weekends and letting me take a break if I need one.

Edit: we have a housekeeper that comes once or twice a month and cleans the whole house. We have a handyman that does the heavy yard work, mows, does the leaves, and does house projects like painting and other more skilled handyman jobs.

Soap1 · November 2010

I do far more of the childcare than DH, we split the housework fairly evenly, and he does all the stuff around the house like mowing or fixing things. Ends up around 50/50!

gumiberg · November 2010

i do more but that is because i work less. (and he is studying for his CFA to boot - he tries to study 3-5 hours a day).

he takes care of the kids so i can run sometimes, and he does bath time every single night.

i do all mornings, all afternoons (and i am home all day 2x/week). i do all grocery shopping and cooking (because i love it) and kitchen duty. we split laundry and have a cleaning and lawn service for everything else.

as we speak he is cleaning up the babies' dinner...he definitely does as much as he can.

katiekate1974 · November 2010

erino&chrish:
I voted 50/50. Here is how we divide responsibility:

ME: keep the hosue clean, wash my laundry and LO's laundry, empty the dishwasher 50% of the time, brush/bathe the dog/cat, do bathnight a couple nights a week with LO, cook once or twice a week

DH: wakes up every day with LO and takes him to daycare, grabs coffee and a donut for me on the way home, does bathnight about 5 nights a week, cooks and grocery shops most of the time, takes the trash and recycle out, does handyman work (we live in an old Victorian so there is something to do about every other day that requires a screwdriver/drill/manpower), does his fair share of landscaping

DH is also very good with playing with LO at nights and weekends and letting me take a break if I need one.

Edit: we have a housekeeper that comes once or twice a month and cleans the whole house. We have a handyman that does the heavy yard work, mows, does the leaves, and does house projects like painting and other more skilled handyman jobs.

No offense, but that does not read as 50/50. At all. If you guys are happy with the way it all works out, great! But I wouldn't kid myself that it's 50/50.

lkaylee721 · November 2010

katiekate1974:
erino&chrish:

I voted 50/50. Here is how we divide responsibility:

ME: keep the hosue clean, wash my laundry and LO's laundry, empty the dishwasher 50% of the time, brush/bathe the dog/cat, do bathnight a couple nights a week with LO, cook once or twice a week

DH: wakes up every day with LO and takes him to daycare, grabs coffee and a donut for me on the way home, does bathnight about 5 nights a week, cooks and grocery shops most of the time, takes the trash and recycle out, does handyman work (we live in an old Victorian so there is something to do about every other day that requires a screwdriver/drill/manpower), does his fair share of landscaping

DH is also very good with playing with LO at nights and weekends and letting me take a break if I need one.

Edit: we have a housekeeper that comes once or twice a month and cleans the whole house. We have a handyman that does the heavy yard work, mows, does the leaves, and does house projects like painting and other more skilled handyman jobs.

No offense, but that does not read as 50/50. At all. If you guys are happy with the way it all works out, great! But I wouldn't kid myself that it's 50/50.

Just curious, are you saying that she or her DH do more work?

reannegummer · November 2010

katiekate1974:
erino&chrish:

I voted 50/50. Here is how we divide responsibility:

ME: keep the hosue clean, wash my laundry and LO's laundry, empty the dishwasher 50% of the time, brush/bathe the dog/cat, do bathnight a couple nights a week with LO, cook once or twice a week

DH: wakes up every day with LO and takes him to daycare, grabs coffee and a donut for me on the way home, does bathnight about 5 nights a week, cooks and grocery shops most of the time, takes the trash and recycle out, does handyman work (we live in an old Victorian so there is something to do about every other day that requires a screwdriver/drill/manpower), does his fair share of landscaping

DH is also very good with playing with LO at nights and weekends and letting me take a break if I need one.

Edit: we have a housekeeper that comes once or twice a month and cleans the whole house. We have a handyman that does the heavy yard work, mows, does the leaves, and does house projects like painting and other more skilled handyman jobs.

No offense, but that does not read as 50/50. At all. If you guys are happy with the way it all works out, great! But I wouldn't kid myself that it's 50/50.

lol. It didn't read 50/50 to me either. I actually re-read it and still scratched my head as to the percentage split. Whatever works for her family is great but that definitely isn't 50/50.

grinsandgiggles · November 2010

I do 80% of the child care, clean the house, do mine and LO's laundry, cook.

DH does his own laundry, does a lot of the errands, takes out the trash, and takes care of outside. He also helps pick-up the house from time to time.

I'm not sure what the percentage is. Even if he's playing with LO he's helping out. I'd say it's about 50/50.

MrsBeckO · November 2010

DH takes the kitchen trash out most of the time, unloads the dishwasher and its his responsibility to keep the yard. He keeps DD weekday mornings until I get home from work, she wakes up around 730am and I am home by 10am every day. The rest is on me. I do the grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, kitchen (minus the dishwasher unloading), floors, and childcare from 10am to bedtime on weekdays and usually all weekend. I'd say its about 90-10, me-him. But in his defense, he is working 2 jobs and leaves for work as soon as I get home weekdays not to return until long after DD and I are asleep. Weekends he usually works 11hr days. When he is home, he is very involved.. but that's just not something that happens often around here. At least not at this stage in our life, unfortunately.

macchiatto · November 2010

It's more me, but I'm a SAHM. I do almost all the cooking, cleaning, grocery and household shopping, and laundry, and all the childcare while he's at work. He gets up with the boys 5 days a week (though lately they've been sleeping later so sometimes he doesn't get a chance before he has to leave) and--if there's time--feeds them breakfast and cleans up. I take over when he has to leave for work. When he gets home, he takes over with them while I make/finish dinner. He does quite a bit of the childcare while he's home, often to give me a chance to cook, clean or run errands more easily. We do dinner, play time, bath and bed time together, and then work together to clean up the kitchen and toys. He also does a lot of the financial stuff, car maintenance, and any repairs around the house.

katiekate1974 · November 2010

lkaylee721:
katiekate1974:
erino&chrish:

I voted 50/50. Here is how we divide responsibility:

ME: keep the hosue clean, wash my laundry and LO's laundry, empty the dishwasher 50% of the time, brush/bathe the dog/cat, do bathnight a couple nights a week with LO, cook once or twice a week

DH: wakes up every day with LO and takes him to daycare, grabs coffee and a donut for me on the way home, does bathnight about 5 nights a week, cooks and grocery shops most of the time, takes the trash and recycle out, does handyman work (we live in an old Victorian so there is something to do about every other day that requires a screwdriver/drill/manpower), does his fair share of landscaping

DH is also very good with playing with LO at nights and weekends and letting me take a break if I need one.

Edit: we have a housekeeper that comes once or twice a month and cleans the whole house. We have a handyman that does the heavy yard work, mows, does the leaves, and does house projects like painting and other more skilled handyman jobs.

No offense, but that does not read as 50/50. At all. If you guys are happy with the way it all works out, great! But I wouldn't kid myself that it's 50/50.

Just curious, are you saying that she or her DH do more work?

You read it, too, right? You tell ME. LOL

Scooter359 · November 2010

SS for us. But i guess it could be more like 70/30. M-F I do everything around the house, while he goes to work. I think that is fair. He gets home and will play with Mason most of the time while I get dinner or finish up cleaning. On the weekends we crank up the music and clean house squeaky clean from top to bottom together.

chloephoebecali · November 2010

I used to do more household stuff than him, but now that I am pregnant, I am way too tired/run down, so it is more 50/50. I can't help but nap when DD naps, and that is the only time I get stuff done besides at night. Come night, I am too tired. I hope it all subsides when 1st tri is done. I am for the most part a very capable pregnant person, but I am just too exhausted. I do, however, do most tending to DD - bath, food, etc. He's just been doing an extra load of laundry/dishes here and there to help us out. He has also been working on redoing our foyer/stairwell/hallway - complete redo-tile, carpet, paint, light fixtures, so I get DD all week and weekend.

Emcat1980@yahoo.com · November 2010

I SAH and do almost everything. This is ok with me since I am at home....although I did resent it when I was working when Colin was tiny.

DH takes trash/recycling out most of the time, empties the litter box right now (b/c I am pregnant....before that it was me), and puts Colin down each night (takes about 10 min total). That is about it. Of course he plays with Colin after work each day, but I don't consider that part of the division of "labor" --- that's just enjoying his son. When we owned a house he did probably 70% of the yardwork, but we are apartment dwellers now so there is none.

ETA: He is good about doing whatever little tasks I ask though -- he'll unload dishes or start a load of clothes when asked. He just rarely does it on his own initiative, and rarely does it up to par to my picky standards, lol!

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