Baby Shower...Opinions Please!

JMU_Bride09 · November 2010

Ok, so I know it seems extremely early to even be thinking about this, but I need some opinions.

My sister has offered to throw a baby shower for me. I live 1000 miles away from her and DH's family, and at least 1500 miles away from most of my extended family. The likelihood of my family/friends flying down to see us for a shower is not good. And DH and I would prefer to not spend the money for a flight up to see them for a shower so that we can put that money towards the baby. Driving up is out of the question because of DH's work schedule. I'm not really a fan of the Skype Showers...I want to be there for my shower. DH and I are going up to visit the families at Christmas, so my sister suggested perhaps throwing the baby shower then. I will only be 18 weeks at Christmas....is that way too early for a shower? Thanks for the advice ladies!

pinkflipflops44 · November 2010

I would say because of logistics, no. That makes sense. We had my SILs shower and she was only 15 weeks because that was the only time she was going to be home for another year.

mybobofo · November 2010

I know that there are etiquette rules, but break them if you have to! Have a shower whenever you can make it! My parents live "up north" and I am in Florida. They are having one for me in January - more affordable plane tickets and my last month to travel.

My mom suggested a Skype shower at first, too. But I really want to be able to visit my family when I'm pregnant, not just see them on the computer screen. Plus, it will be the only time I see my mom and dad (and it'll be over a year by then).

Another option - is there anyone who would spend the money or go in on a gift of a plane ticket for you? Then you could make it later so that you're showing and you will know the sex if you want to (although I know some people find out earlier). DH isn't going up there with me because we can't afford to both go. But I don't mind shelling out the $280 ticket - it will surely be made up for in baby loot. (Brash, I know, but that's what showers are for.)

mizzmeg · November 2010

I am in the same situation! My family lives in Ohio and Indiana and same with my DH but we are going there for Christmas so our family will be throwing our baby shower then! Hopefully we can find out what were having before we go! Ill be 19 weeks when we leave! I think if you need to do a shower around your schedules then you have no choice!

Good Luck!

kgail11 · November 2010

It's very clearly most practical to do it at xmas-time, so do it! It's not like you're 6 weeks along or anything - I think it's plenty pregnant!!

MommyHarrison · November 2010

I'm having an early shower, as well. DH and I will move 1000 miles away from all of our friends and family at the end of January, so my family and friends have decided to have a shower before I go, which is very thoughtful and will save me a trip back home when I'm even farther along. If they've offered to do it, don't feel a bit bad about it!!! We're even registering a few weeks before Christmas for some gender neutral items we want so family can buy us baby gear as Christmas gifts.

Beanie511 · November 2010

I think having the shower then is fine! Yes there are etiquette "rules", but it makes total sense to have it then. Like a pp said, you'll be 18 weeks, not 6 weeks. Good luck deciding.

JMU_Bride09 · November 2010

Thanks for all of the opinions

I think it will definitely come down to logistics, like when we can get up there and if it will work for everyone, but I'm not so worried about it being early now. If that's when it needs to happen, then it will work out and still be great. Thanks for the advice!

mlatiolais · November 2010

I think its perfectly fine as well. We are having mine in Jan/Feb when DH has his post deployment leave. I know I'll only be 22-26 weeks (I think?) and I know some people consider that early, but when you have to travel 12 hours and only have certain times you can take off (DH) you do what you have to. If we lived near family, sure, waiting till 30+ weeks is fine but sometimes that just isn't practical.

fluffybuns · November 2010

Sure, most people don't have their showers until later, but because your families are so far away from you, I think it only makes sense!

There's no wrong time to celebrate becoming a mommy!!

pandi02a · November 2010

I am planning on having mine when I am home for Xmas too. I live in Germany, my parents are in Detroit and my in-laws are in Miami. We are going to Miami for Xmas this year, but my family is planning on coming down for Xmas too. I may even have my shower the day after Xmas so that both families can attend.

I also have to buy EVERYTHING then. Everything is so much more expensive in Europe. For example the stroller I want is $500 in the US but 600 Euros here. 600 Euros is equal to $812. For real. So I pay $500 while I am there or $812 later. Screw that. Like I said though, I have to do that for everything. I am getting all of my cloth diapers, clothes, ect. while I am there. It's going to be a crazy time. I will be 19 weeks on my birthday, Christmas eve. Oh yeah, did I mention that my birthday is the 24th and MH's bday is the 27th. Crazy busy vacation. I am so excited.

Plus, who cares what people think? If that's when you can have your shower, do it!

MiamiMergers · November 2010

I am in the same situation. I will be 22 weeks at my shower over the holidays. It just makes the most sense for me and all of my out-of-town family.

BecauseICan · November 2010

I think it 100% makes sense, and if I were a gift giver, I'd much rather you open the gift where I can physically see you than wait a few more weeks and see you on a computer screen.

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