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Is it normal to feel this way?
Today is my due date and tomorrow the babies will be a month old.
Sometimes it still makes me mad/sad that they spent 2 weeks in the NICU.
I feel like I some how was jipped, that I missed out on part of their
lives, they're already 4 weeks old, yet they've only been home for 2 weeks. I feel like they should only be 2 weeks old,
because I've only really had 2 weeks of time to bond with them. It
was really hard to try to bond with them in the NICU. It's hard to feel
like they're your own when you can never hold them without asking
someone first, when you're never allowed to be alone with them, when
someone is listening to everything you say to them. I tried really
hard, but it wasn't until we had them at home that I really started to
bond and feel like they were mine. Because of this, I feel like I've
missed out on part of their lives. I know over time I'll get over this
feeling, and everyday I feel less angry and bitter about it all, but please tell me it's normal to feel this way?
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Re: Is it normal to feel this way?
It is totally normal to feel this way. I still feel like I was cheated out of a normal birth experience...I didn't get to go through active labor, hold my LO right after birth or even see my LO for 12 hours after she arrived (they held her up super fast over the sheet before whisking her off to the NICU, but all I saw was a foot).
I try to think of it this way though...even though giving birth to a preemie was a scary experience that I would never want to repeat ever again, I got to meet my LO 10 weeks ahead of schedule! Cherish these extra four weeks with your girls that most mommies don't get!