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Just when we get child support settled!

Mama2S-K-MMama2S-K-M member
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UGH!  We have been going back and forth about child support with DD#1's dad for 3 freaking years now.  We finally get a somewhat decent amount put in place and he gets fired the 1st month it goes into effect!  He ws fired for poor job performance after being warned multiple times. 

He works in financal investments and with the economy being what it is I understand it can be rough, but he wasn't even trying!  He would hardly ever go into the office!

Now he is sitting on his butt not even looking for anything else to support not only my child, but the 2 other children he has with his ex-wife, while mooching off his girlfriend living in her house with her 2 children!

Such a wonderful example he sets for his children!

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Re: Just when we get child support settled!

  • hterry85hterry85 member
    Ugh, I have an (ex) uncle that does this. Every time csr would track down where he was employed, he would quit. The good news (if you want to call it that) is that all 3 kids are over 18 and she's going to be getting $ from him for years to come...
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  • PhantomgirlPhantomgirl member
    Ugh that really sucks!
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  • SaranSaran member
    That sucks and I hope you get all straightened out but is it just me that you know an awful lot about what he's doing in his house? I mean, are the kids giving you all this info?
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  • singlemom4nowsinglemom4now
    Sorry, but I would say get used to it.  I gave up trying to get a fair amount of child support.  BD has been in trouble three times for short changing me on child support.  He has been doing it again.  The legal system here wont do anything about it.  BD avoided paying child support for the first year of DDs life.  He found all kinds of legal loop holes.  When he couldn't do that anymore he got "fired" from his job too.  He now pays the minimum amount in child support and somehow on his 20 hour work weeks at minimum wage managed to buy a four bed room house, car for his GF, remodel a bunch of things in the house and take lots of vacations all in a year after the divorce was final and the bank took back our house.  Anyone that gets any child support should be thankful for what they get and never rely on getting it. 
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  • Mama2S-K-MMama2S-K-M member
    imageSaran:
    That sucks and I hope you get all straightened out but is it just me that you know an awful lot about what he's doing in his house? I mean, are the kids giving you all this info?


    He is stupid enough to share info with his ex wife who shares info with me.  I also found out about his shitty job performance while we were in court last time.
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  • SaranSaran member

    imageMama2S-K-M:
    imageSaran:
    That sucks and I hope you get all straightened out but is it just me that you know an awful lot about what he's doing in his house? I mean, are the kids giving you all this info?


    He is stupid enough to share info with his ex wife who shares info with me.  I also found out about his shitty job performance while we were in court last time.

    Gotcha. And yes, he doesn't sound too bright.

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  • Mama2S-K-MMama2S-K-M member

    imagesinglemom4now:
    Sorry, but I would say get used to it.  I gave up trying to get a fair amount of child support.  BD has been in trouble three times for short changing me on child support.  He has been doing it again.  The legal system here wont do anything about it.  BD avoided paying child support for the first year of DDs life.  He found all kinds of legal loop holes.  When he couldn't do that anymore he got "fired" from his job too.  He now pays the minimum amount in child support and somehow on his 20 hour work weeks at minimum wage managed to buy a four bed room house, car for his GF, remodel a bunch of things in the house and take lots of vacations all in a year after the divorce was final and the bank took back our house.  Anyone that gets any child support should be thankful for what they get and never rely on getting it. 

    I should be "used to it" at this point since I have been doing this for 13 yrs.  It really doesn't make it any less irritating though. 

    I have to call bullshit on being thankful for whatever child support I get ...that's crap!  He had just as much to do with this child being here as I did, he should be supporting her.  He is morally and legally obligated to do so.   I should not feel priledged every time he throws a dollar my way for a child he also created.  If he didn't want to support her he should have taken the out I gave him 13 yrs ago and walked away.  He chose to be in her life, so he needs to man up.

    And unfortunately not relying on child support is not an option for some people.  I am fortunate enough to have a good job that supports all of my children, some are not. 

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