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life isn't fair vent.

NDwife07NDwife07
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Not to trivialize what has happened with my SIL (see post below - she miscarried yesterday), but in some awful twist of fate, she got her BFP the same day as our cousin - who is in a terribly unstable, heavily in-debt (financially) marriage with a guy who has cheated on her several times.

Why do so many loving, capable, deserving people experience loss?

I don't care if I get flamed for being judgmental. I don't believe everyone should be a parent and I don't think it's fair that my SIL has to go through this.

Bah.

Wow, I'm quite the Debbie Downer today, huh?

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  • heatherchelleheatherchelle
    I totally understand what you're saying. 
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  • MommaMcGMommaMcG
    I often think like this as well.  Esp. when I see incredibly sad stories on the news about child abuse.  I hate how there are so many wonderful families that deserve a child but can't get pregnant.Sad
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  • amstepamstep member

    My personal vent about life not being fair is that there are women like me who wanted to BF more than anything in the world and who were/are unable, while others (who would more than likely be great at it) won't even try, or quit after a short period! 

    And even worse, if a BFing mom doesn't know my story, I sometimes get judged when I whip out the bottle or say my DS was FF.  I want to wear a big sign that says, "I ALMOST KILLED MYSELF TRYING!!!!!"  

    Vent over.  (Oh, and I agree with you.  No flames here.)

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  • mbs427mbs427
    I feel like that all of the time.  Working in a NICU makes it hard when TTC.  We see so many irresponsible and neglectful parents...those that have done every drug in the book during pregnancy, those without prenatal care, etc. 
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  • fruitcakesfruitcakes member
    Totally agree.
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  • kelclay724kelclay724 member
    agree 100%.
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  • amstepamstep member
    imagekatiemarie86:

    I totally agree. Esp. when I see former student getting pregnant in high school, but yet we have teachers at our school who would do anything to have children.

    One of my HS teachers believed that you should have to go in front of a judge and present your case and he/she could give you permission to have a child.

    My BFF is an OB, and while in med school, she did a stint at a downtown hospital, so she saw the worst of the worst as far as drug abusers, a lot of young teens (one 27 year old was there to see the birth of her GRANDCHILD, no joke.  She had been 13 and her daughter was 14), and those who had every STD in the book.  One particularly rough shift she called me and screamed that every female should give up their ovaries at 13 and then petition to get them back after turning 16 or even 21.  She wasn't serious, but it's sort of the same sentiment.  :-/

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  • inkygirlinkygirl
    imageamstep:

    My BFF is an OB, and while in med school, she did a stint at a downtown hospital, so she saw the worst of the worst as far as drug abusers, a lot of young teens (one 27 year old was there to see the birth of her GRANDCHILD, no joke.  She had been 13 and her daughter was 14), and those who had every STD in the book.  One particularly rough shift she called me and screamed that every female should give up their ovaries at 13 and then petition to get them back after turning 16 or even 21.  She wasn't serious, but it's sort of the same sentiment.  :-/

    Indifferent 

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  • lemen99lemen99 member
    I agree.  Sometimes I wish I knew more about what God's bigger plan - I like to think he has one, but in the mean time, it doesn't seem fair at all.
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  • amstepamstep member
    imagekatiemarie86:
    imageinkygirl:
    imageamstep:

    My BFF is an OB, and while in med school, she did a stint at a downtown hospital, so she saw the worst of the worst as far as drug abusers, a lot of young teens (one 27 year old was there to see the birth of her GRANDCHILD, no joke.  She had been 13 and her daughter was 14), and those who had every STD in the book.  One particularly rough shift she called me and screamed that every female should give up their ovaries at 13 and then petition to get them back after turning 16 or even 21.  She wasn't serious, but it's sort of the same sentiment.  :-/

    Indifferent 

    My thought too.

    True story and I'll never forget it because at the time, she and I were both 27 and both still in school.   Talk about contrast!

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  • Carmela752Carmela752
    Yup.
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  • chrislyndchrislynd
    imageamstep:
    imagekatiemarie86:
    imageinkygirl:
    imageamstep:

    My BFF is an OB, and while in med school, she did a stint at a downtown hospital, so she saw the worst of the worst as far as drug abusers, a lot of young teens (one 27 year old was there to see the birth of her GRANDCHILD, no joke.  She had been 13 and her daughter was 14), and those who had every STD in the book.  One particularly rough shift she called me and screamed that every female should give up their ovaries at 13 and then petition to get them back after turning 16 or even 21.  She wasn't serious, but it's sort of the same sentiment.  :-/

    Indifferent 

    My thought too.

    True story and I'll never forget it because at the time, she and I were both 27 and both still in school.   Talk about contrast!

    I was still in school, too, when I turned 27.  And got married just a few months after turning 27.  And didn't have a kid until 30.  To be a GRANDMA at 27 is just ick.

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