Are you going to be surprised?

kdelynko · November 2010

It seems like everyone is finding out the sex of their baby. Is there anyone out there who is leaving it as a surprise? When we told family members we weren't going to find out, some of them were slightly irritated!

kikibird · November 2010

We are leaning heavily toward Team Green. I know that I don't want to know the sex just yet, and DH is fine with not finding out, so we will probably stay that way. I like the idea of the surprise on the birth day.

ETA: So far, family has been fine with it. They all ask if we will find out ahead of time, and when we say we're thinking of waiting, they are cool with it (well maybe my mom seemed like she wanted to know!). I figure there will be plenty of time to buy gender-specific things for the baby after it's born. Plus I love the color green so the nursery will probably be neutral either way.

pinkpear · November 2010

People are touchy about this. They will respond and tell you that they will be surprised at an u/s and that the surprise is just as sweet. Just warning you.

But yes! DH and I are team green and are pumped about it! It's funny because people my age think we are strange for doing this but people in my grandparent's generation are so thrilled to hear that we are waiting.

honeylamb · November 2010

I'm definitely not waiting - no way could I do that. I have zero self control.

The only thing that irritates me about it is that I am not as excited when shopping for green baby showers. I hate to say this but I go overboard with the shopping when it is a boy and especially when it is a girl. When it is a green team situation I feel that I should only get what is on the registry. Obviously, this is a very minor concern if you are the parent waiting on the surprise!

babyhunbun7 · November 2010

Team green over here all the way!!!

Pythia1022 · November 2010

I am undecided about this. I don't think I have the patience to wait til the birth to find out the sex, and also I LOATHE the color green. I also love to decorate, which will be a lot easier once I know the sex. At the same time, I agree with the PP who said that "team green" showers are less enthusiastic, therefore more likely that you'll get things on your registry...which is a good thing, especially since I'm a first-time mom, and I'd much rather have the essentials than just a ton of pink or blue crap. I think I'll be finding out at least for myself, so that I can plan accordingly...plus, there really is a lot of ugly "neutral" baby stuff (IMHO) out there. But like I said, I loathe green in general, so...I'm biased lol.

JMU_Bride09 · November 2010

We're not waiting...we're both too excited to find out. But DH wants to keep the baby's name a secret until the birth, so I'm sure I'll understand your frustration with family/friends getting irritated about a secret. Just remember though that it's your decision...they either had their chance or will get their chance to find out or not. Do what makes you two happy!

robbie3982 · November 2010

We didn't find out with DS and don't plan to find out with this one either. This, however, does not mean that I won't be sitting at my computer analyzing the u/s video and trying to make my own guesses. Wink

ohmygoodness · November 2010

We are - I just think it's the ultimate surprise! Yeah, my Mom and sister would like to know, but they'll just have to get creative.

kdelynko · November 2010

I agree about the color green -- we are going to register for a few neutral clothing items, but since we are first time parents we are hoping to get some of the necessities on our registry from family members. I'm pretty sure the grandmas are going to go nuts after the baby gets here anyway, and we will have no shortage of clothes for the little one!

Sandy0904 · November 2010

We did not find out for DS and probably not for this one either unless we change our minds in the next few weeks.

I agree that it's more fun buying gifts for a baby shower when they know the gender but then you end up with more clothes than the child will ever need....seen it done so many times. That's why i try to avoid buying baby clothes for baby showers unless it's pj's or onesies that they registered for.

melgrady · November 2010

We are team green and our family is mostly excited about our decision. I am more surprised that my co-workers are irritated by the decision because they think it is impossible to create a nursery without knowing. Confused

They keep telling me that technology is so great why wait, but we have always known that we would be going the team green route.

iris427 · November 2010

I think we are going to wait for the birth to find out.

We found out at the big u/s last time, so we thought it would be fun to do it differently this time. Although it does make shopping less fun.

audrey79 · November 2010

Nope, to me- finding out I was PG was a surprise, seeing what the baby will look like is a surprise, figuring out how to adjust w/the new baby and figureing out baby's personality is all the surprises I need.

I have 2 boys- and this baby is it for us- I NEED to know if it's another boy, or if it's a girl- I'm so unfamiliar w/girls and we will need to do a lot of shopping/planning for a girl! I'm SO finding out ASAP.

andigurl · November 2010

We are definitely waiting to find out the sex and we're both so excited about the surprise. I just think the anticipation of it all will be so much fun.

We plan to have two names for each sex picked out and then choose after the LO is born. A few friends have shown a little disappointment that we're not finding out, but overall everyone seems excited that we are waiting.

jess0530 · November 2010

We haven't officially made up our minds but the plan now is for us to find out and to not tell anyone. I love the idea of a gender specific nursery and being able to do some shopping ahead of time... but want the exciting news to share when the baby actually gets here. I can't go without sneaking a peak at my Christmas or Birthday presents... I don't think I can make it the full 9 months!

BecauseICan · November 2010

We are team green again. Don't regret doing it the first time one bit.

Funny thing is, ppl complain about how it's not fun to buy things for baby showers, and that they end up just buying stuff off the registry...EXACTLY. LOL. We had everything we needed, and once DD was here, we bought lots of cute clothes for her.

kdbug0913 · November 2010

YES! Team Green all the way!

DH and I have been decided on this since way before we were even thinking about TTC. I know it will be hard, but we're going to wait

ToBeMrsC6907 · November 2010

We're team green!

And it irks my mom and sister to no end...they want to find out so they can shop!

kristennd · November 2010

We're letting it be a surprise.

We'd want a gender neutral nursery regardless.

It is pretty early in the process, however, and we did agree that if one of us had a dramatic change of heart and just *had* to know, we would find out.

smiling76 · November 2010

I highly recommend team green for the first baby--absolutely. We did that and it's great----you can keep the nursery neutral without using green (although I like sage so we did that with cream--winnie the pooh) but you can do blue/brown/yellows/---all kinds of colors. There are so many neutral things to choose from nowadays.

And you want the "big" things to be neutral for more babies---unless this is your only--then I'd totally find out.

For us--we're still debating on #2---not sure whether to find out or not. DH does NOT want to find out at all--and I'd kind of like to know to prepare my mind......labor will have enough stresses. LOL

steenvolleys · November 2010

i really want to know and DH does not. So i talked him into finding out but we'd reveal it at the shower. I know some people are against gender reveal parties- but that's what we're going to do- at the shower though. So we'll have the dr put it into an envelope and give it to whoever is doing our shower. Then everyone (including us) will find out what we're having at the shower. So we'll find out what it is, but not until almost the end. I like the idea of getting stuff off the registry that we actually need instead of all pink or blue stuff. But, I really want to know too.

JasonKristen · November 2010

My DH and I are team green! We have got some grief from immediate family, but I know it's only because they are so excited. It is the first grandchild for both my parents and my in-laws. It also has been really fun hearing all of the old wives tales and having them guessing. I am almost tempted to get a little pool going on the sex and due date just for fun!

pinkflipflops44 · November 2010

I am going to be surprised at 20 weeks give or take.

mybobofo · November 2010

I already feel like I don't know WHO is coming out. I def want to know WHAT is coming out!

But I am not surprised that people are irritated with you. My coworkers and family-friends have been really pushy about finding out. Especially after a few other preggos have found out early. I'm like, I'll tell you when I know. We can't afford to make an extra appt with the doc just to look up the baby's shorts!

They are also annoyed that we are not spilling the names yet. That will be our surprise.

UndecidedChange · November 2010

Team green. Or purple. Or yellow. Or grey. Or any other but blue and pink

I want a genderless baby.

shellindcwife · November 2010

Well no, seeing as I already changed the ticker. LOL.

There's no way I could wait. Want to have all my ducks in a row when baby arrives. The sex-of-the-baby surprise came with the our CVS test results and all parties are ok with that.

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