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Who to have in delivery room besides DH?

alswitchalswitch
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I've read a lot of things that say it's a good idea to have, besides your spouse, a woman who's already given birth in the delivery room with you especially for the first baby.  My mom is not an option and although I dearly love my MIL, she drives me a bit crazy so that's not the best choice either.  We haven't looked into a doula but perhaps that's an idea. 

For those of you who don't have moms or older sisters, who did you/do you intend to have in the room with you? 

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  • t.birdt.bird member

    there's no need to have someone else in the room imo.

    it ws just the husband, myself, nurses & the OB when i had my first.

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  • PunkyBoosterPunkyBooster member

    No one. My hospital's policy is you need the doctor's consent for extra support if you want more than 1 adult in the room with you.

     

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  • Princesseliss528Princesseliss528

    I'd definitely recommend a Doula! I didn't want female family members in there because they'd drive me nuts. So, I asked an old co-worker (who's also a Doula), if she'd be willing to be there. We were close, so of course she said yes! She's had 8 kids of her own, and has been a Doula to over 70 births. If you can't find or don't want a Doula, maybe look to a friend who has had children already. HTH

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  • ValVail67ValVail67

    During the 1st part of my pregnancy with DS I had said I didn't even want DH in the delivery room. Now I'm glad he was in there, along with my Dr. & 1 nurse, but that's all I feel the need to have in there again. If I had a doula I'd obviously have her in there, but I don't, so I won't. That's all.

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  • LjojoLjojo member

    I only wanted my DH with me and the delivery went fine.  DH will be the only one with me this time too. 

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  • Mrslove78Mrslove78 member
    The nurses are AMAZING, you only need DH.  The nurses will take such great care of you.
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  • renc9828renc9828
    My mom was in the room when Max was born. She was going to leave for the pushing and such because she HATES blood and guts, but everything just kinda happened quickly and a nurse gave her a leg to hold so she ended up staying. I think she really enjoyed it. I was in labor for a really long time after already being in the hospital the weekend before they induced me so because it had been such a draining experience I think my husband was happy to have someone there (especially because I was super cranky, borderline pyscho biitch). IMO to each their own.
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  • MrsJones714MrsJones714

    In addition to the nurses and Doc (and anesthesiologist if necessary)...DH and my Mom. Only. FIRM.

    NO MIL.

    NO interns.

    NO friends.

    NO random passersby.

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  • AdriannneLAdriannneL member
    I dont really see any point in having anybody besides my boyfriend in the room. At first i wanted my mom there, but the more i thought about it i want the birth to be something for my boyfriend and I to share together. Plus if my mom was in there I didnt want his mom to want to be in the room and not be able to, or keep the door open for anyone else that wanted to be there, like my grandma or and of his family. I figure with my dr and the nurses there they've all gone through enough births or had children of their own to know how to coach me.
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  • ABizzityABizzity
    Im planning on only DH.  I think thats all we need.  If my sister or my best friend asked, I would let them come in because I was in the room for their births.  We havent talked about it though.  No way would my Mom or my MIL be of any help or comfort so they can just chill. 
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  • moni2moni2
    I don't want my mother or MIL in the room.  I think the midwives and my husband are enough.  The rest of the family can come in right after, but I can only imagine my stress level increasing with others in the room.
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  • kcfan729kcfan729
    My mom and DH are coming in with me. I have left the option for my sister(16) to come in if she would like.
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  • Sunnyinseattle1Sunnyinseattle1
    I have a mom and older sister, but I only want my Hubs in room while delivering. I guess it is everyones choice or opinion. I dont want my mom or sister in room with me. They can visit before and after.
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  • Mama_SASMama_SAS member
    I did not want anyone else in there and it worked out just fine.
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  • alswitchalswitch

    Thanks for all the fantastic replies.  We've had 2 out of 3 birthing classes at this point and from what I've heard there and here, it'll be best for us if it's just DH in the room with me.  Best of luck to all the MTBs!

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