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When do I stop counting?

pumpkinhead4pumpkinhead4 member
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Hi girls-

Ugh. I had a D & C 10 weeks ago. I was at 11 weeks, so I would be 21 weeks now. I can't stop counting or thinking about how big I would be right now or how my baby would be developing. I am getting help but am still sad as my due date creeps closer. I am scared to get pregnant again, maybe I am not ready for another child ( I have a 2 yr old). Anyone else do this or feel this way? 

6 & 2 year old, 2 losses
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Re: When do I stop counting?

  • Snowbride02Snowbride02
    This is exactly how I feel. My miscarriage was 6 weeks ago. I would have been 18 weeks pregnant tomorrow. I think about our lost baby 100 times a day. What encourages me is that there are some days I feel hopeful that I will feel better and will get back to a happy place. Right now I have more sad than hopeful days. But i HOPE it will get better. You are not alone!
    Lucy 12.18.06, Will 6.21.09 & Adeline 11.2.11
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  • haziedazehaziedaze member
    Hi pumpkin- I don't know if you ever stop counting. It's one of those things that's ingrained in your memory, I think. I'm scared to get pregnant too, in some ways. I know I won't be as happy-go-lucky the next time around. But someday I want a take home baby and there's only one way to make that happen... bite the bullet :o) Take all the time you need though, there's no rush. ((HUGS))
    BFP#1 9/14/10 (EDD 5/21/11); no fetal pole 6w6d, 7w4d, d&c 10/8
    BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
    Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
    BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
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  • dayjessicadayjessica
    I feel the exact same way. I was 11 weeks also, and I keep counting and thinking how we would be finding out the sex and planning ababy shower right now. It doesnt help that two of my closest friends are about as far along as I would have been. So I dont think Ill be able to stop counting at all. I also have a 2 year old, and am not sure If I wanna try again soon or wait. Im scared maybe this was a sign from God that we are not ready fro number two. I think I may need a lot of work on myself before im ready to get pregnant again. Im afraid if I got pregnant now it would just be to make myself feel better, and thats not fair for my future baby.
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  • PMTeaglePMTeagle member
    There will always be certain things you will be aware of that you "should" be experiencing, but when I stopped counting it was the best thing I could have done for myself.  A year ago this month I conceived.  I would have had a little one now to start enjoying their first holidays, so lately things have been a little diffcult again.  Try to stop counting though, it will seriously help.
    Stopped BCP 7/08 BFP 11/09 - Natural MC 12/09 PCOS 2/10 - Began taking Metformin Femara with trigger from 3/10-7/10 IUI#1 7/10 - BFN Taking a break while I work on my Masters... Now cycling on my own with Metformin. BFP 2/18/11!!! Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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