Going back to work...

AutumnBride81 · November 2010

Ok moms who have already gone back to work, how on earth did you do it? Yesterday (November 1st) I was sad ALL day because I realized I am going back this month. Thinking about it makes me want to hurl. How can I leave my sweet baby? I am going to miss so much! Someone else is going to have to tell me how his day was, what he did and how he slept. I never thought I would want to stay home full time until DS actually arrived and the intensity of my love for him hit me like a ton of bricks. Now I can't imagine going back and not missing him every second of every day. Unfortunately me not working is not in the cards for us :-(

How do you manage and how long does it take to find a rhythm?

Mrs_Marcos · November 2010

It's hard. Real hard. Today was my first day. I was a mess. But this being #2, I was a little better. Work kept me busy too.

It will get easier, not better, but easier. We made up our time by cosleeping. Holding LO is all I can do to spend quality time with them without feeling horribly guilty for leaving them in someone else's care.

Especially when I know she just wants to sleep sometimes and needs to be held do so.

Don't worry. Enjoy the time you have now.

marrymemylove · November 2010

Can't really help you there as I longed to go back to work after DS1 and can see I will this time too though not as desperately. I don't miss my baby and that doesn't mean they aren't loved. I *worry* about them a lot, that's different, but if they were with my Mum I probably wouldn't worry much at all and definitely prefer to be at work :-P

With DS I went back at 5 months and was dying to go. With DD who is 8 weeks I am hoping to go back around 4 months or so but might be more like 6 as I need childcare. I will worry about her but honestly I could go back now and not feel I was missing anything.

Babies just sleep and feed and spew and poo and occasionally coo...I don't need to be there for that. I will gladly take a year off work when she's 2 though, that's a great age when they can walk and talk (wish I could have done that with DS).

jamienbj · November 2010

Reading this post literally just made me cry b/c I do not want to leave my LO ever! I don't wanna miss a thing (insert Aerosmith song here)....but alas, I have to. My DH will be a SAHD so I feel better about that and I don't go back until Feb 1st, but I still think about it daily.

Jaffytaffy · November 2010

Is working from home a possibility for you? I'm working 20 hours a week from home until halfway through December, and then I'll be back FT, but working from home 2 days a week, so at least I only have to be away from her 3 days a week

/ I'm really lucky I work for a great company and they really work with me on my schedule. Do you work in a job where telecommuting some days would be feasible? I still dread the day I have to leave her in daycare even for only three days/wk, but it eases the blow a bit.

ericaandsy · November 2010

I feel your pain. I go back to work December 6th and am absolutely dreading it. Just the thought of my first day back makes me emotional

rodiesmum · November 2010

i dont know how i have managed the past 6 weeks since i went back to work. im away for 10-11 hours at a time. its really sad. i just take comfort in the thought that im working for her future, and to give her what she needs (although sometimes i think that it is really me that she needs and that she doesn't need much) but since i have no choice, i gotta go back to work.

I just think of the brighter side. that im blessed with a great job. i call her all the time, never mind if it annoys the sitter. i rush to the door when the clock strikes EOB. i so like it that she co-sleeps and that she wakes up to nurse at night i loved weekends and holidays. im about to cry now =(

and another thing : i started betting on the lottery. who knows right? i didnt realize it would be this hard. i so wished DH was rich enough to just let me be a SAHM.

anyway since your post made me cry, here's something for ya. this is the lyrics to my song for LO.

I don't wanna miss a thing (aerosmith)

I could stay awake just to hear you breathing
Watch you smile while you are sleeping
Far away and dreaming
I could spend my life in this sweet surrender
I could stay lost in this moment forever
Well, every moment spent with you
Is a moment I treasure

I don't wanna close my eyes
I don't wanna fall asleep
'Cause I'd miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing
'Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I'd still miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing

Lying close to you
Feeling your heart beating
And I'm wondering what you're dreaming
Wondering if it's me you're seeing
Then I kiss your eyes and thank God we're together
And I just wanna stay with you
In this moment forever, forever and ever

I don't wanna close my eyes
I don't wanna fall asleep
'Cause I'd miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing
'Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I'd still miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing

I don't wanna miss one smile
I don't wanna miss one kiss
Well, I just wanna be with you
Right here with you, just like this
I just wanna hold you close
Feel your heart so close to mine
And stay here in this moment
For all the rest of time

Don't wanna close my eyes
Don't wanna fall asleep
'Cause I'd miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing
'Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
'Cause I'd still miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing

I don't wanna close my eyes
I don't wanna fall asleep
'Cause I'd miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing
'Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I'd still miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing

Don't wanna close my eyes
Don't wanna fall asleep, yeah
I don't wanna miss a thing

VTSKIBUM · November 2010

I went back to work on Monday. It was easier this time than it was when I left DD1 for the first time. Just take things one day at a time and try to keep busy. Its been nice to have adult conversation again during the day and work definitely keeps me busy. Most childcare places tell you to check in as often or as little as you like.Good luck.

slkmpt · November 2010

I know how you feel. I go back on Monday and this is my second child. I think it is harder with the second for me because this time I was not so anxious about everything and was able to enjoy every moment. I became an independent consultant for a home show party and have the potential to make a lot of $$ in hopes that I can cut down my hours at work and maybe quit all together. It does get easier but I know it took a month for me last time.

mharts05 · November 2010

I know how u feel. I want to cry when I think about going back to work. To help make the transition easier it may be good to start going out and running errands, shopping, etc when you have reliable help with baby. I am trying to do this, b/c up to this point I rarely leave them. They will be kept by my MIL and mom when I go back to work, so I am having them come over a day or two a week and letting me out for 3-4 hours. This way the first time I leave them won't be the day I go to work. Hopefully, it will help but I no no matter what I do it will be a very hard day.

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