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wwyd if you found out a family secret....

DandRDandR
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...that you really wish you never knew????

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  • DaiLyghtDaiLyght
    Try to learn to not think about it. There's a lot of crap I know about my parents marriage/divorce that I wish I didn't know. I wish there was a way to un-learn something.
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  • KatieandGabbyKatieandGabby

    Hmmmmm....depends on what it was about and how I found out. 

    Are you going to tell us the secret???   Wink

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  • sweetie1528sweetie1528

    I do, but luckily it was about my great uncle's family.  I've only told my mom.  I hate knowing it, but it is what it is.

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  • reynahreynah

    Happened to me... I have never said anything even though at times it was hard.

    I think it depends on the secret though. If someone really needs some help, it might be silly to not try and help them, even if it involves having to tell someone.

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  • KoriBrettKoriBrett
    Not sure.  I have 2 of them that if the family found out, it'd ruin everyone.  It'd be a HUGE mess.  I'm pretty sure my dad cheated on mom.  Nobody knows that but me.  And a lot of the family has no clue about what my brother did.
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  • stacynikkistacynikki member

    Try to forget about it.  Really though, it depends on the secret.

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  • BubblyToesBubblyToes member
    I try to pretend like I don't know.  It wouldn't help anyone if I ever said anything. 
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  • DandRDandR

    alright...you all have to be subjected to it too.....I can't be the only one who knows.

    My great-grandma's obituary says she died from influenza at the age of 35, and just one year after my great-grandfather died...but the truth is she got knocked up with a new boyfriend's baby and he made her get a back alley abortion, which killed her, leaving my grandfather (at the age of 12) and his brother (only 8) orphans.

    I feel sooooo sad and sick for her and I never knew her.  But what other options did she have a the time...the scandal of being knocked up so soon after your husband has died..and unmarried....ugh. 

     

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  • excitedtobemrsexcitedtobemrs
    That is awful!  What a horrible sitaution she was in, especially at that time. :(
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  • mikeandmonicamikeandmonica
    That is such a sad secret!  But given that the parties involved aren't alive anymore, I don't think it is a big deal to not tell anymore, kwim?  How did you find this out though?
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  • DandRDandR

    my grandma didn't want the secret to "die" with her, so on her death bed a few years ago she told my aunt, who recently told my dad who decided this was great conversation yesterday at dinner.  I couldn't eat afterwards.

     

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  • sweetie1528sweetie1528

    that is sooo sad!

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  • mikeandmonicamikeandmonica
    OMG what a horrible dinner conversation!  I can see telling a few people in private so that they know, so the secret doesn't die, etc. - or put it in some kind of family stories book or something - but over dinner?  You poor thing.  I'm so sorry you had to deal with that at dinner.
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