If a guy put his hands on your waist and knee...

tripthelightfantastick · November 2010

would you think he was flirting with you?

shihtzumomma · November 2010

yes.

anukindaluv · November 2010

Totally.

mrsmyers8 · November 2010

it depends on the guy... yes maybe flirting.

BethD76 · November 2010

Yes

ecoppins · November 2010

Yes, but he might just be that touchy kind. My first reaction was "what kind of freak would just randomly came up and touch your waist and knee and leave." LMAO! I need sleep

tripthelightfantastick · November 2010

mrsmyers8:
it depends on the guy... yes maybe flirting.

He's a co-wroker. He's about 10-15 years older than me. He jokes around with everyone, he's a pretty friendly guy. I'm studying for a math placement test for college, and he was helping me (he's an engineer so he's a math wizz). He went out of the lunch room and came back, standing over me looking at the paper he put his hands on my waist and talked to me about the problem. Then he sat down next to me again and put his hand on my knee. He acted like it was nothing, but I was really uncomfortable, and didn't know whether he was just trying to be friendly or what.

redhotchili83 · November 2010

... or molesting me

happilyhis · November 2010

redhotchili83:
... or molesting me

yeah, I'd say in the workplace, what he did was both flirtatious and inappropriate. I would've probably moved away when he did the waist grab.

LadyHollywood · November 2010

Whether he was flirting or not, if it made you uncomfortable, you shouldn't deal with it. Tell him you aren't comfortable with being touched like that.

ecoppins · November 2010

I agree, you should say something if it bothered you.

blublusher · November 2010

definately and to me, its inappropriate in the workplace...

mrsmyers8 · November 2010

tripthelightfantastick:

mrsmyers8:
it depends on the guy... yes maybe flirting.

He's a co-wroker. He's about 10-15 years older than me. He jokes around with everyone, he's a pretty friendly guy. I'm studying for a math placement test for college, and he was helping me (he's an engineer so he's a math wizz). He went out of the lunch room and came back, standing over me looking at the paper he put his hands on my waist and talked to me about the problem. Then he sat down next to me again and put his hand on my knee. He acted like it was nothing, but I was really uncomfortable, and didn't know whether he was just trying to be friendly or what.

I would think he could be a touchy feely person. You can also let him know you dont like to be touched. I am touchy feely so i would think nothing of it. We have a guy here that says dont touch me, he is very aware of his space and who is in it. I would say something next time he does it that it bothers you.

cchill01 · November 2010

Engineers can be very socially awkward. But, I would be totally skeeved.

tripthelightfantastick · November 2010

There was another time a couple weeks ago that he came up behind me while I was typing and put his hands on my waist, it wasn't as long though, and while I thought about mentioning it, I let it go...

I'm going to talk to my hubby about it, his dad is the President of the company I work for. I don't know why but I feel uncomfortable talking to anyone else about.

diana.filipi · November 2010

Yes

tripthelightfantastick · November 2010

mrsmyers8:
tripthelightfantastick:

mrsmyers8:
it depends on the guy... yes maybe flirting.

He's a co-wroker. He's about 10-15 years older than me. He jokes around with everyone, he's a pretty friendly guy. I'm studying for a math placement test for college, and he was helping me (he's an engineer so he's a math wizz). He went out of the lunch room and came back, standing over me looking at the paper he put his hands on my waist and talked to me about the problem. Then he sat down next to me again and put his hand on my knee. He acted like it was nothing, but I was really uncomfortable, and didn't know whether he was just trying to be friendly or what.

I would think he could be a touchy feely person. You can also let him know you dont like to be touched. I am touchy feely so i would think nothing of it. We have a guy here that says dont touch me, he is very aware of his space and who is in it. I would say something next time he does it that it bothers you.

Part of me thinks, it's nothing he's just a friendly "touchy feely" kind of person and I'm thinking too far into it, but on the other hand I don't think I've seen him ever put his hands on anyone else... I don't know. Like I said I'm going to talk to DH, if I'm thinking to far into it, or it's inappropriate he'll help me.

happilyhis · November 2010

It really wouldn't matter to me whether or not he was a "touchy-feely person." It's still inappropriate.

xnbride · November 2010

tripthelightfantastick:
mrsmyers8:
it depends on the guy... yes maybe flirting.

He's a co-wroker. He's about 10-15 years older than me. He jokes around with everyone, he's a pretty friendly guy. I'm studying for a math placement test for college, and he was helping me (he's an engineer so he's a math wizz). He went out of the lunch room and came back, standing over me looking at the paper he put his hands on my waist and talked to me about the problem. Then he sat down next to me again and put his hand on my knee. He acted like it was nothing, but I was really uncomfortable, and didn't know whether he was just trying to be friendly or what.

he is totally "fishing" to see how you will respond and how much he can get away with. Guys like that do stuff to see how you will react so they know if they can take it one step further and further. I imagine he will keep testing his limits if you do not demonstrate that it makes you uncomfortable (via change in body language, verbalize your discomfort, or avoidance).

susanlovestexas · November 2010

happilyhis:
It really wouldn't matter to me whether or not he was a "touchy-feely person." It's still inappropriate.

This! Even if he's socially awkward or whatever, those aren't excuses to do things like that, especially at work.

aocain02@yahoo.com · November 2010

cchill01:
Engineers can be very socially awkward. But, I would be totally skeeved.

Hey, whatcha trying to say? My hubby us an engineer. Smile

We had a guy at work who was very touchy feely, it was who he is as a person. In the beginning I thought it was strange, but he was harmless. Some women did complain and he was talked to. That upset him and he said he wished those people would've just told him. He never touched anyone after that until his last day. Wait, he was an engineer too!!! If you're uncomfortable I'd probably talk to the guy first and just let him know. If he keeps it up then I'd go to my supervisor.

sasky · November 2010

Yuck. I woulda been super skeeved. But if I thought he was a genuinely nice person, I would have just let it go. If he creeped me out regularly, I would have taken it as an opportunity to say something.

jonnygurl76 · November 2010

xnbride:
tripthelightfantastick:

mrsmyers8:
it depends on the guy... yes maybe flirting.

He's a co-wroker. He's about 10-15 years older than me. He jokes around with everyone, he's a pretty friendly guy. I'm studying for a math placement test for college, and he was helping me (he's an engineer so he's a math wizz). He went out of the lunch room and came back, standing over me looking at the paper he put his hands on my waist and talked to me about the problem. Then he sat down next to me again and put his hand on my knee. He acted like it was nothing, but I was really uncomfortable, and didn't know whether he was just trying to be friendly or what.

he is totally "fishing" to see how you will respond and how much he can get away with. Guys like that do stuff to see how you will react so they know if they can take it one step further and further. I imagine he will keep testing his limits if you do not demonstrate that it makes you uncomfortable (via change in body language, verbalize your discomfort, or avoidance).

this and regardless of where you are (work, out with friends, gym) if anyone touches you in a way that makes you uncomfortable than it is inappropriate. period.

you need to speak up and make it known to him that he can't touch you, in any way. you need to be able to this for yourself if you are going to teach your child that it is not ok to be touched by strangers.

Krisann79 · November 2010

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