Baby shower for 2nd babies

Mrs.Pepin · October 2008

I don't know if I want another shower for this baby. Cuz DD is 2 yrs old now. If I have a son then maybe. My best friend says she doesn't think its a good idea. But my mom says yes. Whats everyone else doing? Thanks:)

Garnetbaby09 · October 2008

2 yrs is kinda close but if its a boy then maybe... I can see that being okay.

jskelly15 · October 2008

I would leave it in the hands of whom ever wants to throw one for you. IMO I think it is to close in age. I have never been invited to a 2nd shower. You can always do a "welcome home baby" thing after the baby is born, if you feel up to it. I have heard of doing a pampers party.

SoTouchy · October 2008

My SIL didn't have anything for her second. We may have a meet the baby party afterwards. As my sister said, every baby deserves to be celebrated. But it may just be with our immediate families. Or we may just leave it for the baptism and call that good.

Mrs.Pro · October 2008

we were going to if it was a boy, we have a girl already. but we went to our u/s last week and found out its another girl! so much for another shower, lol

Jessimurph · October 2008

I tend to think showers for 2nd babies are tacky and it makes the mom look gift gruby. Having said that, there are always circumstances that make it ok and if they are your close friends and family they probably won't care.

I don't know...I'm not having a shower at all so I'm up in the air about the whole thing.

TimingisEverything · October 2008

I think 2 years is too close in age to have a 2nd baby shower.

JessandHank · October 2008

we did a "diaper drop" for my friend when she had her second. Everyone at school brought in a package of diapers ranging in sizes, and set them on her desk, so when she came in in the morning she had A TON of diapers, she had enough sizes to get her through a year, she had to supplement of course, but she had a ton! then when she had the baby, only a few of us brought her some clothes and gifts once she was home.

Temp965378937506476 · October 2008

I would not want a full blown shower. I would love to just go out to a nice lunch with some girlfriends or something, though. Not for the gifts, but just for a little fun afternoon. I was thinking about throwing one for me and some of my girlfriends... there are 4 of us in our playgroup that are expecting baby #2, so I was thinking we could all get together and have a fun lunch to celebrate baby #2 since none of us will probably have a shower. No presents, but a chance to celebrate this baby.

TLLyman · October 2008

My mom is throwing a shower for me. DS and this child will only be 20 months apart. I don't know what we are having this time yet. (we find out the 29th) but either way I'm going to have one. If we are having another boy we will just call it a diaper shower. Every child should be celebrated IMO - and if someone offers to throw me a shower who am I to say no?

EastCoastBride · October 2008

Other than clothes, what do you really NEED for a different gender? And I've found that most people are inundated w/ new clothes regardless if they have a shower or not.

Personally- if you want something, I think it should be VERY small - truly your absolute closest friends and immediate family, and I've heard of them being referred to as "sprinkles".

But I do not feel full blown showers for 2nd babies are necessary, and can be seen as VERY gift- grabby (except for special circumstances, of course, but different gender is not a "special circumstance" in my book!)

breezymomma · October 2008

IMHO, I wouldn't want a 2nd shower for this baby. If your Mom wants to do something, I would suggest a welcome home baby shower. That way you can "register" or some other way tell people the items you need/want.

mvrileyuk · October 2008

I think if someone wants to throw you a shower let them but I don't think we'll be having one....our babies are way too close together.

camrude · October 2008

I don't mind when they are for others, but I would not want one for myself. If someone wants to throw one for you and you are OK with it, go for it.

JARbaby · October 2008

Too close to make it not tacky.

lap21_pal · October 2008

I am having a 2nd shower. My son will be close to 8 when this baby is born, and it's going to be a girl. The only thing I kept was the crib.

materqueen · October 2008

we have a ladie's luncheon when my friends are expecting their 2nd or 3rds...it's fun, and most people bring gifts, but it's just like a b-day or something, so why not!!

kiliwicket · October 2008

We are having a girl this time and DS will be 20 months old when she is born. My mom is throwing me a shower back home, that I will not be at, but she really wants to do this. I've had friends here ask if I'm going to have a shower (and sound excited and hopeful) and I've said no. Although, I would like to have a meet the baby party after she is born with some close friends over, no gifts expected though.

lzybeanie · October 2008

I'm in agreement with those who say that 2 years is too close...just not my style. However, we did throw a 'ladies' brunch' for my sister with her 2nd baby - she was having a girl, and her son was 4. I stressed NO GIFTS on the invitation and kept it VERY small. She didn't register either.

fluffer.nutter · October 2008

a sprinkle would be a great idea!

i am one the thinks every child should be celebrated, and a party for the second, third or more child is fine. but for a second or more shower, i think it should concentrate on the celebration part and not on gifts, so it should definitely not be a full blown shower (close family and friends, only) and it should definitely not have a registry. Once you add a registry, i think it makes you look like you just want more gifts which is tacky. Some good ideas would be a diaper drive or some kind of sentimental gift party, like each person bring a picture of themselves as a child, advice for having 2 under 2 or about the differences between raising a boy and a girl, a square that they decorated for a quilt, etc. or even advice for the new big brother/sister on how to look out for their little sibling. but make it understood that gifts other than the diaper donation or sentimental item is not necessary.

JennyCraig · October 2008

I personally find showers stressful (everyone watching my reaction as I open their gifts LOL) but I'd love a mommy get-together that didn't involve gift- giving. It kind of sucks in my case because I only had a very small shower the first time around but hey what can ya do....

mantle · October 2008

I went to one last year for someone who was having thier 5th kid. (The next oldest was opposite sex and 2). I have also heard that some areas have a shower for every baby. A lady at church just did one for her daughter's 3rd kid and said back home in Texas, they do one for every baby.

In a PP, the point about a registry makes a good point. I would just keep it more low key. Good luck with whatever you decide. IMO some people post some strongly opinionated things to your questions and then you end up feeling bad. If you do it, and it works out, yeah for you!

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