Just curious: what age did you leave DC overnight?

babydragonsister · November 2010

Even a month ago I felt like I would never be able to leave DS overnight b/c it might kill me. (Me, not him.) But as he gets older I can start to see how it might be a possibility at some point in our lives, haha.

So, how old was your little one before you left him/her overnight? Were you ready or did some even push you to do it sooner than you would have liked? And....how did it go?

Lotte134 · November 2010

13 months was the first time, but he was with DH so it didn't completely count. I was ready especially knowing he would be with daddy. At 16 months we left him with my parents and again it was fine because I knew he would be well taken care of and he loves his grandparents. Now we leave him 1 night every 1-2 months and the break is fantastic (and so is picking him up again of course)!

dmogmo · November 2010

10 or 11 weeks. I was having surgery first thing the next morning. It was fine. He's stayed overnight at MIL's a few times since and it's been fine everytime.

anna7602 · November 2010

Just did it for the *REAL* first time this weekend, although I kind of did it once when DD was about 9 months old.

That first time, I put her to bed and left the house afterwards, went to my HS reunion in a city 2 hours away by train, then came back on the first train in the morning. She was STTN by then, so it doesn't feel like I was really away from her overnight. Plus, she stayed with DH, which isn't the same as leaving her with a non-parent. That trip was eh. I might have enjoyed it more if I didn't have to pump while away, but I would have leaked all over the place if I hadn't pumped at all.

This past weekend, we left DD, now almost 2.5, with my parents. It was more a matter of being comfy with my parents than with my being ready to leave DD. Neither DH nor I felt we could leave her o/n with them until DD was completely weaned, pretty verbal and completely out of diapers (my parents don't change diapers). DD was absolutely fine and loved getting extra attention from her grandparents. My parents were completely frazzled and I doubt they will offer to babysit o/n again unless we have something really pressing to do out of town.

LLB430 · November 2010

Last month for 1 night with my parents. In December I am leaving her with dh for at least three nights to be with my sister who is having major surgery in NYC. Freaking out already but when I put it in perspective it is a small thing to do compared to what my sister is about to go through.

kwinters87 · November 2010

I think it was around 2 1/2 months. Hubs and I desperately needed a break from being parents so we could work a few things out.

Now we usually have one night a month when Grace stays with my parents.

wheelsonthebus · November 2010

we still haven't

Tonya_G · November 2010

Uh, last weekend. So 11 months. DS I left for an entire week when he was about 9mo. But, I wasn't nursing him at the time either. He also had stayed at his grandparents a night here and there even earlier than that. It went fine. No one pushed us- we were more than ready. She didn't even realize we were gone, I think!

tak2002 · November 2010

Still haven't....although I think I'm ready. Henry, on the other hand is not. He still nurses at night and wakes every 2 hours. I just don't feel like it would be right to leave him with anyone (my mom) with those factors

erbear · November 2010

10 weeks. We were all fine, and we try to get away every other month or so for a night. I think it's a pretty healthy thing for all of us.

makclair · November 2010

for work- i had my first 24 hour shift at 7 weeks. This continued off and on till he was about 9 months. I'm sure I wasn't ready, but I didn't have the choice.

I recently (at almost 2 y/o) was away from him for 5 nights for my CLC training.

papie · November 2010

25 months with DD1. We may do it earlier this time, but I don't know. It will depend how attached she is to nursing as she gets older. DD1 couldn't go to bed without nursing until I weaned her at 20m.

We only left her overnight 2 times with my mom at our house and she is 3. I'm one of THOSE moms.

BrittKav · November 2010

DD will be 14 months, and we'll be gone for at least 2 nights while I'm in the hospital with DD#2. I'm not looking forward to it at all, but I have no choice. She'll be staying with her grandma and she'll be thrilled, I'm sure, but I still worry. She currently nurses 1-2xs a night and at least 4 times during the day.

Quazel · November 2010

We haven't done it yet. I am not against it at this point but I still nurse DS at night and we bedshare so I don't see it happening any time soon.

mrstarawalsh · November 2010

We left DS overnight for the first time at 7 months with my dad and stepmom. He did fine, was totally passed out when I got home early morning. We left DD for the first time at 4 months with a good friend of mine. She did great and apparently slept all night.

Harper'smom · November 2010

I left DD with DH at 16mos for five days so I could travel internationally for work. Leaving ripped my heart out but being gone wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Things went great for the two of them as DH was a pt sahd for 20mos. He would give her a bottle of ebm to go to sleep and when she would wake up for comfort. This weekend we had to go to Vegas for 1 night for a wedding so we left her overnight for about 20 hours with the in laws and it went well. She is 21.5 mos.

mrs.baum · November 2010

Still haven't left DS overnight.

HikerBride07 · November 2010

We haven't. I really can't imagine us having a need for an overnight away. We don't travel for business and we take her with us on any vacations/weekends away from home. We're also not really late night people so a regular babysitter is fine for "dates" and such.

Temp984666312503071 · November 2010

I left her overnight with DH when she was almost 7 months. I visited some college friends in NYC for the weekend. I missed her like crazy but my DH is an amazing dad so I wasn't concerned in the slightest.

We left her overnight with my mom when she was a little over a year old to go to Bermuda for 5 days. I was 23 weeks pregnant at the time and we wanted to get away once before we had 2 under 18 months . That was also really hard but my mom loved every single second. I think it was really good for both my DD and my mom to have that time together. I am VERY close to my grandmother (maternal) and I hope my DD has a similar relationship with my mom.

goodheartedmommy · November 2010

With DS, it was pretty early, but not my choice (hospital with preterm labor). Probably 6 months. With DD1, it was about 14 months (again, not my choice, I was in the hospital for a week). With DD2, I was ready within a few months, but no one would take her until she was 16 months. Bummer for me! There's no right and wrong answer. If you're ready, you're ready, if you're not, you're not. I don't think it's worth doing before you're ready, though. If you feel ready, have him stay somewhere close. I definitely love my alone nights these days!

wifeandmama · November 2010

17 months with my parents

sevans1975 · November 2010

We haven't yet left DD overnight with anyone other than DH or myself. Can't do it yet...we just don't feel comfortable. We bedshare and I don't think I would "trust" anyone else to get her to sleep well overnight until she is a bit older. Maybe around 2.