Does your DH/SO go to bed with you?

AppleMomma · November 2010

My DH has gotten in this bad habit of staying up and watching TV instead of going to bed with me. I always have a hard time falling asleep when he's not in bed, and yet he stays in the living room to watch TV. Makes me sad sometimes Sad

I told him that tonight and he's still out there watching MNF.

COBB1103 · November 2010

Mine goes to bed 3-4 hours after me. I love it because I get some decent sleep without him snoring :-) We work very different schedules (I get up at 5:30, he gets up at 9:00) so it doesn't make sense for us to go the bed at the same time. He does tuck me in every night, though!

Doodle2011 · November 2010

Hardly ever. He stays up much later than I do. Always has. He tucks me in and kisses me goodnight, makes sure I have water, etc.

missbobbijean · November 2010

My husband and I always go to bed together. He works crazy hrs though and gets up super early most of the time. If he wants to go to bed too early I just sit up in bed and read w/ the lamp on. Good luck... Don't be sad!

darlene'smommy · November 2010

Dh goes to bed at the same time as dd. He gets up at 3:30 for work. I can't go to sleep that early so I stay up for an hour or two after he goes to bed.

honkytonk_kid · November 2010

He should, since he usually has to leave for work before I do, but he doesn't. He'll come tuck me in and cuddle until I fall asleep though- lucky for him it takes about 3 seconds for me to be out

jlpev · November 2010

Usually I go to bed b4 he does but it doesn't bother me...he just isn't has tired as me soo I dont expect him to come to bed with me & plus it gives me alil alone time!!!

houndbaby · November 2010

DH usually stays up later than I do. DH worked nights for a long time, so it was never really normal for us to go to bed together because we had completely different schedules.

kesrya · November 2010

We almost always go to bed together. In the few cases we don't, it is actually me staying up later than him -- I work from 3pm - 9pm most nights, so I always want a little more time to wind down at home than he does. He doesn't really like it when I stay up late b/c it will wake him when I come to bed, so I try to not let this happen very often.

SAlibrarian · November 2010

He stays up for several hours after I go to bed playing video games.....he just doesn't seem to require as much sleep as I do : ) He always tucks me in though.

The other night he came to bed with me and I actually had a really hard time falling asleep with him in the bed. I wanted him to get up so I could have the bed to myself for a while!

Mikejustine · November 2010

We used to have this problem but now DH comes to bed with me usually. It used to be very aggravating though so I feel your pain.

Sarahp63 · November 2010

No. I always go in and tak emy shower and fall asleep in bed watching what I want on tv. DH usually comes in between 1-3. I like it because he is a snorer and its hard to get comfy these days.

completelyundefinable · November 2010

Usually I am up later than DH. He is in bed every night by 10:30 and up every morning at 6:00 to be out of the house between 6:30-6:45. When he heads to bed I will lay in bed with him for awhile because he likes to talk about everything before bed. It's his favorite part of the day.

tfarabians · November 2010

He almost always goes to bed after me. He likes to stay up and "work" um he plays video games but since he works for x-box he calls it "work" lol! I like it because I climb into bed and watch whatever I want on tv for a bit and take up the whole bed!

columbiamommy · November 2010

Yes. After DD goes to bed we watch shows together, and then we go to our room at the same time to read. I have a hard time falling asleep without him, too. It sucks on the rare nights when he's out and I'm home alone, because I never get a good night's sleep.

pixieprincss · November 2010

This is an ongoing conversation at my house. I like routine and having DH come to bed with me. I like those last-minute conversations and cuddles and I think that coming to bed at the same time gives a boost to the romance department. But, he is more of a "feel out how tired I am" guy. Sometimes that lines up with me, sometimes it doesn't. I need about 8-9 hours a sleep per night (even pre-preg); he is more of a 6-8h sleeper. At the very least I like for him to come in and tuck me in. While I wish he'd see things my way, at least the tucking in is a point of compromise.

heathernacole · November 2010

No. My DH works really late some nights, so most the time i'm really tired by the time he makes it in or i'm already in bed. And if not i go to bed earlier than i use to now and he's usually not tired at that time. But lately he does not even sleep in the same bed as me. It doesn't really bother me because its so hard to get comfy these days that if he is in the bed with me it makes it even more difficult. So he says between my tossing and turning and snoring during the night he'd rather let me have the bed to get comfy and sleep well and he will take the couch because he also gets better sleep that way!!

PrincessSarah1979 · November 2010

DH and I used to go to bed at the same time every night. We are both teachers and work the same schedules as a result. Now, however, he will come in and lay down with me for awhile. We talk and he tries to feel LO move around. Then when I am sleepy he kisses me goodnight, cracks the window so it gets super cold in the room (good for me cause I am super hot right now) and then turns off the light. He sleeps on the couch. We only have a full size bed. With all of my pillows and my belly there just isn't enough room for the two of us. When he started to push me around (ie, push my belly) to try and get more room, we had to try something different until LO arrives.

tfarabians · November 2010

PrincessSarah1979:
DH and I used to go to bed at the same time every night. We are both teachers and work the same schedules as a result. Now, however, he will come in and lay down with me for awhile. We talk and he tries to feel LO move around. Then when I am sleepy he kisses me goodnight, cracks the window so it gets super cold in the room (good for me cause I am super hot right now) and then turns off the light. He sleeps on the couch. We only have a full size bed. With all of my pillows and my belly there just isn't enough room for the two of us. When he started to push me around (ie, push my belly) to try and get more room, we had to try something different until LO arrives.

Awe that is so sweet of him!!!

Totally know the feeling! We ended up getting king size bed when I was pg the firstw time!

lsugirljen · November 2010

My dh usually stays up and watches tv and I go to bed and read a book. I try to go to sleep before he gets in bed because he snores and sounds like a freight train coming through the bedroom.

MichelleL1118 · November 2010

This is why we have a TV in the bedroom. We go to bed at the same time, DH stays up & watches whatever it is he wanted to watch, with the volume low & all other lights off. I fall asleep before the first commercial break most nights, LOL.

AlwaysMrsS · November 2010

pixieprincss:
This is an ongoing conversation at my house. I like routine and having DH come to bed with me. I like those last-minute conversations and cuddles and I think that coming to bed at the same time gives a boost to the romance department. But, he is more of a "feel out how tired I am" guy. Sometimes that lines up with me, sometimes it doesn't. I need about 8-9 hours a sleep per night (even pre-preg); he is more of a 6-8h sleeper. At the very least I like for him to come in and tuck me in. While I wish he'd see things my way, at least the tucking in is a point of compromise.

This. except SO usually goes to bed first. Reads til I'm ready to join him. I usually feel bad for him, so either I'll grab a book and join him right away, or I'll let him read a few chapters and join him within a reasonable amount of time (30-45 minutes tops). But he always waits for me to join him in bed for a few minutes of "pillow talk" before going to sleep. If I'm ready for bed and he goes out for a midnight cigarette or something, I'll fall asleep on his side, so he can gently wake me up and we can still have our few minutes conversation of "how was your day"

Lantaria · November 2010

We rarely sleep together. My husband works nights. I hated it at first, but now I love it! It works out great for our family, he spends most of the day with me and the kids and goes to bed when they lay down for their afternoon nap. I do miss the late night chats that we used to have in bed.

UrbanHippieMama · November 2010

DH has been sleeping in another room entirely because he has a horrible cough that would keep me up all night.

Plus, Neriah ends up in our bed usually by 10pm, and he doesn't like to sleep with her (but doesn't mind me doing it). I do miss him though! I can't wait til his cough goes away!

uklawgirl · November 2010

We had gotten into that bad habit, but we've compromised a bit where I'll stay up a bit longer than I want to and he'll go to bed a little bit earlier than he wants to. I do think it's important to go to bed together if possible

nate2011 · November 2010

we go to bed at the same time. Although we go to bed together he gets up between 4-530am & I sleep til about 730. When I was working outside the house I would get up earlier.

lilbabyvenus · November 2010

Mine usually sits on the computer for about an hour after I go to bed, but if he goes to bed first, he sits in bed and yells until I come to bed.

MrsYam · November 2010

My hubby switched between daylight hours and night hours. So, when he's working day, he's got to be up at 3:30am, so he goes to bed around 9:30pm. When he's working nights, he gets only gets home at 5:30am, so I'm alone all night.

When he's off, we do go to bed together and usually lay there talking, its really the only time we really talk. It's so hard to sit and chat when you're running around with a toddler all day.

I used to have problems sleeping without him home, but it's gotten easier and I usually enjoy it because he snores. :P

maltwin1 · November 2010

Its very rare that DH stays up late enough to go to bed with me. Normally he's in bed 2-3 hours or more before I do. He gets up very early in the morning and I'm a night owl, so he's in bed long before I am.

MeganMaryA · November 2010

hollyh74:
Hardly ever. He stays up much later than I do. Always has. He tucks me in and kisses me goodnight, makes sure I have water, etc.

Same here. I kinda enjoy having the bed all to myself to fall asleep in. :-)

juliane2004 · November 2010

Actually, DH goes to bed between 10-11 pm, but I dont usually go till 12-1am. He has to wake at 6 am, whereas DD sleeps till 9 am ish.

Mrs.LD813 · November 2010

It depends. We often go to bed together. We both get up really early , so we tend to be tired and want to go to bed at the same time at night. In the summer, when I am off and DH still needs to get up early, I might stay up later than him occassionaly.

And once in a while DH will want to watch something that I have no interest in, so he stays downstairs and I go to bed. This usually results in him falling asleep down there and not coming to bed at all.

NJBrit · November 2010

In the three years we've been together we've maybe gone to bed without each other twice, and that was when we were sick. We've always done it, and always will. During the summer when I don't have to wake up until later I normally read in bed for a little while, but I always "get in bed" with him. We are cuddly sleepers and really hate sleeping without each other

CAB'smommy · November 2010

My DH has narcolepsy, but he's a night owl. So he stays up late even though he has to get up at 5:45. Irritates me because I think that if he's so tired, he should go to bed early with the rest of the family instead of staying up until midnight playing video games. He says it's time to himself (he's a shrink, he needs down time by himself understandably) and it doesn't matter how much he sleeps, he's still exhausted. In fact the more he sleeps at one time, the more tired he seems to be. It's been a frustration for me since we've been together, but I've been trying to make a conscience effort to relax about it. He still tucks us all in and checks on the us until we are all asleep. So I can't complain too much. And I'm really not a snuggler anyway. I just worry about him being too tired.

mishu917 · November 2010

AppleMomma:
My DH has gotten in this bad habit of staying up and watching TV instead of going to bed with me. I always have a hard time falling asleep when he's not in bed, and yet he stays in the living room to watch TV. Makes me sad sometimes I told him that tonight and he's still out there watching MNF.

This exactly. Last night he came to bed at 1....he usually leaves at 7 and I leave at around 6...so not sure why there is a 3 hour time gap between when we go to sleep... In his defense, he is still working on his PhD and needs to be up doing work. He said he isn't watching TV, but needs it on to stay awake. And on weekends, he is usually crawling into bed when I'm getting up... makes me so mad because it's our only full days to spend together.

pawcall · November 2010

Almost never, although about 80% of the time, we have the following routine:

- I decide I want to go to bed. I can't fall asleep in silence, so I go in our room and turn on a show that he likes.

- He comes in, lies down with me, and watches the show (Or watches 3 minutes of it. I'd never know the difference, it takes me about 45 seconds (quite literally) to fall asleep once my head hits the pillow.) while I fall asleep. As long as he has a hand/arm/knee/something touching some part of me, I'm happy.

- He goes back out to the living room for a few hours of grading papers/working/watching tv/watching porn/whatever it is he does out there.

sandylou · November 2010

He used to split it half and half. Some nights he would come to bed with me and watch movies and some nights he would stay downstairs and watch tv. Then I decided we needed cable in our room upstairs and now he goes to bed with me every night unless we are watching a season of a tv show and I need to catch up from falling asleep too early.

girllennon · November 2010

We always go to bed at the same time or we'll watch a bit of tv in bed before zonking out. It's rare that one of us goes to be before the other (only is one of us is sick or just plain exhausted).

skoogirl · November 2010

I don't sleep well without him in the bed either. He'll sometimes stay up later to watch tv, but he ends up falling asleep on the couch and then I have to go down at 2 or 3 in the morning to make him come to bed so that I can sleep. He always feels bad when that happens so he tries not to do it.

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