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depression....anyone else?
I am 24 weeks and 2 days pregnant. This is my first pregnancy. I am also newly married and only 21 years old. Before getting pregnant I was having some emotional issues. I just moved back to my home town after the job I had didn't work out.I was having a hard time adapting to the old life style, I once had. Soon after moving home I got married (5 months to be exact). We, ran away and got married. Not because my parents didnt approve of him. Because of how everyone else was making our engagement be extended. I then concieve on our honeymoon night. I found out I was pregnant six weeks later. On top of that no one knew that I was married and we were waiting for someone to return home to not cause drama. (yet, if we didnt want to cause drama then we shouldn't have eloped) So I have been having a really hard time with depression. Infact I have had so many thoughts of sucicide and I feel awful. I feel like I can't support my baby because I had to stop working once I became pregnant. I feel like I am a failure because half of the people in my familiy don't talk to me any more or talk behind my back. I feel like my baby won't have anyone to play with because of all the stuff that is taking place now. I just feel like I am a complete failure! I just wonder if other pregnant women feel this way too. is this normal? or should i seek some help?
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Re: depression....anyone else?
SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY! No joke. Even IF other pregnant women feel this way, it is NOT normal and you NEED to talk to someone! I don't know where you are, but find a church for a pastor or call a counseling service in the yellow pages and GO. Suicidal thoughts are SERIOUS.
Please get help!
You are in my prayers!!
This exactly.
Depression is not something to "wait out" and see if it gets better. The earlier there is some help/intervention, the better the chances are of a positive outcome. OP, Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
I can tell you that I have been suffering from depression for 10 years, and I have never once considered suicide. You need some professional help.
FWIW, I was 21, and newly married when I got pregnant with my first child, and it is hard - all of my friends seemed young and carefree, while I was starting my family. You are in the midst of a life-changing event, and there is no shame in finding the help you need to get through it. Start by talking to your doctor - he should be able to get you the help you need.
Please seek some help! It's normal to feel depressed, anxious, worried, emotional, etc. but if you're thinking of committing suicide, I truly hope that you contact a professional for advice, right away. Call a hotline, anything. Start with your OB if you don't know where to turn - I'm sure they can refer you to someone/someplace.
I really do hope you start to feel better about your life. If your family doesn't talk to you anymore, move on with your new life and focus on your husband and child. You are a family now. You are not a failure... You are a wife and a mother. Life will go on, people will get over their anger, and I'm sure everything will settle down soon. Once you do get help, there are Mommy groups in every community that you can join to meet other moms/friends, and the kids can play together too.
again, PLEASE call for help right away.
I'm praying for you.
Tell your husband that you CANNOT store your thoughts and you need to let them out. Tell him you've thought about suicide and tell him exactly what you're thinking. Tell him you need his support and that he needs to listen to you and not tell you to stop thinking. It's not healthy to keep your thoughts inside and "store" them. you'll go insane - at least I know I would. At the very least, print out this entire thread and make him read it.
You are certainly not alone, but you deserve to be happy again. It's tough battling these feelings at all- nevermind when your hormones are all crazy with pregnancy!!! You should 100% talk to a professional. Maybe your OB can refer you to someone, or you could start with a hotline type of thing and see what they recommend.
Just know you are not alone, and your family may not know how to react right now. They will come around and support you once you start to support and help yourself. The hardest part is taking that first step to ask for help, and it seems like you're ready. Good luck to you and your precious little baby!!! Take care!