Constantly being asked about state of health - vent
I am classified as a high risk pregnancy due to elevated BP that I had before getting pregnant.
Things have been going well, I switched from a family medicine doctor to the OB/GYN specialist that I was seeing in addition to the family med doc at 32 weeks & have been very happy with my choice & pregnancy is going well.
The family med doc had informed me that I'd be delivering at 34-35 weeks, the OB/GYN estimates I'll deliver between 38-39 because everything looks good (BP is actually lower - I think due to less stress & meds, NSTs look great, weight gain is steady).
My vent is now that my mother in law knows about me being a high risk pregnancy she calls weekly to see how everything is going. I understand she's concerned & wants to make sure everything is okay but if I had any news to share, I'd let her know. I just hate getting the calls weekly asking, "have you been to the doctor? What did he say? What's going on?"
I've started answering with, "nothing new to report, everything looks good." Which is true, I just hate having to say it all the time - I'm starting to sound a little crabby.
How should I tactfully tell my mother in law that I appreciate her love & concern but don't need to be constantly asked how I'm doing? I promise to let her know if something is going on.
Re: Constantly being asked about state of health - vent
I don't think you can really do that tactfully at this point...I'd just not answer the phone if you know you can't take the questions or just answer, and get through it.
I hope your baby comes (healthy) before she can drive you too insane.
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Perhaps don't answer your phone and if she happens to call your DH have him answer and have him tell her that all is okay and if anything new comes up that you will call her but until then she has to trust you two will let her know. Kind of directly, yet indirectly tell her to stop calling so much. If it's stressing you out when she calls it's probably best some stop the calls.
GL!
Sorry you are dealing with this. My MIL is a PITA and both her and my FIL worry about health issues (their 1st daughter was born with a hairy nevus, basically a huge hairy mole on most of her left side of her face...many surgeries and hospital stays) DH did not want to tell them anything. He did not even want to tell them we took a hypnobirthing class (weird I know)...I am not sure how you can handle that with her. I think basically say what you wrote in the last part of your post.
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I am on bed rest and my future MIL is the same way. I have started to not answer her phone calls and direct them to FI. He told her that when I am having a hard time during the day I cannot talk to anyone. This is true.
She was great about it and still calls daily to check on me, she just calls him directly. I speak to her when she comes by, which is about 4 times a week. I totally appreciate her concern but I need to think about me first and I realized I can only deal with those questions when I am in a positive state of mind.
Good luck!
I had to do the same thing. Once DH said something to her, she backed off. Hopefully, if you have him talk to her, things will get better!
GL