Friend is PG
missred75
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I have a friend who I have been friends with since grade school, so 25 years or so. She was in my wedding - 8 years ago. She recently got married in June. She got pregnant on her honeymoon and texted me to tell me - on my birthday. (Who does that???) Unfortunately for her, she lost the baby very early (5 weeks or so). I felt sorry for her. I truly did. But, then her friend told her she was pregnant. My friend proceeded to tell me how now she understands what I have gone through....
Um, no. You don't.
I got a text from her tonight asking me how things are going. I just had a feeling about it. She's pregnant again. 8 weeks. I feel badly that I wasn't super excited for her. When dealing with the possibility that we may have to cancel this cycle due to poor response, and this is likely our last shot at IVF, I'm sorry... I'm not happy that you're pregnant. I should have had 3 kids before you ever even got married and apparently, you and your husband are super-fertile and can get pregnant at the drop of a hat. (Again, knowing she lost her first and I AM sorry about that.)
I'm sorry. I'm hormonal. I just needed vent to those who would understand. *sigh*
Re: Friend is PG
((HUGS))
People will always try to commiserate, and even though you're sorry for her, it's clear she doesn't understand how you feel. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
After 31 cycles, baby boy K (IUI) born 11/03/11
BFP (Femara) - 08/09/13 m/c around 6 weeks. xoxox Baby April
Rainbow baby girl E (Femara) born 11/16/16
so sorry. unless she's been through your journey, she has no clue. although we have IF, we all go through diffferent journies with IF. that's something that i know for sure.
~SAIF/PAIF/Everyone Welcome~
Me= 37 and DH = 41
Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)
IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN
IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.
IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132. Lil is here!
TTC#2: Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.
IVF #4: BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #5: MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #6: (New RE): Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN
FET#1: BFN
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TTC Since 10/2007 with no luck and a 'go with the flow' attitude
1/1010 FINALLY decided to have testing done, dx MFI
7/2010 - DH starts Clomid to increase testosterone and hopefully sperm count
10/2010 - Still low (but improved) sperm count.
11/30/10 - IUI #1 and only = BFN
February 2011 - IVF #1 w/ ICSI =
Chemical PG (Beta 1: 10, Beta 2: 19, Beta 3: 17) :-(
April 2011 - IVF #2 w/ ICSI = BFN :-(
September 2011 - IVF #3 w/ ICSI = BFFN
November 2011 - AMH level tested - .83 (normal for age range)
February 2012 - IVF #4 w/ ICSI = (best response ever yet still) BFFN
April 2012 - DNA testing - NORMAL, RE suggests cycling again with own eggs or using DE
On Break indefinitely...not sure we can afford the emotional and financial roller coaster anymore.
*PAIFW/SAIFW*
3 IUI's, 2 IVF's , 1 FET , 1 IVF w/ Gestational Carrier, and 1 FET using adopted embryo's = ALL BFNs
We are adopting!
SAIF/PAIF IS ALWAYS WELCOMED TO POST IN MY POSTS!!!
I'm so sorry, but I totally get it. I hate pg announcements and I hate even more that I get so upset over them. I had to attend my friend's 1st birthday party for her little girl yesterday. (This is a friend that got pg her first month trying which was 6 months after DH & I started trying.) There were literally 5 or 6 babies under the age of 1. I think my DH and I were the only ones in our age group there that were childless. It sucked.
Huge hugs to you!!!
"Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see." Hebrews 11:1
Nicely said.
I'm so sorry. I understand and have felt like this towards a few people. (((hugs)))
TTC since 2008
One blocked Tube
Ectopic pregnancy November 2008
M/C at 6 weeks in January 2010
M/C at 8 weeks (blighted ovum) May 2010
3 IUIs with Gonal-f, Sept, Oct, November 2010 = BFN
IVF#1 1/2011 - 32 eggs retrieved, 26 fertilized, 2 trans. = BFN
Time to regroup and heal and FET at some point