The Cat is out of the Bag....

bigheyes · October 2010

So....I was absolutly shocked today at work, when a coworker asked me if I was pregnant. I'm only about 8 weeks along, and am determined to not tell anyone at work until I'm at least 13 weeks, and have my first ultrasound.

I have no idea how she knows, I don't even think I'm really showing yet. Anyways, I was so suprised I just said that if I ever was I'd wait until I'm through the first trimester to say anything, then tell our boss, then tell everyone else.

She was like, "Well you aren't denying it!"

I kept trying to change the subject, and hoped she would let it go, but she kept bringing it up!

What to do? Should I tell her, and ask her to keep it hush hush before the rumors start flying around....or just ask her not to keep bringing it up?

I was really hoping this news would come out the way it should, on my terms. Thoughts?

JuneBug0611 · October 2010

I would NOT reward her for being rude by telling her first, before the people you really want to, and before you are ready. You said all you need to say. If she brings it up again you can say you already gave her your answer, then smile mysteriously and walk away. She can suspect all she wants and gossip all she wants, but she can't KNOW until YOU choose to tell her.

Oh, and based on her behavior, I think it's safe to say you couldn't trust her to keep it hush-hush if you told her.

iheartcutepuppies · October 2010

IMO, it still should come out on your terms. Your coworker is being a douchecanoe in my opinion, it's none of her damn business.

I would just tell her that when she brought it up, it made you feel very uncomfortable and it's not something you would like to discuss at work.

"feeling uncomfortable" is signs for HR, and she should know better.

Becky262 · October 2010

If you don't want anyone to know, then don't tell anyone!

This never ends well because this coworker always tells another coworker, that gets overheard by another coworker, ect. Plus, she sounds like she thrives on drama and being the office gossip. Not someone you should trust.

Tell her it's none of her business and you'll announce when you have something to announce. End of story. If she keeps being a noisy b*tch, don't say a word and just walk away.

bigheyes · October 2010

Thanks ladies. I think, because we work so closely together she thinks it's okay to ask. We are work friends. But, I am NOT ready to discuss it. I know she won't drop it. She doesn't have kids, and I'm sure doesn't understand how scary and exciting your first pregnancy is. I'm going to have to tell her I don't want to discuss it, but I'm not sure she will drop it.

lindsay.lou · October 2010

I know it can feel weird to lie about it....but for me personally, I see NO problem with lying and saying, "nope, I'm not pregnant" with a big smile on my face.

If I get called on it later, I'll just tell them I lied b/c the question was rude.

bigheyes · October 2010

I don't like to lie, but that is a good point. Maybe I should just deny, deny, deny until it's the right time.

skibi83 · October 2010

I lied alot at the beginning of my pregnancy. Good Luck. I will lie again the next time as well (unless my work is very risky to my LO).

Jessynlove · October 2010

yeah she needs to let it go.

Chances are if she is that type of person...rumors are already going around. You may just have to spill early. good luck

kelly321 · October 2010

A few people know we were trying who I don't want to know about the pregnancy until after 1st tri. When they ask (which they do occasionally), my standard answer is: "Don't worry, we'll let you know when there's news!" In my eyes that's not outright lying because I will tell them when there's news that I'm ready for them to hear. So far that has satisfied everyone who has asked me, but I also haven't had any real nosy people who have continued to ask.

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