Multiples
declining party invitations, gatherings, etc when alone
When hubby is working, can't make it to go with you do you still go or say no? Especially at this age with the LO's more mobile. Between the chasing after, the feedings bottles and food sometimes it gets too hard when you go solo? Anyone feel the same? Or do you just know its hard but still go?
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Re: declining party invitations, gatherings, etc when alone
I still go, unless the kids are just being absolutely horrible that day. My husband is gone for a year, so I would be one bored and lonely person if I didn't go out to events with the kids by myself. I went to a lot of things by myself when they were under 1 as well. The more you do it, the easier it gets. I promise.
The great thing about parties and events with friends is that usually someone will offer to help out if they see you struggling with trying to feed them or keep up with them. You're not *really* on your own.
I declined some at the beginning just cause they were so little and I was nervous about all the germs
But now we go, no matter if DH is there. I just don't let a bunch of people hold them or get in their faces. Even at their Christening I didn't let anyone but godparents and grandparents hold them...they were only 7 weeks. Just cause I have twins...it's not going to stop me from doing stuff! We get out almost everyday! I would go crazy if I didn't. Also usually at these events there is someone to help.
for me it all depends on the situation - where we are going, etc... since i have 3 to chase around- it's not so easy on my own- but sometimes the logistics are OK for that and I still go on my own - or I have my sister/niece/mom watch the twins and I just take Griffin alone
but that's RARE - on weekends DH is always around - so it's not often that i have to figure out parties on my own --- mostly it's just play dates and other stuff I do on the days I don't work with them that i have to plan out logistically for myself only.
As long as the day is going well I take them. Honestly the more you do it on your own the easier it becomes. When DH is home in the mornings our routine is thrown off and it makes the day harder!
If it's something I really want to go to, and can either keep them in a stroller or know that there will be extra hands to help out, then I give a tentative yes and as long as they have napped well and are in good moods, then we go. But I try not to put too much pressure on myself that everything has to go perfectly, I just try to be prepared.
But if it's something where it's the middle of the day and I'm going to be facing a meltdown while chasing after two of them...I'm not always up for it. I think my friends fully understand if I skip out on things now and then.
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