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April 2011 Moms
Kmhsswim
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Dreading my afternoon (MIL vent)
Kmhsswim
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My DH is a huge football fan and asked if it would work out to have his steddad over to watch a college game with him today. I asked if that meant his mom would also be in attendance and he figured most likely.
We have trick or treating in our neighborhood tonight from 5-7, and I told him I would be fine with it until halftime, but at that point the game would be paused and he would be helping me pass out candy. I'm fine handing out the candy alone, but I was not getting stuck siting outside with his Mom while he hung out and enjoyed his football game. Our neighbtors do not know that I am pregnant and I am looking forward to telling them - not having my MIL do it for me. Which I can guarantee she would be doing.
We have only seen her twice since finding out, and both times she has kissed my stomach more times than I can count. Told me repeatedly that I am only "an incubator" and that my stomach is part hers because I am carrying her grandchild so that even if I don't like it she can touch it and kiss it as much as she wants. DH is great and completely supportive of me, but as much as he tells his mom to back off and I tell her that it's uncomfortable, nothing is done. Except for the fact that we put off seeing them as much as possible. Please let me make it through this afternoon!
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Re: Dreading my afternoon (MIL vent)
Haha - my 11 week ultrasound looked "exactly like my DH, it's uncanny. Right down to the nose" according to my MIL.
I would go off. It would be ugly. DH would get it settled, or I'd be doing it in a way that would probably get me disowned. That is disgusting, insulting, and ridiculous.
She more of less just kept reminding me that the baby would be perfect because it would be her ......'s child and then bursting into tears repeatedly. My name or part in this didn't really come up at all, haha.
My DH does not get along with his mom really at all and has no problem telling her off. He really didn't even have any kind of relationship with her until he was in his late teens early twenties. But that doesn't stop her because unfortunately, she lacks any kind of boundaries. Luckily, they leave for Florida for the winter in about a week and though they talk a big game about being around all the time once the baby comes, we know that there will be next to no follow through. Til then, I will hide at my sister's house until the last possible moment, make an appearance just before five and DH has told them they need to leave at 5 so we can do the neighborhood thing.
Really??? You are just an incubator? That is insanity and if she touched or kissed my belly it would be on!! That said, I have not seen my soon to be MIL since we told them but I cannot even imagine that she would do that!
I think you should ask her if she felt like she was "just an incubator" for her MIL's grandchildren when she was pregnant!!
Ugh! Good luck! At no point in time, for any reason, is your stomach "part hers". That's ridiculous!
My IL's have their quirks, but I'm certainly glad this is not one of them! I would be shocked if either of them ever attempted to touch my belly. I'm not one who has a problem with people I know touching my belly either - it's just something that would be way out of character for the IL's.
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Wow. The incubator comment. I'm so glad I live thousands of miles away from anyone with a genetic connection to either my boyfriend or me. I'm a big believer in cutting toxic people out of my life. She sounds like someone who would need to go.
I'm wishing you luck today... :-)
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How come this has happened more than once? It looks like words don't work with her, you now need action. Next time she says something like that, get up and leave or ask her to leave. You can also smack her hand the next time she reaches for your stomach, I would smack her face too if she even tried to kiss the stomach. That is unacceptable behavior.
This is boarderline psycho behavior.
My ILs live next door a field seperates the two properties. They are good people who let their children have their own lives and families.
They are very excited about this LO they already have one great grand child and now another gandchild. They are happy and delighted to be grandparents again.
If she ever treated me like yours does you I would more then speak up to such behavoir. Dont let her scare you once she knows you mean business she will learn to back off.