DO you ever want DH to be honest...

firsttogo · October 2010

when you ask if you are looking as hot as always? I was one of those women who lost all of the baby weight before coming home with the boys. Not sure what the deal is, but I am progressively putting on more this time. I lost it all within the first week, but we are now back on an upswing...

DH actually agreed with me last night when I mentioned it.... um, he should know better.

SeaSoul · October 2010

I THINK I want him to be honest, but if he actually were honest (well, who knows, maybe he always is) I would probably not take it well, so I guess the answer is no.

dana316 · October 2010

I want honesty always. Fat, not fat, bad hair day...whatever...I am a need to know girl ;-)

nicolita14w · October 2010

No, don't think so. I know I'm about 50 lbs heavier than when we met, and I don't need him to confirm it.

SeaSoul · October 2010

dana316:

I want honesty always. Fat, not fat, bad hair day...whatever...I am a need to know girl ;-)

I def want honesty when it comes to hair or clothing or a lot of other stuff...mayyyybe even weight (only if I asked and it would probably still sting) , but not so much hotness.

GuitaristsGirl · October 2010

Ummm. . . yes. I think I know I'm heavier - if he tries to pretend otherwise, then that makes me not trust other "opinions" he might give me. I would hope that he would be honest/ realistic with me - but then still be able to honestly say that he's still attracted to me. Although, if he weren't. . . it'd be important to know that too. It would be horrible - but it'd be important to know and try to "fix."

Mouseygail · October 2010

I don't think I do...he does a really good job of making me feel like he still finds me very attractive...I don't want to know if he is faking it some!

LisaMarisa · October 2010

I want him to be honest if it is good!

Seriously though, I already know if I put on weight or look frumpy or my boobs are saggy. All I really need to know is if he still finds me attractive (or if I have something in my teeth or my hair is sticking up or something like that).

Asking if you've put on weight is just putting him in a bad position, he would be in trouble for lying and in trouble for telling the truth - there is no good answer. You have a scale that can tell you that and keep DH out of trouble.

schmoodle · October 2010

Did you see my reply to you pp weight gain post re: domperidone? I think you're on it and a known side effect is extreme hunger and weight gain. Not that it helps necessarily, except that it's nice to know there's a cause and the gain will stop when you're off it. I weaned off dom after a month or two and supply stayed where it had been while on it. Good luck!

firsttogo · October 2010

Schmoodle!! I did not see your reply, but I am just now getting off of it. I can not believe the weight going up like it did, and Dom is the one major difference. I am kind of hanging up BFing because I am producing very little even on Dom (3-4 oz a day total) and while that is good, I just do not have the time/energy to pump, supplement, get her to latch as well, and look after the others. It is not fair to me or to them.

itsmevkb · October 2010

Hmmm.........I never ask my husband this question. First, I don't think I've ever really considered myself to be "hot." Second, my husband loves me thin or not so thin and he tells me how he's very attracted to me so I guess I don't have the need to ask.

I was always taught "don't ask the question if you aren't ready to hear the answer."

DavezWife · October 2010

when ever I ask him a dangerous question, he ALWAYS asks me "Do I look stupid to you, or just dumb?"

lol.

j11skate · October 2010

Mouseygail:
I don't think I do...he does a really good job of making me feel like he still finds me very attractive...I don't want to know if he is faking it some!

This exactly! He makes me feel good about myself even though I know I'm heavier than I'd like to be.

perry7285 · October 2010

no. i absolutely do NOT want him to be honest if he thinks i don't look so good!

m&m2006 · October 2010

honestly, no ; - ) i know that i look like a bowling ball with legs right now, but he tells me that i look great as a pregnant woman. i know he is full of sh!t, but i appreciate the lie ;- )

ela81 · October 2010

LisaMarisa:

I want him to be honest if it is good!

Seriously though, I already know if I put on weight or look frumpy or my boobs are saggy. All I really need to know is if he still finds me attractive (or if I have something in my teeth or my hair is sticking up or something like that).

Asking if you've put on weight is just putting him in a bad position, he would be in trouble for lying and in trouble for telling the truth - there is no good answer. You have a scale that can tell you that and keep DH out of trouble.

Ditto this 100%!!!

Cassian · October 2010

Heh, I don't even play that game.

schmoodle · October 2010

firsttogo:
Schmoodle!! I did not see your reply, but I am just now getting off of it. I can not believe the weight going up like it did, and Dom is the one major difference. I am kind of hanging up BFing because I am producing very little even on Dom (3-4 oz a day total) and while that is good, I just do not have the time/energy to pump, supplement, get her to latch as well, and look after the others. It is not fair to me or to them.

I think I replied late so I wondered if you ever saw the response. I hope that now that you're off the dom you see some improvement quickly! I didn't lose for a long time after stopping but I was also eating like it was my job, lol. You did GREAT pumping as long as you did for even that small amount of milk, congrats!

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