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Mothers Helper/Trick or Treating

simplyatomicsimplyatomic member
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I have to work tonight and can't take my girls to the Main St. TOT thing they do every year. G has to work too. This year we have a Mother's Helper who comes once or twice a week. She is going to take the girls (not wonderboy) to the TOT thing. Someone in my life who likes to butt in has said that its really horrible that neither G or I took it off to go with the girls and we are pawning off our kids.

Are we wrong for not taking off tonight? Also there is neighborhood TOT on Sunday that we will be doing with them so I feel like we are not missing everything.

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Re: Mothers Helper/Trick or Treating

  • jyllyjylly

    I don't think you are wrong for not taking off work, it's your personal choice. I think there are a lot of factors to consider. Things like how easy is it for you to take off work?  How much emphasis do you put on Halloween? 

    For me, I'd probably take off if I could. BUT...I LOVE Halloween, and Colton is my first son, so doing all that "parenting" stuff is still so new to me. You have several children, right? So, had I done this Main Street thing for years in the past with them, I probably wouldn't mind missing a year or two, provided I know there was someone still able to take them so they didn't miss out.  Plus, you are still doing your neighborhood Halloween!

    So no, don't feel guilty...I'm sure your kids will have a blast, and you'll have fun as a family later on "real" Halloween :)

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  • wolverine8wolverine8 member
    I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
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  • simplyatomicsimplyatomic member

    I missed last year because of strict bedrest. I probably could ask for an hour or so tonight but I already have to take off this morning for other business.

    Halloween is big for us as well. We love it. I am going to ask the MH to take lots of pictures and I know my girls will just be happy they are there getting candy.Smile I hate that I let that person make me feel bad. I had a few years of being a SAHM and now I am missing things and feeling like a heel.

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    I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It's not like it's a life altering milestone that you're missing.
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  • jyllyjylly
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    I missed last year because of strict bedrest. I probably could ask for an hour or so tonight but I already have to take off this morning for other business.

    Halloween is big for us as well. We love it. I am going to ask the MH to take lots of pictures and I know my girls will just be happy they are there getting candy.Smile I hate that I let that person make me feel bad. I had a few years of being a SAHM and now I am missing things and feeling like a heel.

     Even though I was never lucky enough to be a SAHM besides maternity  leave and summer (I'm a teacher) I do feel your pain.  It's SO hard to work full time, I feel like I am missing out on so much, even just day to day. I thought it would get easier as the school year went on, but no.  I resent work every single Monday morning.  I can't even imagine trying to keep up with multiple children.  I'm sure you ae doing the best job you can, and I'm sure we beat ourselves up way more than we should!! Have fun on Sunday with your kids...I know I can't wait :)

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  • jojoh1008jojoh1008
    It's fine. It's trick or treating, and they'll be with friends anyway.
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