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Some pre-Ferber questions. (mega long)
So I read in the book that he says that around 4 months you should start considering doing something about your child's sleep issues and around 5/6 mos is when you could begin to do something about them. DH and I were talking about this more in depth and we have a couple of questions that maybe you ladies can help us out with. At this moment, A can roll from his back to his belly but tends to get stuck on his belly. I've seen him roll from belly to back a few times but most times he gets stuck. When he's over playing on his belly he starts to fuss because he wants back on his back. My question is, if this is still the case when we do start to Ferber, do I continue to let him cry for the intervals knowing he won't go to sleep on his tummy. DH and I were talking about how it might seem unfair to let him cry if he ends up on his tummy and cannot fall asleep out of discomfort. Does that make sense? Would we just return him to his back after each interval? But then would that actually be teaching him to self soothe? Sorry, I know, a million spin off questions.
The second question we had pertained to his paci. Right now, I'm getting up around 10 times a night (or at least from the start of his sleep) to return his paci so he can go back to sleep. I sometimes wait just a minute or two if I can tell it's a light wimper and MAYBE he'll go back to sleep, but often times he really wants the paci back. The book says that it's very hard to try and work with the paci in the schedule so now would be the time to drop it. I was wondering if anyone actually did the intervals while still using the paci? I don't necessarily want to keep it but I feel bad taking it away AND having him cry. KWIM? Just wondering what everyone else thought?
I'm not sure when we're going to actually start everything, I suppose when he gets a bit older and I'm a complete zombie, but I want to make sure we have a good plan in place for when we do. Thanks so much and sorry this is so long.
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Re: Some pre-Ferber questions. (mega long)
My question is, if this is still the case when we do start to Ferber, do I continue to let him cry for the intervals knowing he won't go to sleep on his tummy. DH and I were talking about how it might seem unfair to let him cry if he ends up on his tummy and cannot fall asleep out of discomfort. Does that make sense? Would we just return him to his back after each interval? But then would that actually be teaching him to self soothe? Sorry, I know, a million spin off questions.
Emma would do this when we were ferberizing her. We finally got her a breathable sleep positioner (some people are against these but they worked for us) https://www.kohls.com/upgrade/webstore/product_page.jsp?PRODUCT<>prd_id=845524892653568&mr:trackingCode=A2A014FC-D87E-DF11-BC8B-0019B9C043EB&mr:referralID=NA&prtID=pfx&src=k232270&cm_mmc=Performics-_-Affiliate-_-Google Product Listing Ads-_-Primary
After we got her into this she would be fine and the Ferberizing worked a ton better. (Still wasn't easy to hear her CIO but she is an amazing sleeper now)
The pacifier question I can't help with because neither of my kids take one. Sorry.
I can finally sign on! My 3 mo old is a back and side sleeper but she's rolling on to her tummy now. She cries and her head control isn't good enough to keep her from face planting. She's still sleeping swaddled but this was a problem with the rolling b/c then she no longer has hands to lift herself. Taytee shared an awesome tip to me and it's worked perfectly for the last 2 days. I don't know how Ferber works with swaddling but if you're still swaddling then this is an idea:
With Abby, we placed a rolled up receiving blanket inside each side of the miracle blanket for another couple weeks once she learned to roll. Sort of like a sleep positioner, but contained inside the MB (think of it like adding stuff inside a sushi roll!). You can replicate a MB pretty easily with a receiving blanket if you wanted to try that type of arm control. Using the video on the website, https://www.miracleblanket.com/ do the same thing with her arms using a normal blanket. You may be able to do it with the SwaddleMe but I?m not sure the flaps are long enough.
We ditched the paci at night around 4 months when M started crying every time it fell out of his mouth. We stopped swaddling so that he could use his hand to sooth himself. It sucked at the time, but I was glad that we did it and it was a non-issue when it came time to ferber.
If he has already rolled tummy to back a few times and you wait to feber until 5/6 months, he'll probably be able to roll over both ways by that time and it will be a non-issue.
If he's already starting to roll, by the time you start Ferber at 6 months, he'll probably be able to roll both directions. DD started sleeping on her tummy when we did Ferber because that was often the position she was in when she finally wore herself out. It became her sleep position of choice after that, and she'd roll over as soon as I put her down. Once they can roll, they're going to sleep however they want, so I wouldn't roll him back once you start Ferber. And he will fall asleep on his tummy, even if he doesn't like it now.
I would try to start weaning off the paci now if you're worried about it. I ditched it when we started Ferber, and I don't regret it. I don't think it made it any harder on her either. It's much easier to get rid of the pacifier at this age than it will be to break them of them habit when they're older. Just my 2 cents.