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WWYD: Regarding FB and MIL

stacylustacylu
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A few months ago, MIL and I were friends on FB but she was on my restricted list where she couldn't see my wall. All was well until she figured out that she was on some kind of restricted list, threw a hissy fit and unfriended me (and DH FWIW). There's nothing I'm hiding, I just don't want constant comments on stuff or her nosing into our life more than she already does. She and I do not get along - we're ok as long as we're not in the same room but if we spend any amount of time together it's not pleasant.

Today I got a friend request from her again. Oy vey.

So....

 

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Re: WWYD: Regarding FB and MIL

  • Seattle_JiLLnSeattle_JiLLn

    How did she know she was restricted?  I say add her back restricted.  She knows that's how you wanted it.  So keep it that way.  If she wants to come back to FB, she knows the score. 

    Did she ever ask why or anything?  I would just say that you like to post a lot of silly stuff, mostly among your girlfriends, and you decided to restrict things for more than just her, and that she shouldnt' be offended.  It's just how it is.

     

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    imageSeattle_JiLLn:

    How did she know she was restricted?  I say add her back restricted.  She knows that's how you wanted it.  So keep it that way.  If she wants to come back to FB, she knows the score. 

    Did she ever ask why or anything?  I would just say that you like to post a lot of silly stuff, mostly among your girlfriends, and you decided to restrict things for more than just her, and that she shouldnt' be offended.  It's just how it is.

    She asked DH why she couldn't see my wall. I think that he got tagged in one of my pictures and she couldn't respond on it... oops. 

    She never asked me anything about it. She asked him and I told him that a lot of people are on my restricted list (which is true). I'm not sure if he told her that or she just made her own assumptions. I talk to her as little as possible to avoid the drama.

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  • WatchPotWatchPot
    My dad is already on FB and responds to every.single.thing so I guess I would just let her on because I don't want the drama of it. 
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  • Seattle_JiLLnSeattle_JiLLn
    Put her on a list so she doesn't she your posts by default but every few days, do some boring post that you let everyone see. Shell just think you're boring.
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  • ZistaZista
    Now that they have groups, put her in the "family" group and your friends in the "friends" group. Then tell her that you have a family only access because there are some things not meant for the broader world. She'll feel honored to be part of the special group vs. "restricted."
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  • ChubbyCheekiesMomChubbyCheekiesMom
    Oh Stacy, we are two peas in a pod.  First our Christmas survey likings and now this.  I could have wrote this post word for word.  Same thing happened to me, and MIL refriended me.  I let her see my wall now, unfortunately I am careful what I post. You can make each status viewable by certain people though.  ((hugs)).  I let her back on, for the sake of T.  I don't want any family drama with is family.
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  • sommerraynesommerrayne
    I say don't add her only because I'm of the mindset lately that "if you treat me or my family poorly/disrespectfully without acknowledgement or appology for your crappy behavior - you don't get to participate in the good stuff either!"

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  • J-luJ-lu
    Make another acct that is just for family, you dont need to do much but update about kids/family things and photos once in a while Wink
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  • MrsEditorJaxMrsEditorJax
    I block everyone in DH's family except my SIL from my wall, and if they know, I don't care. I don't HAVE to share ANY information with anyone if I don't feel like it. I wouldn't even friend her again if I were you. The fact that she's creating drama over such a small thing suggests that she will just nitpick at you once she has access to your wall again -- or continue to think that she's not seeing EVERYTHING that she could be seeing and make a production over it.
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    imageZista:
    Now that they have groups, put her in the "family" group and your friends in the "friends" group. Then tell her that you have a family only access because there are some things not meant for the broader world. She'll feel honored to be part of the special group vs. "restricted."

    I think this is pretty clever. ;)   

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  • stacylustacylu

    There's not a setting where she can see what I post on my wall but not what others post is there? Like she could just see that I posted something and it would look like nobody responded. That's what I ultimately want...

    I think she only wants on my wall so that she can dredge up info on her sister and their family. They don't speak either but she's always very concerned what they're up to... 

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