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anyone who's husband are not home at night??!?

Gen & JoelGen & Joel
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OK so i love being with my husband and my son!! can't get enough of it. I only leave my son for 3 days while i work. we tried for years to get pregnant and have always been close, i've known my husband since i was born.

Anyway he recently got into the fire dept in our town and is doing his training and will start his position in Jan.  I'm happy for him because it's something he's wanted for a long time but am sad/scared because i don't want anything to happen to him. it makes me so nervous. And he will be working 24 hr shifts so he won't be here to help out as much.

? how do you guys handle this

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  • VampyAuthorVampyAuthor member
    My husband deploys for 6+ months at a time. Nights are the hardest, but I fill my days with enough activities to where once DD is asleep, I'm able to sleep too. If not, I take a hot bath, read a good book,watch a movie, anything that relaxes me.
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  • DEElicious18DEElicious18
    Not gonna lie... it's hard. SO is a police officer and works 12 hour rotating shifts. Sometimes it's nice to have some time to myself once DS is in bed. Sometimes it just sucks. After 3 days of a midnight shift, I'm ready for her to be home. For example, she's working all weekend and DS was just diagnosed with RSV. I'm completely on my own to deal with breathing treatments, no sleep, cranky baby, etc. I'm terrified, but I'll get through it. There's alot to be said about being happy in the job that you do. If your DH is happy in his job, you'll find a way to make it work. After all, absence does make the heart grow fonder... hang in there :)
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  • anabell0920anabell0920 member
    DH is AD Navy so he has duty nights and deployments ( which he is on now). You will surprise yourself with how strong you are and for us it makes you appreciate that time you do have together even more. It will take a bit to get into the swing of things but you will get your routine down don't worry.
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  • Gen & JoelGen & Joel

    imageDEElicious18:
    Not gonna lie... it's hard. SO is a police officer and works 12 hour rotating shifts. Sometimes it's nice to have some time to myself once DS is in bed. Sometimes it just sucks. After 3 days of a midnight shift, I'm ready for her to be home. For example, she's working all weekend and DS was just diagnosed with RSV. I'm completely on my own to deal with breathing treatments, no sleep, cranky baby, etc. I'm terrified, but I'll get through it. There's alot to be said about being happy in the job that you do. If your DH is happy in his job, you'll find a way to make it work. After all, absence does make the heart grow fonder... hang in there :)

     

    I know it will have to get better it's just i feel like when he's here and the baby goes down i'll relax a little then go to bed and rest. but the other night he wasen't here and i did it all on my own and when baby was sleeping i coulden't sleep i was just wide eyed, it was awful.

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    imageDEElicious18:
    Not gonna lie... it's hard. SO is a police officer and works 12 hour rotating shifts. Sometimes it's nice to have some time to myself once DS is in bed. Sometimes it just sucks. After 3 days of a midnight shift, I'm ready for her to be home. For example, she's working all weekend and DS was just diagnosed with RSV. I'm completely on my own to deal with breathing treatments, no sleep, cranky baby, etc. I'm terrified, but I'll get through it. There's alot to be said about being happy in the job that you do. If your DH is happy in his job, you'll find a way to make it work. After all, absence does make the heart grow fonder... hang in there :)

     

    I know it will have to get better it's just i feel like when he's here and the baby goes down i'll relax a little then go to bed and rest. but the other night he wasen't here and i did it all on my own and when baby was sleeping i coulden't sleep i was just wide eyed, it was awful. i know it could be alot worse because at least it's 24 hrs not months but i just need some good input!

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  • emily0829emily0829 member

    I got used to it, honestly.

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  • prego760prego760 member

    It could be worse he could be in the military and agone for months and years at a time.

    I got an alarm system. I went from living in a home full of people to being by myself a lot. Will he be on a Kelly Schedule? My husband was on a 24 hour Kelly Schedule. You will learn to love it. During shift bids you can look and see whether A B or C has the best holidays off and such. Plus sleeping sprawled across the whole bed is THE BEST! H is still gone W, Th F, and Sat nights and I get special time with DS and get to watch my TV shows and I just all around look forward to the ME time.

    Your little hands wrapped around my finger and its so quiet in the world tonight Your little eye lids flutter cause your dreamin so I tuck you in, turn on your favorite night light To you everything's funny, you've got nothing to regret I'd give all I have hunny, if you could stay like that Oh darling dont you ever grow up, dont you ever grow up, just stay this little Oh darling dont you ever grow up dont you ever grow up, it could stay this simple I wont let nobody hurt you, wont let no one break your heart, no one will desert you Just try to never grow up imageimage Pregnancy Ticker Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
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  • zoe021601zoe021601
    It is definitely hard. My SO is an over the road truck driver. He is only able to come home every other weekend, sometimes only one weekend a month. We also live about 350 miles away from everyone I know :( Nights are definitely the hardest for me, especially the ones that DD is teething and not sleeping. But you get through it! Just be thankful that you will still see him a few days a week. I would give anything to see my SO more often!
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  • VampyAuthorVampyAuthor member
    imageprego760:

    It could be worse he could be in the military and agone for months and years at a time.

    I got an alarm system. I went from living in a home full of people to being by myself a lot. Will he be on a Kelly Schedule? My husband was on a 24 hour Kelly Schedule. You will learn to love it. During shift bids you can look and see whether A B or C has the best holidays off and such. Plus sleeping sprawled across the whole bed is THE BEST! H is still gone W, Th F, and Sat nights and I get special time with DS and get to watch my TV shows and I just all around look forward to the ME time.

    I certainly wouldn't mind a over night schedule. Esp when I'll be sending H off this Jan until July-ish, maybe August.

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  • islandgirl79islandgirl79

    It takes some adjusting but you will learn to love your time alone as well.  I am by myself with DS pretty much from Friday through Monday.  I keep busy with family and friends.  If I sit at home I get sad.  

    When DS goes to bed I catch up on DVR shows, do house work, snuggle with my dog, and try to get to bed early so I am refreshed for the next day!  Enlist help if you can too- my parents always want some time with the babe so I take them up on it.

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