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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
I don't know how single moms do it...
I had to get Web and myself ready this morning on our own and I almost lost my mind. I was not prepared.
SMs should win an award every freaking day!
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Re: I don't know how single moms do it...
I'm a single mom (XH and I split when I was pg) so I have never had anyone there. You just do what you do. I don't know it any other way.
My trick is to get up way before DS and get myself completely ready. If he wakes up early and I have to get ready with him underfoot, it's never a good morning. Hence, I look craptastic today because he woke up at 5:15!
Yep! I wake up at 6:30 to get myself ready, hoping that my girls don't wake up. If they do - it's a pony tail day for me.
I want to know how you do bath time solo.
I swear the days H is out of town are the smoothest. lol I can get all 3 kids fed, dressed and out the door at 7:30 lickety split.
Props to single Moms because I am super tired when he gets home.
Crayola tub paint pens. Life freaking saver! I gather PJs, diapers and towels and put them in the hallway. I plop both girls in the tub, give them paints, and they sit and paint for about 5 minutes. Then I scrub down Audrey and wash her hair, then Natalie (who still fights like a wet cat when I was her hair). I take Natalie out after because she's still pissed about being wet, dry her off and dress her, and then get Audrey. I dress them in the hallway - but I'm using the hall bathroom, so I am actually sitting IN the bathroom, dressing the child OUT in the hallway. The tub paints keep them occupied enough to sit still and not try to stand or act crazy.
I'm not a single mom but DH leaves at 5:30 every morning. I get up when he leaves to get a shower and get myself completely ready and get all their stuff together so when they wake up between 6:30-7 all I have to do is get them dressed and fed.
ETA: P.S. - DarthNBJenni...you are a superwoman and I have the utmost respect for you.
Sweet, thanks! They have the crayons but not the paints.
Totally! My H was out of town for 4 days in August and it about killed me. (Didn't help that that was the week my boys decided to drop a nap ... and basically didn't nap at all that week. But anyhow.)
Ditto this.
Not sure if you were just talking to Darth since she has twins, but I just get everything ready and next to the bath before I bathe DS.
Seriously, single moms do deserve an award.
I'm ok with getting ready, getting out the door, and bath time with DD by myself every once in a while, but there's no way I could do it by myself every day. NO WAY.
And going in public? OMG, I don't know how you all handle it. I absolutely cannot go to a store with DD alone, especially if there is waiting involved (i.e. at the deli counter, at the checkout, etc). I don't know how you possible grocery shop. Or a restaurant? :::shudder:::
Seriously, you all deserve an award.
Well, I'm a firm believer that people just do what they have to do. You would be surprised what you are capable of when you don't have any other options.
I was watching Dr. Phil yesterday and they were talking about domestic abuse. There was a mother on there who was very concerned for her child's safety because of her violent X. She was stating that when you become a mother there is an instinct that kicks in to protect/do what's best for your child.
In my situation this is what happened, even though DS wasn't even born yet. It wasn't a safe situation for me to bring a child into, therefore I got out so I wouldn't subject him to it.
Anyways, sort of got off track there, my point was, we all don't know what we are made of until we are faced with adversity
I get the double cart that has steering wheels. We head to the bakery first. They get a cookie which lasts through most of the shopping trip. If need be, I break open a box of raisins. For mall shopping - suckers work wonders, lol.
I like that. While I'm not completely alone, A works 330-midnight, and I work from about 7-7ish (sometimes longer). I essentially have complete care of K during the week: her and I wake up at 545 and are out the door by 615 latest. After work, I pick her up from daycare, feed her, bathe her and put her to bed. Then I cook my dinner, get stuff ready for the next day and do it again. On the weekends, A usually sleeps until around 10 since he gets home late, so her and I will go and do the grocery shopping. I usually will pick up a box of rice or something and she will shake it the entire trip.