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Judgy Mommy Retractions - What are yours?
MrsRosie just posted a link to this article on her FB page. It's about the I'd never's you used to have about parenting that now that you have a child, you have to totally eat those words.
I know we've had posts like this before, but I'm just curious. What are your big mommy retractions?
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Re: Judgy Mommy Retractions - What are yours?
Pre-baby I proudly proclaimed that I would never let my child habitually sleep in our bed.
bwahahaha
I never expected to lean so far to the AP-side and have a baby that would bedshare her whole first year. But I loved that time with her, and will definitely do it again with the next one.
ETA: PS, I just read the article and giggled at the character clothing after our discussion here last week, and at the "gateway gun" comment.
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That I would never do any form of CIO. We caved at 9 1/2 months.
That I would not get an epi.
Little girls with messy hair: I spend so much time doing and re-doing Caroline's hair only for her to mess it up
That's all I can think of now..I'm sure I'll have more later.
ETA: I'll add: no fast food, snotty noses, and TV time.
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Snotty noses. I used to think they were disgusting and neglectful.
Now, I wait 'til it looks like she might actually taste snot before wiping.
And crusty boogers? Hey, at least it's not running down her face.
Mine was about SUV's. I hated SUV's and didn't see why everyone in the world needed such a huge car. I still don't own one, but I can now see why lots of people do. That especially hit home when I realized I was not going to be able to keep the boys rear-facing in my Subaru once they graduated to convertible car seats. The back seat wasn't big enough unless we pushed the front seats waaaaay up, and with our long legs, that wasn't happening. So I apologize, SUV-driving moms.
*ETA: "gateway gun" hehehe. But, yeah, I still nix the water gun idea DH keeps proposing. For several reasons.
LOL, great minds think alike!
That people should nurse their baby under a blanket. That one can teach or condition their baby to cooperate in doing so. LMFAO! Neither of my kids, no matter how hard I freaking tried would nurse under ANYTHING. From a young age, both would bat down anything.
This is me exactly. I never thought I would have an AP approach. However, when DD was born and instinct kicked in, AP is what came out. I never once second guessed the instinct and just went with it. As a result, although I swore I would never bed-share, I did... and still do. My soon to be three year old sleeps happily in bed with me every night. I ask her if she wants to sleep in her big girl bed every night and she says, "I want to sleep in my mommy's bed. I love you mommy. I miss you all day long." How can you kick someone that sweet out of your bed?
So, I'll wait until she's ready. Surely she won't still be sleeping in my bed at 16.
I can't really remember saying many "I'll nevers". The only one that comes to mind is no bed-sharing, and we never did it. Not because I don't agree with it, it's just makes me uncomfortable. When he was an infant he did nap on our bed a few times, but I was wake and in the room or laying right beside him.
We'll have to bedshare at my mom's house now because he can climb out of the crib that's set up in my old room, but to me it really doesn't count now that he's almost 2. I would still rather have him in his own bed, but he would fall far if he fell out of the crib at her house.
That I would never have DD sleep in my bed with me. Yeah right. Most nights when DH is at work, us girls share the king size bed. Many times it is the only way she'll actually sleep for a decent stretch and I'll take what I can get!
Babies and kids screaming/crying in public. I used to think why can't you get your kid to STFU... and now I totally understand! DD was crying so hard at Target yesterday because it was time to nurse, but I needed to check out first before I could go sit at the cafe in the store.
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barney. swore I'd never and then did 3 times.
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I don't remember any specific "I will never" that I said before I had DS, but I used to give some major side eye to:
1) Parents who got snappy with their kids in public. --- DS is totally perfecting his button pushing skills. I do my best to keep my cool, but there have been a few times when I just lost it. I was relieved to see at the Fall Festival that I'm not the only one (a mom behind me in the World's Longest Potty line had told her 7 year old to stand in line while mom chased wayward little brother. Big Sister followed and they lost their place. Mom declared, "I told you to stay put! Now we have to go to the back of the line!! I am so angry right now." All I could think of was, "Man, I have so been there!")
2) Parents who don't wipe snotty noses immediately --- you know, snot happens. I'm not always quick enough with a tissue to catch it. Yes, I've used my shirt to wipe the boogies. Yes, I'm used HIS shirt to catch the boogies. Yes, one time, I actually just caught them in my hands. (
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3) Parents who let their toddlers/preschoolers watch TV --- I thank the heavenly spirits everyday for "Sesame Street", "Word World", "Curious George" and the entire Noggin channel!
Snotty nose
Messy hair (those of you who have met H, or even seen pictures of her may now proceed to laugh your arse off)
Fast food
TV
Bedsharing (not so much an "I never", but definitely an "I prefer not to do this")
I swore I would never let my kid cry in public and I never understood how parents could let theirs. That lasted for about 2 entire weeks and then I learned how life really is.
I was in Khols a week ago and this woman had a baby and a toddler and the baby was crying (she was trying to console it) and the toddler was throwing a tantrum. I just gave her a look of "I understand and if I had a drink I'd give you one" I try and console Jack and try and do everything I can but sometimes he's just gotta cry till I can get to where I need to go.
Jakob was such a good sleeper and I didn't realize how good I had it. When people would tell me their 6 months old were still waking up at night, I thought they were doing something wrong. I think I even posted a few times, Just feed them more during the day! They don't need to eat at night!
Then God gave me Layna. Two years old and she still wakes up at night sometimes.
One perk of having your first baby when you're still too young to know any better....you don't have any expectations! None of my friends had kids, so I never saw other parents and thought anything of it. Its a lot easier when you aren't being surprised all the time
I always said that my DC would sleep in their own bed from the day we brought them home. We didn't even have a pnp. We did have a snuggle nest that we did not request but my dad just randomly bought. I loved that thing until DS outgrew it and then we finally caved and bought a pnp.
I always said no tv before 2 but DS started watching tv with DH when I went back to work after my 6 weeks of maternity leave. It was the only way DH was going to maintain his sanity in the am before he took DS to daycare nana.
I could write a book full of things that I thought I'd never do but those are the two big ones that I can think of off the top of my head.
the very first one on the list? I call the cat the boys' names, but haven't called the boys by the cats' names. That's a bonus for me.
and #5? that's why I get so many people telling me I have such well-behaved kids when we're out and about. It's all about the food, people.
I can honestly say that none of those on the list were my judgy thoughts pre-babies.
I have had to retract one and that is only b/c *I* am addicted--buying toys whenever we're out. I LOVE to buy the boys new things. LOVE it! Yeah, they have enough toys to start a new toy store in town, but shoot, I enjoy giving them these things. And since we have people giving us hand-me-down clothes, it's not like I'm buying them anything else besides food!
ETA: snotty noses though, I will always judge because EWWWW!!! I will promise to try to get that nose clean FOR you before judging though.
I just hate a snotty runny nose. Hate. It!
This.
And I don't get the frowning on eating in the store. I mean, as long as you pay for it, who cares?
ETA: My "I'll never" that I'm still sticking to--Wheelies. No child of mine will own a pair. Period. I hate them. And honestly, there's no need for 'em. Whine away. I can deal.
OH, I did think of one. I said I would never let my kid have a bink past the age of 12 months.
He's got one in his mouth right now and has it (ONLY) when he sleeps. I haven't been able to bring myself to take it away. He just loves it so much. It's too cute (not him having the bink itself, but how much he loves it).
But I SWEAR it's gone after our trip to IA!